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It was 1:30 in the afternoon, a time when perfectly sane people are hard at work, but that only partially described me. I was wholly crazed and wild-eyed, tussling with pages and pages of research I’d compiled for a paper I was writing in my pursuit of a master’s degree in African-American studies. My professor was a short, stoic Ghanaian man—I could only recall seeing him smile once and even that was more of a grimace of politeness than genuine glee—and he made one thing clear: anybody who didn’t have the project on his desk by 4 p.m. could forget about getting any kind of grade, much less that desirable first letter of the alphabet.
He’d explained the details of the assignment a good three weeks before it was due and I’d jotted copious notes to reference when I was ready to get started. The latter proved much harder than the former. I piddled away those 21-odd days leading up to the big deadline doing only heavens knows what when I could’ve been working incrementally towards getting ‘er done and done thoughtfully, carefully and introspectively. That would’ve been too much like right.
Instead, I found myself pounding out the first marginally coherent thoughts that came to mind a day and a half beforehand in order to make page count. Later for impressing him with my grasp of information and personal insight. For a little more than 24 hours, I couldn’t sleep, I barely ate, I didn’t set foot in a shower and—I ain’t too ashamed to admit it—I wasn’t even thinking about swishing a brush around the inside of my mouth. Every minute was emblazoned with urgency and none could be spared for the sake of self-care and hygiene.
When I had finally scratched out something resembling a finished product, I burned up the highway in what I slept in, hair sprazzled around my head like cactus spines, and made it to his door at 3:48. He wasn’t even there.
I am a perfector of that most classic form of self-sabotage—procrastination. It’s been a cemented hurdle in my academic career before it crept up in my professional career, and it’s one of the few things that’s regularly made me curse my own fool self out. If tradition had its way this New Year’s Eve, I would’ve been sprawled across the living room floor with some colored Sharpies and a piece of white poster board, scrawling out a detailed list of goals to accomplish before it was time to perform the ritual again next December. That wasn’t the move for 2014.
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In all honesty, while we’re just now learning about the child Dwyane Wade fathered while he and Gabrielle were on break, we’re sure it was something she knew about months ago. And perhaps she’s had the chance to swallow that bitter pill and move on with her relationship. Clearly, if she accepted the rock.
So perhaps it should come as no surprise that the two wanted to bring in 2014 on a different note. In a different country. Dwyane and Gabrielle rang in the New Year in the western Bahamian Island, Bimini with friends AJ Johnson, Udonis & Faith Halsem and Chris and Adrienne Bosh.
Had the past week’s news cycle not been like it was, we would have written these photos and D. Wade’s accompanying caption off as just a newly engaged couple celebrating their New Year and upcoming nuptials. But now we’re reading into every little thing. Sad. Check out the photos from their vacation and D Wade’s telling caption on the following pages.
My own limited research has shown me that women tend to take texting far more seriously than men do. We’ll agonize over word choice, the intention behind our tone, how the recipient might perceive our tone and even where to place punctuation. I know I could be exposing my own neuroses, but I’d bet good money that I’m not alone. In fact, I’m guessing that quite a few of you are starting to get a little anxious right now, debating about whether or not you should send a “Happy New Year” text to your ex. It’s a loaded question right? Well, when in doubt my momma always told me to make a pros and cons list. So check out the reasons why you should and should not text your ex.
You wouldn’t mind reconnecting
If you feel like homeboy might be the one that got away, by all means go ahead and reach out. Striking up a conversation with a man from the past and the fear of rejection can sometimes make you nervous but holidays have a way of softening people. This would be the perfect time to put your feelers out there. If you’re lucky his response will shed some light on whether or not he’s still interested.
You’re truly over it and you want to be friends now
If you know that you know that you know you’re over your ex romantically and would like to keep that person as a friend, then by all means go ahead and wish him a Happy New Year. But don’t be surprised if he interprets your reaching out to mean something else. Which brings me to my next point…
You know how to say no
The Happy New Year text opens up some floodgates. And you have to really know what you hope to gain from this exchange before the waters come rushing in. So, if you just meant to be friendly and he’s asking you what you’re wearing right now, you have to know, beforehand, that you’re strong enough to shut the flirting down…immediately. If even a tiny part of you entertains telling him what color your panties are, then you probably aren’t over him. And shouldn’t text. If, on the other hand, you’re confident in your shut down skills, text away.
You genuinely want to wish that person good luck and good fortune in the new year
If you’re still cool with this person and you know 2013 was a rough year for him or her, there’s nothing wrong with letting that person know you care about their happiness and are hoping things start looking up.
The holidays are here and of course we love the food that comes along with it. Sure most Americans are all about turkey and ham for Christmas, but we’re shouting out the traditional holiday food within the African diaspora that we can’t get enough of.
Guyanese Pepper Pot, Garlic Pork and Plait Bread
This treat derived from Guyana’s Arawak (Amerindian) culture. Pepperpot is the national dish for Guyana and is usually served during the Christmas season along with plait bread, which looks like a lock of braided hair. Pepperpot is a meat stew made with casreep (a dark sauce made from cassava root). Garlic pork is a dish that was brought to Guyana from their Portuguese settlers. The pork is pickled and then deep fried. It is usually served with plait bread, as well.
I don’t know why I’m as excited for Kandi’s engagement as I would be one of my close friends but after the heartbreak one of my favorite “Real Housewives of Atlanta” girls has gone through, I’m happy to see her so happy — and newly blinged out.
We told you a couple of days ago that the singer-songwriter got engaged to her line producer boo thang, Todd Tucker, on New Year’s Eve, and the couple just did a spread for US Magazine showing off the new jewel Miss Bedroom Kandi is now rocking on her ring finger. The two-carat white diamond engagement ring was designed by Gregg Ruth and definitely looks good on Kandi, who can now use that hand to wave goodbye to the “forever single club” she thought she was apart of. And the best part of it all is Kandi’s 10-year-old daughter, Riley, gave Todd her blessing before he proposed at 1:30 am New Year’s Day. We’ll have to see how she feels when Kandi and Todd start popping out those babies in a couple years.
New Year’s engagement news isn’t quite over yet. We already told you one Atlanta housewife got engaged over the holidays but it turns out there was another proposal on the ‘Real Housewives of Atlanta” set. US Weekly just broke the news that Kandi Burruss and her boo of one year, line producer, Todd Tucker, are getting married!
Tucker, 39, popped the question on New Year’s Day, during a New Year’s celebration with friends at the couple’s home in Atlanta. (Among the party guests was fellow Atlanta Housewife Phaedra Parks, who’s currently expecting her second child with husband Apollo Nida.) After talking it over with Burruss’ daughter, 10-year-old Riley — who gave him her blessing — he got down on one knee and proposed to his love of more than a year with a two-carat diamond sparkler by Gregg Ruth.
The singer-songwriter, 36 — who has been engaged once before, to the late Ashley “A.J.” Jewell — was floored. “I was totally surprised,” she tells Us of the romantic proposal, adding that she even shed a few happy tears.
Awww! The couple reportedly already has a couple of dates in mind for the big day and is muddling over a few details like whether they will air their special ceremony for the world to see. As we all know, Kandi has had a rocky love life. Toward the end of 2008, she starting dating Ashley Jewel, whom she later became engaged to in January 2009. Sadly, on October 22 of that same year he past away from head injuries he sustained during a fight. Speaking on her struggle to find the man to finally settle down with, Kandi told US:
“I used to make jokes with my friends that I [was] part of the Forever Single Club.”
Now that she’s changed her mind about that, she’s also removing herself from the I don’t want anymore kids club, saying:
“That’s what I said before, but now I’m totally different.”
Congrats to one of our favorite housewives!
With New Year’s still fresh in our minds, self-improvement is important to everyone. But, it’s easy to be dedicated in January. The true test is honoring those resolutions for 365 days. That’s 52 weeks of discipline! Dropping the cash to lock yourself into a year-long commitment and making good habits a part of your daily routine are two easy ways to preserve that “new you” you told all of social media would debut in 2013. Here are nine ideas, some for free and others with a cost incentive, to keep you on track.
It’s a new dawn, a new day, a new life, and a new year. We hope you’re all feeling good! Happy New Year ladies!
We officially ring in the New Year with glasses of champagne, big parties, and perhaps a little naughty behavior. But tomorrow is only January 1. You can’t keep up the party for days on end (unless you can, in which case, invite us and we’ll swing by). But we think the early days of the year should be celebrated as well. After all, the way you bring in the year is the way you’ll spend it.
So we have nine low-cost, fun, yet relaxed ways that you can continue to welcome 2013. These options will clear the mind, bring on the good feelings, and bring the holidays to an end in a great way.
Looking for a little more to add to your holiday plans besides the normal tree trimming, stocking stuffing, and gift giving festivities? With a little planning and a just few dollars, you can experience the holidays in many different ways.
So, put away your wallet, pull out your planner, and gather your friends and family, because with these nine cost-effective holiday plans, you’ll be celebrating the season without breaking the bank.
Potluck Dinner/Cocktail Party
Nothing says the holidays more than the extra pounds you gain from eating grandma’s favorite Christmas sides. Spare grandma the extra man hours of cooking for the entire family. Gather her and a few friends for a Christmas potluck-style dinner and cocktail party. Not only is a potluck gathering cost-effective for everyone, but it brings a little variety (and maybe even a little competition!) to the dinner table.
Ask guests to cook their best dish (make sure no one doubles up) and have one designated person to serve as bartender. Grandma would be more than happy about saving her time and money this year!