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Financial New Year’s Resolutions Every Woman Should Make

January 5th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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Looking to change your financial situation this year? Make these fiscal New Year’s resolutions to put yourself on the right path in 2016.

10 New Year’s Work Resolutions

January 1st, 2016 - By M A
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With 2016 just around the corner, it’s time to take stock of the things that are truly important for the year ahead. And while we’ll all have resolutions to get in shape, cut back on our vices and perhaps improve relationships with those around us, let’s not forget about resolutions to step up your career game. Sure it may not seem as fun as getting a gym membership and sweating off the holiday weight, but we guarantee it’s just as valuable. So let us help you by suggesting 10 work-related resolutions that every career-oriented person should add to their to-do list in 2016.

It Might Be Time To Let Go Of My New Year’s Underwear Tradition

December 30th, 2015 - By Tracey Lloyd
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I’m stressed out about underwear. To be specific, I’m stressed out about the color of my underwear. And not just any underwear, my New Year’s Eve underwear.

It’s a Latin New Year’s tradition — or superstition, depending on how you think of it — to match the color of your skivvies to the thing you desire in the coming year. Yellow for prosperity, white for happiness, blue for wellbeing and so forth. Since I began observing this tradition, I’ve always chosen new red or pink dainties to bring love and/or passion to my life.

The one year I wore a bright red bra and panty set, within months I’d begun a passionate love affair. Now I’m convinced that there is power in the red panties and have chosen to wear the shade again for my New Year’s underwear. Which brings me to my predicament.

My money is a little funny right now (which probably means I should focus on yellow knickers) and I hadn’t planned for any new clothes for another month. Least of all a set of New Year’s underwear that, according to my past behavior, will only be worn once. I wondered if I could recycle the good karma from the red set that I already had, but one of my Latin girlfriends assured me that they must always be new and that she would spot me a bikini. Very nice of her, but I declined.

Now, I’m stressed out about finding a set of red underthings in my size and at my price point before Thursday. I believe that my chances for love in the new year will be summarily thwarted if I don’t accomplish this quest successfully. And that stresses me out for many reasons, not the least of which is the guy I’m seeing with whom I’d like to kick things up a notch.

You might be thinking, hey this is a superstition, why take it so seriously? In my bipolar mind, it’s not really about underwear but rather about setting my choices for the coming year. I worry a lot about choices, mostly because I can’t make them very well when I’m becoming depressed. I also worry a lot about making the wrong choice and ruining my life. That’s a factor in my bipolar too, catastrophizing little molehills into insurmountable mountains. Like when I think that not being able to get the right underwear will ruin my chances at love forever, therefore finding it must become the most important thing I will do this week.

Looking forward into the future is likely a difficult proposition for everyone, but more so for those of us with a mental illness. What could be something fun like New Year’s Eve could turn into a needlessly stressful obsession over the right color brassiere. I know I’ve spent too much time over the last few days thinking about New Year’s Eve superstitions. I should probably spend my last few moments of this year planning how to be a more prolific writer or how to keep my bipolar in better control. And I will do those things. It’s just that if I do them on December 31, I’ll be wearing red underwear.

Tracey Lloyd lives in Harlem, where she fights her cat for access to the keyboard. You can find more of her experiences living with bipolar disorder on her personal blog, My Polar Opposite.

They Do What Now? Unbelievably Unique New Year’s Traditions From Around The World

January 2nd, 2015 - By Meg Butler
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What did you do this New Year’s? Unless you threw couches from the window or wore special underwear, we’re willing to bet it’s nothing like these New Year’s Traditions from around the world.

What to Wear For New Year’s Eve: 5 Inspirational Looks At The 11th Hour

December 31st, 2014 - By Rich
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New Year’s Eve can easily be the most planned yet unpredictable night of the year. Either you plan an epic night or you just sort of go with the flow and see where the night takes you. Some of my most memorable nights are the ones that are unplanned and free flowing. No agenda. Just fun. I’ve ended up in the most random places in the city. Going from a Hollis, Queens, house party to champagne and art on the upper East Side, with a few stops in between, in one night, is no stranger to many city flexers.

Having a great arsenal of high style and confidence only enhances those nights.

The same can be applied for New Year’s Eve. Be spontaneous. Be Free. Have Fun.

Here’s some last minute inspiration for the final night of 2014.

What to Wear For New Year’s Eve: 5 Inspirational Looks At The 11th Hour

Tried And Tested Hangover Cures To Get You Through Tomorrow

December 31st, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Sometimes having a happy New Year comes with not-so-happy consequences. There are no instant hangover cures, but stick to these tricks and you can battle most of your symptoms until you’re body’s feeling better.

Do You Know Which Of These Drinking Myths Are True?

December 31st, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Before you head out for your New Year’s libations, be sure you know the truth behind these common drinking myths.

Last Minute NYE Looks: Glitter, Sparkle, Shine One Last Time

December 30th, 2014 - By Rich
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Christmas has come and gone and we’ve had the weekend to count our blessings, laze about in our PJ’s and decompress. But now it’s time to break out the sequined everything because, New Year’s Eve, arguably one of the most anticipated nights of the year, is upon us! Part of the fun of the holiday season is all the many reasons to dress up and this might just be one of our favorites.

We’ve spent all year working hard to look our best, and this night is the culmination of all the things we’ve put together. It is both the most celebrated and often overrated nights of the year. Women spend months planning the perfect evening, be it with girlfriends or a significant other, and then spend the same amount of time styling the perfect look to make sure theirs is a night to remember. And while we don’t know what you’ve got up your sleeves to bring in 2015 and don’t put too much stock into having ‘the most perfect best night ever’ ourselves, one thing we know for certain is that we’d like to ring in the new year looking our best. Because even if the first few minutes of 2015 aren’t absolutely perfect at least we know our outfit is on point!

NYE Looks: Glitter, Sparkle, Shine One Last Time

Set It Off: Throw an Epic Vision Board Party

December 29th, 2014 - By Rich
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We’ve made it past Christmas and now our focus is set on getting our homes and lives in order for the new y ear. Cleaning, and purging are in high gear along with setting goals for the new year. At one point in time it was all about New Year resolutions, now those resolutions have been replaced with newer more relevant terms and activities to help us define how and where we want to go in life.

Vision boards are the newer, more popular replacement for the worn out resolution. The idea that if we can look at our goals and dreams in picture form they are more likely to come true can be argued but from a personal perspective, I’ve seen many people place random and somewhat ridiculous items on their vision boards year to year only to see those magazine cutouts manifest themselves in true form. I’m a believer!

With the growing popularity of the vision board, many who have grown weary of the New Years Eve night life are trading in their cocktail dresses for intimate evenings in with their girls. Nothing like having a bunch of girl friends over with old magazines, scissors, glue a and a few cocktails sprinkled in with girl talk to usher in the new year.

If your circle wants to stay in consider throwing an impromptu vision board party to set the new year off right.

Here are 10 must have items you need to host an epic vision board party.

Balloons: No party is complete without balloons. Make them serve double duty, use them as décor during the party and when it is over have party attendees write one thing they wish to release in the new year on the balloon and let them go at the conclusion of the party

Crafting Supplies:  Magazines aren’t the only supplies needed to create a vision board.  Utilize glitter, stickers, stamps, markers and other decorative items. Let your creativity show.

Frames: If your party is a manageable size consider purchasing cost effective frames for your guests. Plain poster or foam board is unappealing. Offer your girls the ability to frame their vision board into a piece of art they can artfully display in their homes. You have to see it to believe it.

Signature Cocktail: Name the drink after one of your major goals. Who won’t drink to prosperity or success

Finger foods: We all know how it is when you are chatting, and sipping with the girls. It’s usually a nibble and tapas type of situation. Keep the eats light, easy and flowing

Table covering: Keep your table protected from glue, glitter and other casualties by employing a cute functional table cover. Brown paper rolls would serve the purpose and can be round at the dollar store. Draw on it to add a little fun and a decorative touch. Maybe even consider assigning seats and writing names on the paper to keep the conversations flowing.

Magazines: Of course you need them, lots of them. Ask your guests to bring a handful from home if they have any. The more the merrier

Favor Bags: If feasible consider heading to your local dollar store and purchase each guest their own personal glue, scissors and other items they will need for the evening and place them in a reusable bag or bin.

Party Hats and Noisemakers: It will be New Years Eve, have fun ringing in the New Year with some of the traditional items.

Camera or phone tripod: It’s always so hard to get everyone in the picture. Consider setting up a tripod and using the timer function on a camera or phone to make sure that everyone is able to be included in the photos from the evening.

Less Is More: My Only New Year’s Resolution For 2014

January 7th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From Essence 

It was 1:30 in the afternoon, a time when perfectly sane people are hard at work, but that only partially described me. I was wholly crazed and wild-eyed, tussling with pages and pages of research I’d compiled for a paper I was writing in my pursuit of a master’s degree in African-American studies. My professor was a short, stoic Ghanaian man—I could only recall seeing him smile once and even that was more of a grimace of politeness than genuine glee—and he made one thing clear: anybody who didn’t have the project on his desk by 4 p.m. could forget about getting any kind of grade, much less that desirable first letter of the alphabet.

He’d explained the details of the assignment a good three weeks before it was due and I’d jotted copious notes to reference when I was ready to get started. The latter proved much harder than the former. I piddled away those 21-odd days leading up to the big deadline doing only heavens knows what when I could’ve been working incrementally towards getting ‘er done and done thoughtfully, carefully and introspectively. That would’ve been too much like right.

Instead, I found myself pounding out the first marginally coherent thoughts that came to mind a day and a half beforehand in order to make page count. Later for impressing him with my grasp of information and personal insight. For a little more than 24 hours, I couldn’t sleep, I barely ate, I didn’t set foot in a shower and—I ain’t too ashamed to admit it—I wasn’t even thinking about swishing a brush around the inside of my mouth. Every minute was emblazoned with urgency and none could be spared for the sake of self-care and hygiene.

When I had finally scratched out something resembling a finished product, I burned up the highway in what I slept in, hair sprazzled around my head like cactus spines, and made it to his door at 3:48. He wasn’t even there.

I am a perfector of that most classic form of self-sabotage—procrastination. It’s been a cemented hurdle in my academic career before it crept up in my professional career, and it’s one of the few things that’s regularly made me curse my own fool self out. If tradition had its way this New Year’s Eve, I would’ve been sprawled across the living room floor with some colored Sharpies and a piece of white poster board, scrawling out a detailed list of goals to accomplish before it was time to perform the ritual again next December. That wasn’t the move for 2014.

Read more New Year’s resolutions at Essence.com