Marjorie Harvey Admits Steve Pulled A Disappearing Act On Her While They Dated

January 10, 2014  |  

Essence

As we get off of our holiday high from eating great food and spending time with family, we’re starting to prepare to celebrate love in a few weeks. Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to take inventory of your relationship, as well as ask couples who have longevity how they sustain their union. For their February issue, Essence Magazine did just that, featuring comedian turned author, turned relationship expert, turned talk show host Steve Harvey and his wife Marjorie on their cover.

Those who grew up in the ‘90s have watched Steve Harvey’s somewhat transition effortlessly transition into the man of many talents that we see today. When asked what the secret to his success was, he told Essence:

“Everything I have is because of this girl right here.”

Marjorie Harvey, who has been Steve’s wife for seven years, actually met him in 1990 at a Memphis comedy club. Although he didn’t know her, Harvey announced to Marjorie while she sat in the audience, “I don’t know who you are but I’m going to marry you.” The two began dating shortly after and Marjorie in fact felt the same about her husband Steve — that he was indeed “The One.” Interestingly enough, Steve pulled a disappearing act on Marjorie.

Fifteen years later in 2005, the two reconnected. Steve stated he disappeared because he was not in a good place financially and needed to work on his career. “Before a man can be of use to a woman…he’s got to know who he is, what he does and how much he’s going to make.” Steve continued, sharing:

“Every great man has a woman… I didn’t say successful man, I said great man. Yeah, maybe you’re successful if you sign a $16 million NBA contract. But greatness is when you’re the husband and father you’re supposed to be. When everyone surrounding you looks up to you, depends on you, and you come through for them. That’s greatness. Do you think Dr. Martin Luther King was anything without Coretta? You take Michelle out of Barack Obama’s equation, and he is a whole other dude out there.”

The February issue of Essence Magazine lands on newsstands, January 10. What do you think of The Harvey’s marriage and Steve’s comments?

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  • Gert

    Okay, for those who think you are hurting my feelings because you don’t like my comment…I hope not. SMH! If you don’t agree with my point, that is fine…your opinion belongs to you and no one can take that from you. I do wish grown women can learn to have a conversation and voice their views, concerns and opinions in a matter that is not so unbecoming and disrespectful. Let’s make something real clear, I don’t condone bad behavior…especially from Grown men who clearly know better. What people fail to realize is when you don’t forgive, it doesn’t affect that person…you are the one caring that burden spirit it your life and it causes you not to move on. His wife needs to seek God for forgiveness, that does not mean forget or like that person. But the anger that she is carrying is causing her not to be able to move on, have a positive and productive life and be there emotionally for her son. It is for her not for Steve.We just spoke on this yesterday in Church, she is not the first and won’t be the last women to get cheated on and abused. At some point you have to move on…it has been almost 8 years and she is still fighting a losing battle. It is damaging her life not Steve’s…When a good man does come along, she won’t be able to have what is in front of her cause she still holding on to garbage.

  • GymJunkie43

    I applaud Steve for his honesty. He has admitted to not being a good husband in the past. There is something very beautiful about a black man who adores his black wife. It’s rare to see that.

  • demi

    Men just don’t get it. I really don’t think most men know how their actions affect the women who are in love with them, how much it changes who they are and react to other potential mates.. You need to Get It.

  • sha

    To all the commenters – WE are something else. Crabs in the barrel ready to tear down the one ahead of them!! She could have been a side chick of drug dealers and he could have been a bad husband to his first wife/wives/girlfriends. What has that got to do with who they are today and the successful relationship they have built with each other and the story that got them there that could help someone else? It is not required to know all the sordid details of their union if it doesn’t help add to a message they are trying to convey. OH that’s right we dont take advice from that girlfriend without a man or the guy friend with 3 side chicks because we need advice and knowledge to come from someone blemished free, like GOD. Oh but we dont listen to him either! WE are truly something else!!! SMH and finger at all of ya’ll!! Stop it!

  • Kenesha Williams

    It’s funny that when he met her he was married to his first wife and then married his second wife in that time. His first wife had a child in ’91 by him and then he was on to his next wife. He was married to Mary Lee Shackelford from 1996 to 2005, and to Marcia Harvey from 1980 to 1994. Will there be a #4? And what’s with all the M names?

    • Dorothy Manns

      Mar names LOL

  • Honeybee60

    Who cares about Steve Harvey! He will cheat on this one too!

  • tiggert123

    My question is, was he married to his ex-wife at the time when he Marjorie he was going to marry her.

    • tiggert123

      My question is, was he married to his ex-wife at the time he told Marjorie he was going to marry her. I also watched a interview with Steve Harvey on TD Jakes talk show. He stated that his son had a problem calling Marjorie mom. I agree with the son what ever happened between his mother and father has nothing to do with him. He still has a mother, and I don’t believe he should be calling his step-mother Mom. just stating an opinion.

  • The2ndMrs.W

    Go Steve…My HUSBAND and I love your show. Some of your advice provides real character building information. No one is perfect. Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future. I applaud you for publicly giving credit to your Wife.

  • smh

    I just can’t get on board with holding this dude up …

  • Kay

    I believe Majorie is a bought woman.. I heard the stories of her drug dealer husband who she in jail, and up and moved… she probably kept in contact with Steve, but she bounced from one baller to the next. but he believes she is his queen, so be it.. I believe Steve. He admits he was a dogg and didnt know how to be a good husband with his ex, he never denies his doings.. he just trys to tell younger dudes if you have a good woman make sure your ready to be the man she needs.. Respect Steve

  • Sharnanda

    I used to live in Memphis. Marjorie Bridges does not have a good reputation there. She had to drop out of college because she was ‘well known’. Marjorie was married to two of the most gangsta drug dealers in Memphis. When her 2nd husband got life, she had a friend that was still cool with Steve and had dude call him to help her and her 3 kids out. Steve took her out of Memphis to save her from the people out for her husband.

  • travie andrews

    I’ve watched Steve for years. I like his radio show and his talk show. There is no relationship that comes without struggle. There is no person born that doesn’t have to find thier way. Steve is no different. Whatever his past troubles were with his exes are just that…past tense. We learn from the past and move forward. If he and Marjorie are happy, great! I don’t know anything first hand about either of them but from what I can see in the media, they are a good couple.

  • susan

    Um seeing as he was married to his first wife Marcia, I would hope he dropped out of the picture to be a man to her. But seeing as he divorced her and married his second wife Mary, I would have thought he would have forgotten about Marjorie to be a good albeit “great” man for her and their kids. But alas, that didn’t happen either. I am not knocking him for his outlook, I am however knocking him for trying to package it in a nice bow

  • shaine

    Obviously he was not the man he should’ve have been when he was with his previous wife and had to become a better one with her. People are going to talk about him and he’s is still going to be happy and successful.

  • CaramelDream

    There was a whole lot left out . . . if he is such a great man, then why didn’t he an his ex-wife split on better terms?

    • Gert

      His ex-wife clearly has mental issues, he left her. She didn’t leave him. His 1st wife though, they did separate on descent terms and still get along to this day. I think people mature with time, experience and age. So it doesn’t surprise me, that this marriage works for them. They had already been through the bumps in life. I’m sure if they actually did get married back in 1990…this would be a whole different piece. Everyone has room for change and growth.

      • travie andrews

        Thank you for this unbiased comment. I agree wholeheartedly. Besides how long is he supposed to keep rehashing the struggle with his ex…LET HIM LIVE!

        • Gert

          Right, from what I have read both of them had a past that was filled with mess, but at some point in your life most folk get tired and just want to be at peace and have peace in their homes. From the look of it, that is where both of them are right now…As long as you have breath you have room for redemption. Maybe they found their redemption in each other.

      • Nn

        His actions cause her break down. He was actually cheating with this current wife while the first wife was holding him down while he got his career on track then once he made it that’s when he left the first wife. This article of them is not even worth reading. They can’t give advise when they are dogs themselves

        • Gert

          That was not his first wife but his 2nd. He was already established when he married hiw. 2nd wife. This is his 3rd marriage. Furthetmore i am not on here to be a go Steve Harvey. All I was saying is that everyone has room for improvement and everyone has the ability to redeam themselves. Steve has made it quite clear that he was not alway a good husband..but you cant take away from someones change progression and current good because ypu dont agree with their past. We have all made mistakes and we all have the ability to be forgiven.

      • Sandra

        No ma’am, his ex wife put him out because he was cheating with Marjorie whom didn’t want him when he was broke back in the 90’s when his ex wife was grooming him for the greatness he now has. She does not have a mental problem. She has a story but a gag order is keeping her from it. Steve Harvey is rich and dirty and the ex is not. Marjorie will be his undoing because she is a goldigger and home wrecker and not the saint he paints her out to be. Time will tell for this so-called guru. What goes around comes back around two-fold.

        • guest

          Preach!!! I hate when folks like Gert think that because folks found “redemption”. the wronged parties are supposed to just forgive them with a cumbiya (probably spelled that wrong)moment. Who cares? He still did her dirty and it is up to her to forgive. It is not a right but a privilege.

      • PBY401

        Mental issue? Considering what she’s been through, I think she’s remarkably sane. If anyone has mental problems it’s Steve. His huge ego will cause his undoing. It’s just a matter of time.

  • Me+One

    I’m not a fan of Steve Harvey nor do I take him seriously on giving relationship advice. His comments make it seem as if he was off “working on himself” in the time that he was not with Marjorie and as if his “being a great man” had nothing to do with his ex-wife or his time with her. Le sigh, I digress. The issue is about love and as such, his current love, who is Marjorie; so there is no need to dig into or dwell on his past love. Best wishes to the two and hopefully this is the relationship that endures for him.

    • mary

      Totally agree and that gap in the relationship can also be because she was a ‘hustle bunny’ and has a history of marrying drug dealers…. my friends and FAM in Memphis know allllllll about her and her shenanigans! She is no angel Steve! Neither are u! Stop painting this perfect picture of your marriage. He can say what he wants because he knows his ex wife has a gag order and cannot refute his statements!

      • Me+One

        Well, I get the mag for free, so I will definitely read the article and see what they each have to say. I don’t know anything about Marjorie so it’ll be interesting to read her perspective in it all.

        • Guest

          Yeah I will have to read it myself. His wife has never been real vocal in regards to their relationship so it will be an interesting read. He seems to do all the talking, lol! Now that I am suspect about!

        • unque43

          What I want to know is why we are so into other people business. If any of us had been in the same situation, I am sure we would want people to stay out of our business. The people fell in love and that’s it. The ex wife seems to be having a hard time letting go. I would never want anyone to remain in a relationship where they are not happy.

          • bigdede

            It’s not that people are in their business, they are the ones who put it out there. I don’t see paps stalking Steve Harvey. Steve puts his business out there.

            • Bernice

              And…makes money doing so! So yeah, he keeps it out there for discussion.

              I agree with those that said his story line seems suspect. Not that I doubt everything he says, but when you have a past, make money giving advice about your life namely relationship, but the one that spent most of that time in one of the major relationships is gagged from correcting you. Especially when she obviously have something she wants to say. Yeah I’m suspect, because IF all you said was honest more than likely the ex would be cool with it after all this time. It’s like she’s literally gagged but dying to tell a truth as SHE knows it to be!!

          • Me+One

            It’s “celebrity news.” Anytime you’re in the public eye you’re going to be scrutinized. As long as they talk about it, make a comment, or share their lives with the world, SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE, is listening/watching and into their business. That’s the way it is and that’s what they have signed up for whether they wanted it or not.

          • princesspr

            Nothing annoyed me more when people say, “we should mind our own business!” I will tell you why me and others do not mind our own business. Because Steve and Marjorie made it MINE/OUR business by doing a PUBLIC interview talking about their love, relationship and marriage in a PUBLIC magazine. Now, when you take something private and make it public then you open yourself up to people thoughts and opinions. Maybe you do not understand this goes with the territory of being in the public eye.

            If you do want my thoughts and opinions DO NOT do an interview in a public magazine. This is why I do not mind my own business.

            Lastly, I totally agree with you when you find yourself in an unhappy marriage or relationship move on; but, do not stay in the relationship or marriage and see other people. Go away clean.

    • piscesgirl03

      My thoughts exactly! He completely beats around that entire bush called his ex-wife. smh

    • Read through what he’s saying to get to the truth. He’s saying she had requirements of him that he could not meet at the time. He got his ish together and stepped to her when he met those requirements.

      Happens all the time.

      • DoinMe

        Really? What requirements? Money? Being a schemer? She is the former wife of not one, but 2 drug dealers. Seems to me her only requirement is money. Steve Harvey is stupid.

        • How the heck would I know what HER requirements are? Just that she had some. Now if she was accustomed to living a certain lifestyle and he knew he couldn’t provide that yet. So he got his paper up and stepped to her when HE thought he was in a position to do so.

          Steve is dumb. I know nothing of her. But trust me men, even Steve Harvey’s, do this all the time. They see a woman who THEY value. If they don’t feel as though they are on her level they get their career, money, fitness in order THEN step to her. I know because this is how my husband was. He told me straight up in college he saw a future with me and he was going to make me his wife. Soon as he knew he was headed on the right path to being able to provide for me and had figured out where he was going in life he asked me to marry him.

          This is how men of value date. They have their fun but keep their eye on the prize so they can date and marry the women they value.

    • Nn

      I agree. I just can’t stomach this man anymore. I don’t watch any of his shows. What he took his ex wife through ( and still is) I just can’t look at him as a cool funny guy from the Steve Harvey from back in the day after hearing his ex wife side. One day he will really regret his actions.

      • PBY401

        Ditto.