The idea of maintaining a relationship with your ex, for a lot of people, is impossible. Too much has been said and done that can be hard to move on from. But when you share children, the necessity of building some kind of peaceful foundation with your ex-boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband is greater. For the sake of the kids involved, you don’t have to be best friends, but you should be as mature and civil as possible.
For Marlon Wayans and his ex-wife, Angelica Zackary, they’ve managed to keep a very tight, loving bond. This was evident in the heartwarming, almost tearjerker message he shared on social media recently for her in honor of her birthday.
“God is good to have blessed my life with you,” he wrote. “So sweet so real so smart. You made me two beautiful children and in spite of all my f–k ups you remain in my life as one of my best friends. Love bends and has not broken.”
Wayans thanked Zackary for her love and support over their many years together, for raising their kids Amai, 17, and Shawn, 15, and promised to always take care of her no matter what happens between them.
“I’m thankful for all the years we spent together but I’m more thankful for this beautiful friendship and this weird obtuse beautiful family that we have,” he said. “When your daddy passed i rubbed his chest looked him in the eye and whispered in his ear “i got you”. He passed me his most prized possession to care for. And with honor and pride i do it. As long as I’m on this earth “i got you”. This relationship has taught me that it’s not about sex it’s just about LOVE. The unconditional, the acceptance. Finding a pocket where you can feel safe protected and love someone freely. I’m blessed to have you in all these shapes of water. Have a happy birthday baby. I hope you smile all your life. My ex wife, my children’s mother, my sister, my friend, my family… i just love you girl.”
It’s clear this bond has stayed strong despite the ups and downs of a romantic relationship that started in the ’90s, became official in 2005 and ended a few years ago. And this, despite Wayans also publicly cheating on her after getting caught on a yacht with another woman a few years ago. The comedian told The Breakfast Club in 2016 that to his surprise, she didn’t have the response he expected.
“For you to love somebody through that and you look at your family and you go, ‘You know what? I love you and it’s not about that. We make mistakes in life.’ That’s a good…solid woman,” he said.
His relationship with Zackary also seems to be the motivation behind his hit NBC comedy, Marlon. The show is about a divorced couple trying to stay friends for the sake of their kids. As he told Entertainment Tonight, they take their friendship very seriously.
“We go to dinner, we go to the movies, we hang out, we laugh,” he said. “Now, she won’t give me none, but that’s OK.”