#BlackPower IsFor BlackMen: A Necessary Discussion On Misogyny In The Black Community

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August 14, 2013 ‐ By
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We’re used to seeing women, mostly white women, get on Twitter and fight for feminism and against misogyny. But rarely, if ever, have we seen the black woman’s experience with misogyny within our own black community take center stage.

But that’s exactly what happened when #blackpowerisforblackmen started trending sometime on Tuesday. The discussion was spawned by trending topic #solidarityisforwhitewomen which dealt with the ways in which women of color are often forgotten or intentionally ignored in the world of feminism.

Shortly after that Jamilah Lemieux, Ebony’s Digital News and Life Editor, started an entirely new discussion about the ways in which black women are not only ostracized by white women but black men as well: #blackpowerisforblackmen.

The hash tag is not to be taken literally. Initially, black pride was probably meant to include black women. However misogynistic attitudes are not limited to white men. We all know they are as equally pervasive, if not more so, in the black community and black women have borne a lot of that burden. Lemieux was saying that the very same people who are promoting black equality and fighting towards the end of racism are those who oppress black women.

And because educated, black women run social media, particularly Twitter, the trending topic caught on and was trending nationally for a bit.

Check out some of the best tweets from this very necessary trending topic on the following pages.

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  • Candace

    BlackPower is full of double standards and BS. concerning black women. Sgt Willy Pete a misogynist creep who spreaded hate towards black women on youtube. He’s worse than any white supremacist! I flagged his sexist and racist behind.

    • Jeriel Patrick

      but I always thought that Black Power was about African women and men. When did it change. Just trying to get a clear picture here.

  • Just saying!!

    About time! I’ve always talked about this but people largely ignore the issue! Fights for black equality have always been geared towards black men and they’ve always made black women put their issues aside because they weren’t as important. I love my people but someone needed to bring this up! Although knowing what I know about black men, they won’t take too well to this, because they’ve become so used to playing the victim that victimizing someone else is impossible in their minds.

  • Lee

    To the chagrin of many Black men patriarchy has never worked in Black communities. It destroys Black men who then destroy Black women and girls. Growing up my father terrorized my mother even durng divorce proceedings. As a young boy I hated him for his ill treatment of my mother. Black women are right to oppose Black patriarchy. Support of Black male allies is needed. Black feminism is imperative for Black liberation.

    • 9Boots

      At the end of the day it all boils down to love they neighbor as you love yourself. None of us (whether black or white, male or female) exist to be treated like dirt. We are all here to be loved.

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  • ProfessorMegan

    Many of the males who have commented refuse to even entertain the idea that black women do indeed experience sexism at all, which is beyond ridiculous when you consider:

    - Music videos which portray black females as dehumanized hypersexual objects. (media is now the most pervasive socializing agent on the planet which in part is why your sons and daughters even as young as three imitate what they see on music videos)

    - The words bi-ch and hoe seem to be universal terms for black men to refer to black women even after she has had three partners and he has had 50 or even if she simply disagrees with his opinion in an online forum.

    - Some 60% of black women have been sexually abused usually by black males by the age of 18…enter the “no snitching” rule. Follow that up with telling her—the black female victim– that the sexual abuse that she experienced is her fault, and you have just begun a chain reaction of dysfunction.

    - I have yet to see the “black community” march in protest of a single instance of violence against a black female at the hands of a black male especially with the vigor and persistence demonstrated by this same “black community” when protesting a perceived injustice experienced by a black male at the hands of the criminal justice system…even though this man-child is probably guilty of what he is accused of.

    Black men: Many of you say that you want to be “the man” which is fine, but that title has to be earned and it’s earned by you engaging in behavior associated with being a man and a leader–PROTECT AND PROVIDE FOR YOUR OFFSPRING.

    Black women, yes you are a victim of misogyny and dehumanization by men who share a gene pool with you, however, you are partially to blame in many cases for being a single parent. (I saw this discussed many times in the comments). In any event, YOU chose him, YOU chose to sleep with him, and YOU chose to give birth to his child knowing full well that he is incapable of providing for your child both emotionally and financially. And then you expect my tax dollars to subsidize your poor choices. If this doesn’t apply to you, then you shouldn’t be offended.

    Black women:

    - You do not own black men; they have not been your men for a very long time as men collectively provide for and protect their women.

    - Refrain from listening to and thereby supporting music by sexist men like Lil Wayne and Jay-z. Men like this are a plague on the black community. The fruit that they produce (their music) says it all.

    - Avoid being sexist towards each other…there is no race of women in America who blame black rape victim’s for their own rapes like a black woman does (we already know black men do this) and usually to protect a black male. Want proof? Research child molester RKelly’s crimes and then just read the comments from both women and men. They are one in the same. You can actually look at any black on black rape and read the comments for further evidence.

    - Put YOUR needs first, as black men have no problem doing, and opt out of this TOXIC “black community” if this will suit you. Contrary to popular opinion, it is not your responsibility to keep the “black community” together…you are not a mule! And please please please remove yourself from this hot mess of supporting groups who do not support you. Examples include black males and white feminists, both of which have used you to support their causes and then refuse to reciprocate.

    Lastly, I don’t buy the new group “black power is for black men” being apologetic. It appears that this group of men have realized that they don’t have the same unyielding and often foolish support of black women who have tolerated their mistreatment and antics. Black women, you must fend for yourselves, which shouldn’t be too hard because historically you have always had to.

    Disclaimer: And of course, I generalized quite a bit as not all black females and males engage in the type of behavior described in my post.

  • 9Boots

    Since black men do not like black women they need to stop having sex with black women. It is funny how you say black women are the problem with the “I don’t need a man statement”. This statement came about from being abandoned over and over and over again by black men. It is a method of self defense, they say it because black men are practically never looking for a wife. Black men have been refusing to work, marry, and raise their children for 50 years now. They only look for sex and then turn around and blame black women for the results. They say to black women,
    it is your fault I don’t have a job,
    it’s your fault for having sex with us,
    it’s your fault for I impregnated you,
    it’s your fault I am abandoning my child,
    it is your fault that you and your children are poor,
    it is your fault the young boys turn into thugs,
    it’s your fault you have the highest female homicide rate
    it’s your fault you have the highest incidences of sexual abuse among women
    it is your fault I cant find a woman to marry but I will have sex with you though.
    Thus the cycle continues over and over again. Do you see how their desire to only have sex ruins the community? They do not want to be men that actually love. Since black men don’t want to be employed, husbands, and fathers they need to LEAVE BLACK WOMEN THE HELL ALONE and stop coming to them for SEX. They can’t have their cake and eat it too. ” For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed the evil thoughts, fornications, thefts, murders, adulteries, deeds of coveting and wickedness, as well as deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride and foolishness. All these evil things proceed from within and defile the man” Mark 7:21-23 Jesus Christ

    Black women move on from them A. You can’t change evil. Evil chooses to be evil.

    Don’t give them your bodies, your money, nor your energy for marches

    • Drew

      You need to go to the gym or something. My goodness…

    • Tony Williams

      I feel your anger bro. and i think its 50-50 alot of the issues this black women have is the EXPLOITATION of the black womans. body, love, heart, and womb. and im sorry black men. but black women are 100% correct. from the 70s, 80s, 90s, 2000s, we black men have totally taken black women for granted.And we are now in 2013 paying the backlash of that. WE AS BLACK MEN HAVE TO STAND UP AND OWN IT. its cool its like using a credit card to buy cars, clothes and homes. And then you get a bill for the money you have to pay back. ITS THE BIG PAY BACK. so we us blackmen dont need to yell back and be angry. we need to LISTEN, LEARN and CHANGE.

      • 9Boots

        LISTEN, LEARN, AND CHANGE! GOD BLESS YOU!! That somes it up. Please go educate your fellow black men

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  • http://www.greaterunderstanding.net/ Anthony Brian Logan

    and for real, this post is divide and conquer. its not about who needs more help black men or black women. we should operate as one people first then individuals second.

    • i cant believe this

      Not really. You just dont want to address the issue.

  • http://www.greaterunderstanding.net/ Anthony Brian Logan

    this post was mind-numbingly dumb. i want those five minutes of my life back. slavery is back in full effect in the prison systems of north america and there are more black men in prison than enslaved before the civil war. but we want to talk about superficial petty crap like standards of beauty? relationships?

  • Sheena B

    Your comment: case in point. No respect for anyone else who has a viewpoint that differs from their own. Reading comprehension is fundamental as well as developing a response that makes sense. The actions of todays “feminists” are not based on the original intent; thus, the beginning of my comment. Read your prior comments, along with others, and you will see the hatred for our black men as a collective and not the individuals who make it that way (READ: Generalizations). We as black women scream about generalizations and here you all are spewing the same venom. Again, we are a complicated and confused group at times. I am aware of the problem; my choice has been to not associate with those who perpetuate it. Wait, it would probably be my fault that it still exists because I choose not to deal with those who are the main factors… We scream about how horrible our black men are but whenever the few and the proud step up, we cry :independence” or “I don’t need a man” or some other emasculating term when he is trying to fill a necessary role. Double standards are killing our relationships.

    • 9Boots

      If black men think they are the true victims in this, then they need
      to stop having sex with black women. It is funny how you say black women are the problem with the “I don’t need a man statement”. This statement came about from being abandoned over and over and over again by black men. It is a method of self defense, they say it because black men are practically never looking for a wife. Black men have been refusing to work, marry, and raise their children for 50 years now. They only look for sex and then turn around and blame black women for the results. They say to black women, it your fault for having sex with us, it your fault for getting pregnant, it is your fault I am abandoning my child, it is your fault that you and your children are poor, it is your fault the young boys turn into thugs, it is your fault I cant find a woman to marry but I will have sex with you though. Thus the cycle continues over and over again. Do you see how their desire to only have sex ruins the community? They do not want to be men that actually love. Since black men don’t want to be employed, husbands, and fathers they need to leave black women the hell alone and stop coming to them for sex. They can’t have their cake and eat it too. ” For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed the evil thoughts, fornications, thefts, murders, adulteries, deeds of coveting and wickedness, as well as deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride and foolishness. All these evil things proceed from within and defile the man” Mark 7:21-23 Jesus Christ

      • Sheena B

        I get what you’re saying. I really do. However, I feel that my point is being missed and that they are being seen as blaming women. The phrase “I don’t need a man” came about when black women saw white women as feminist in its original form. When black women tried to put it into practice, they confused feminism for misandry. Black men saw black women doing this and left the scene. Then it turned into a phrase used because black men left their black families. Now, our women use it however they see fit. You have brought up sex repeatedly. I agree about sex before marriage. We have it totally backwards. The desire to have sex has nothing to do with race; that’s just men period. We as black women have bodies that are adored across color boundaries. Our curves are of no other race on Earth. Other races pay fortunes to look like us but don’t want to carry the burden of inner struggle and we don’t care. We let that happen by isolating ourselves from the world for the sake of a feminist lie that was fed to us by the confused years ago. If we are going to cry out, “It’s my body and you can’t tell me what to do with it” (mainly in reference to clothing, abortion, etc.) then do we not control who enters it? We as women have SO MUCH MORE POWER than we give ourselves credit for and refuse to use it; that is what feminism is about. Don’t get me wrong, Im not excusing the actions of those men who are the problem. My point is that we as a whole are not accepting responsibility for our actions. Also, feminism in biblical standards is not ok and is frowned upon. We also have to stop speaking hate and quoting scripture in the same breath.

  • Tortor

    As a white feminist- I’m like “FINALLY”. I think it’s necessary. Especially necessary to see that black men will stand with them-like they have on Twitter. Because that support is more important than the lackluster “support” from some feminists because feminism has disenfranchised black ladies and women of color in general.

  • Belinda

    This publication needs a better slideshow creator. Yours is CLUNKY and requires scrolling on every slide! #ANNOYING!!!

  • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

    I love it!

  • Tony Williams

    #blackpowerisforblack men, because black women can abort their babies anytime they want too,. they can be bad mothers and still keep their kids.they can use their kids as pons for child support. but if a black mand oesnt want to pay child support or cant, he goes to jail.but killing babies,being a bad mother = legal.

  • Tony Williams

    You know black women, if you really feellike black men are your #1 rapist, your #1 killer, , your #1 reason your self esteem is so low, the one #1 child rapist, #1 reason you dont have a good black husband. I AM CALLING YOUR BLUFF SO SOMETHING. bring up answers, and solutions that black men we can do to be better blackmento blackwomen? because all this LOUD NOISES AND YELLING and #blackpoweris for blackmen nonsense. means jack and jill. thats like going to a doctor and they telling you your sick. and not given you medicine.

    • 9Boots

      Once again another self deflecting misogynist turning to black women for guidance on how to be MEN but yet you always say the black women prevent us from being men they wont let us lead. Damn if you don’t no the answer to the damn problem you have no right to be called a man.

      • Tony Williams

        Man i respect black womens minds. my cousin is a doctor andshe got 4.0 GPA in college. all i am saying is, if black men are so bad,. then do something to stop this. if i knew there were bad guys waiting for me outside my door. with guns i would call 911 i would run out the back door. so what are blackwomen doing to keep themselves safe from black criminal men?

        • 9Boots

          Ladies note this “so what are blackwomen doing to keep themselves safe from black criminal men?”. See how they won’t even use one brain cell to think about how to help us. See how they won’t use one heart beat of theirs to get angry enough to make THEM WANT TO DO SOMETHING TO PROTECT US! Just the tired old ” whatchu gonna do” They are not men, men instinctively know to STAND UP & FIGHT FOR THEIR WOMEN!

          • Drew

            Respect.

  • iggy

    I for one will always try to support an uplift a black man as i know how hard it is for them due to this covert system of divide and conquer, i do agree that we need to hold black men more accountable for raising their kids and protecting black women however it is also a choice one makes in life…make a good choice and hopefully u or i wont encounter these issues. I dont advocate violence to any woman and yes men need to be more understanding toward black woman and what we go through…i have a black male son and i try to raise him to be morally straight and to treat women with respect but i also let him know that as he grows older u have to be able to be the provider and protector in your household and find a wife that is a nurturer and become equal partners in life to build each other up and not tear each other down.

    • 9Boots

      THE EVIL CHOICES OF BLACK MEN. Tell me this, why is it that my grandfather never acted like these evil, selfish, cowardly boys? My grandfather had 14 CHILDREN! He never once abandoned them and he stayed MARRIED to my grandmother for 40 YEARS until she passed and he never remarried. My father has 3 children that he has not abandoned and has been MARRIED to our mother for 44 YEARS! Both of these black men have lived through racism and feminism and REFUSED to behave like these FAUX MEN! They need to get some CHARACTER & CONVICITION and stop blaming everybody for their selfishness. They CHOOSE TO BEHAVE THIS WAY NO ONE IS FORCING THEM. Now maybe these users need to start talking to REAL MEN like my FATHER. Unfortunately Iggy many black women sold their souls throwing out all standards and expectations of what manhood is and the requirements of how men should behave. However, we are now tearing down the false god (black men) and are awakening. You can die for your false god if you want to.

      • Tony Williams

        “he EVIL CHOICES OF BLACK MEN”, all black men? or the ones that pissed you off or turned you down?

        • 9Boots

          You deflecting MISOGYNIST. Did you not read “Now maybe these users need to start talking to REAL MEN like my FATHER.” The whole darn paragraph was an example of how real men behave.

          • Tony Williams

            Real men like your father is exactly whats missing in the black community, alot of this criminal black men come from single parent homes. with no male leadership at all.

            • Ebony Blanca

              At some point we have to stop with the excuses and blaming black women. Young black girls have all the influence in the world, plenty young black girls are raised in single parent homes be it mom or dad doing the raising yet there’s no shortage of black female college graduates or entreprenuers.You can’t complain about black men being wrongfully blamed and then do the same to black women, that’s why that topic was made. My brother has a college degree in which he earned in 2011. My mom raised us majority of our lives, my father was never there until now but we’re all grown and it’s too late. My mom did a fantastic job. Young black boys are influenced by their surroundings. I’m sick of a woman can’t raise a man bull crap, but when black girls mess up the first thing to come out of black people’s mouths is “She needs a father in her life”. So a black mother can’t raise her son and if he fails it’s her fault because he needed a man? And if a black daughter fails it’s ALSO because she didn’t have a father? So we can give black men credit just like that ASSuming it’s logical that his imprint is viable for both male anf female offspring but a black mother is only affective when she raises the same gender as hers. That’s the misogyny I’m talking about. And look at it another way, black women are always told to coddle black men, so that’s what black mothers do thinking it’ll help her son by babying him and making him feel protected in the white man’s world. But every time black women tell people black men need to be called out more black women are accused of turning against black men and making things harder for them in the white man’s world. We can’t win for losing with black people.
              Also when there’s a situation where a black woman turns out bad no one ASSumes “Well that’s because she didn’t have a mother in her life being raised by her single father” they specifically blame the female for her choices she developed individally. Typical black community.

              • http://www.greaterunderstanding.net/ Anthony Brian Logan

                Your mindset is focused on the blame game when its not even about that. Kids need both parents, period. Just because you have alot of “successful” black women raised by single parents does not mean they are flawless people. They have issues just like black men from single parent homes have issues. The issues just manifest themselves differently in women. Those women often end up with alot of money but grow old with no man or kids. And when they do have a family its with the same type of guy they grew up with in their house, who also had no father as a child. Motherless homes are also an issue. Kids from these type of environments often lack the empathy and emotional capacity you need to conduct life. We need both parents.

              • Tony Williams

                I am not blaming black women.black women are doing 205% of the job, i am 85% blaming black men for why their no males in the home. IT DOESNT COST 1 CENT TO BE A GOOD FATHER,KIDS DONT REALLY REALLY NEED OR CARD ABOUT MONEY STUFF, they want love, support and to know their father or a father figure is there. but again if your a black woman and you have a kid with a manwith 20 kids. i can support that one too.

  • keesha

    I don’t think that the misogyny against black women is inflicted on us solely by black men, but by men in general.

    • Ebony Blanca

      “I mean, think about it? I’ll use cheating as an example. If there weren’t any women on this planet who would accept being a “side piece” or who would accept being cheated on, would men cheat anymore?”

      ^^^This is rape culture rhetoric. Shame the victim not the victimizer. It’s similar to when people tell rape victims “They were asking for it” for wearing a certain outfit, or something else ignorant. Misogyny, shaming, sexism, protection of black men, blame shifting, ignorance. No one is warranted ignorance. If someone said Trayvon Martin asked to be shot because all he had to do was not dress and act like a stereotyped, you’d be mad. If we told a gay man or women a person wouldn’t have be homophobic if they would sotp giving people a reason to be offended by homosexuality we’d be called a bigot. N o one is warranted ignorance from anyone. Majority of the comments under this article is why the trending topic exists. Black people and their numb feelings towards women and mainly black women are repulsive.

      • Tony Williams

        Ok fine you win, lets make a new law in the black community, any BLACKMAN WHO BULLIES OR BASHES BLACK GOOD WOMEN, MUST GET A FINE FOR $500 , I AM SERIOUS, AND if your found to bash or attack black women 3 times, you will be kicked out of the blackcommunity. and you will be an old sider for life.

      • Tony Williams

        RICH WHITE MEN RUN HIP HOP, and rap music, they also run vh1 mtv1 mtv2,bet you dont have to believe me if you dont want too. every cd, music videos rape song that comes out has to be oked by the heads of the company, and their oking it.

        • Ebony Blanca

          Black men are not mentally challenged children who don’t know any better. These ignorant negroes are fully aware of what they do and say. Artist okay whatever music goes on their albums themselves, especially rappers. If black men really wanted to do something they would have done something about it by now, but the reality is they don’t give a damn about no one but themselves, their image and own reputation. Hopefully that trending topic is a sign and more black women continue to wake up. Black men took black women’s loyaltly for granted, got a little big headed because you all expected whatever you do good or bad black women will be right there ready to pacify you. Karma has to come sooner or later.

          • Tony Williams

            What about the black women on love and hip hop ATL, they are like ghetto chickenheads too. GUESS WHAT MY DEAR IGNORANCE PAYS. PEOPLE DO WHAT BRINGS MONEY. positive hip hop doesnt get radio play, people want to shake their behinds and talk about women and cars and clothes.

            • Ebony Blanca

              You’re right, I can agree positive rap never sees daylight. Positive hip-hop doesn’t get play, but it’s our fault, both male and female. I can’t go anywhere without some brotha or sista referencing slang or some line from hip-hop, misogyny, sexism and pimp culture is pedestal placed because to black people it represents coolness. But also, just like positive black women don’t get recognition. Like I told you before, see how quick and easy you can reference Love and Hip Hop but not one negro knew about the black teenage college graduate, the prime minister, or the bar exam student. That’s sad. Black people bust their behinds to make sure we realize all black men aren’t like Lil Wayne or Lil Scrappy. They don’t do black girls like that because we’ve been told black boys needs come first. Speaking of Love and Hip-Hop one of those sistas has a degree in psychology from FAMU, and she’s the one people bash the most and think is the most ghetto “K.Michelle”. But no one knows that, I wonder why?. But we all know about David Banner’s degree, and how we think Nas or Jay-Z is so articulate **smh**.

          • Tony Williams

            Black men took black women’s loyaltly for granted, got a little big headed because you all expected whatever you do good or bad black women will be right there ready to pacify you. — i do 100% agree with this though. we blackmen need to give black women 150% love and support that black women have showed us, and its not just lip service itstrue. your right, blackmenwe can be selfish little children.

        • Concerned Reader

          Read my other comment to you to find out why you are terribly misinterpreting what you’re writing.

      • keesha

        You missed the point of what I was saying. What I’m saying is if a woman knows that I guy is cheating on her and still stays in the relationship. Or if the woman knows that a guy has a girlfriend but will still be with him as the side chick. I’m speaking as a woman. I can’t control or stop a man from cheating, but I know that I won’t stay in that relationship if he does cheat on me. I am not going to accept it.

        I’m not shaming the victim and protecting black men. I’m saying stand up for yourself and not tolerate abuse and victimization.

    • 9Boots

      Keesha the facts don’t lie. Black women have been murder, raped, and beaten by black men for decades with no recourse.

      • Tony Williams

        OK THEN DO SOMETHING? WHAT ARE YOU BLACK WOMEN going to d oback? form gangs and start having rape gangs.where you catch black men and rape them in the butt? what is going to be your answer to stop all this rapes and murders fromblackmen?

        • Gina

          To have White men kill them.

          • Jeriel Patrick

            Oh thanks for the ignorance. This comment makes you real smart… nope all I see is HATE. If you think thats going to work fine.

    • Tony Williams

      Thank you Keesha, what about hollywood movies, bet, mtv, mtv2, Vh1, none of this things are OWNED BY BLACK MEN, their owned by rich white men or jews. jews control hip hop, RICH WHITE MEN CONTROL AND RUN HIP HOP, NOT BLACK MEN.

  • anonymouse

    talking loud and saying nothing!! all of u sound like a bunch of miserable old fools………

    • 9Boots

      You must be another misogyny denier

      • anonymouse

        u sound crazy………… and i’m serious about that.

        • 9Boots

          That is the same thing white people say about black men when they get fed up over racism and start calling B.S.

  • Tony Williams

    #BlackPowerisForBlackMen when 40% 40% of the kids black men are taken care of arent even biologically theirs. Yep the kids aint yours homie, its really your cousins.

  • Tony Williams

    this article seems like its from a black woman who loved white men. and she wants to get them off the hook for all the jim crow and racist white men and white women have done to black people.

  • Tony Williams

    Oh God here we go again,another divide and conquer article. black men are evil black men do this black men do that, black men love white women. black men cause cancer, global warming and winter. i know i am the devil here me roar.

    • Concerned Reader

      DIVIDE AND CONQUER is a method originating, from my research, with white people. It is also part of the Wille Lynch letter, which encouraged turning blacks against each other based on sex, complexion, etc etc

      Since slavery and the racial division in the US were made illegal, white people still needed a way to control black people and stay on top. Do you understand what I’m getting at? Anyone who does not believe there is still white on black racism is brain-dead.

      Why do you need shackles when you can promote black males and white females in the media, only support black males, make it appear that you have accepted them into your club, whilst leaving out black women and thus turn the two genders against each other?

      Mental slavery is all that is needed, no shackles.

      Do you understand what I’m getting at?

      • Tony Williams

        Not only that PROMOTE black young men killing and shooting black men and black women, promote blackmen to not respect black womens bodies promote rape. i dont know if the Wille Lynch letter is real/ but damn i see its effect on black people everyday.

        • Concerned Reader

          Google it. I don’t speak without proof – it is TRUE!
          You are missing the point. The point is that white people never, ever want to be ruled by black people, or want them to think anything good about themselves. So, they are using this method of racial division, which they can deny and pretend isn’t true (which they always do), so that black people can hate each other and never move forward.

          I am furious with black men because only very few of them can see this. I am seriously only ever heard of TWO! TWO! The vast majority are so happy to be accepted by whites (their masters, lol), they tear down the women who support them with their backs bent, who give birth to them in so much agony, who rally with them for whatever cause. In other words, they are ungrateful brats who will get their comeuppance.

          So that’s why I am fighting back. I will not mention this again. It is the fault of black men if they never find out, and die, having lived a lie, and a worthless life, thinking they were accepted, but in reality were just used for a nefarious purpose.

  • Concerned Reader

    Black women need to stop supporting black men. This is what I do: See a movie with a black man in it? Do not watch it in the cinema. I mean ANY black man, star or not. Why? Because they all seem to turn against you. Google for yourself. See cases like with Trayvon? Do not support or utter a word against. Say nothing.

    This is what black women do wrong. They whine and complain. Don’t complain, it will not fix things, it will not make black men like you. They have mental slavery problems that can’t be fixed. Complaining will just give everyone the opportunity to unfairly attack you and other innocent black women. Say nothing, just don’t support at all.

    Keep quoting real stats to black men that are far worse than any other race of men: the most murderers are black men, the most uneducated people are black men, the marriages most likely to fail (especially with white women) are black men’s. Keep shoving these facts down their throats.

    Fight fire with fire.

    • Tony Williams

      I never seen or heard a fire station say” IF YOUR HOUSE IS ON FIRE, POUR MORE GASOLINE ON IT ” but maybe the fire stations are wrong.

      • Concerned Reader

        You keep proving me right. Black males have no education or intelligence. I can’t believe you actually wrote something so idiotic.
        What I wrote was not literal, and who would even think about doing something so stupid? To fight a real fire, water is used, or, in the case of a grease fire, it is smothered. SMH!
        How would “fight fire with water” sound? I can’t believe you are so idiotic. Come again, child.

        • Tony Williams

          What if i said black men need to stop supporting black women.

          do you know how many black women are getting paid byrappers?r and b singers? half of the dances teachers, fashion people, and assistants of this blackevil rappers are BLACK WOMEN.

          rap and hip hop , r and b, puts millions of millions in the pockets of blackwomen, directly or indirectly. so what if black men boycotted hiring black women for music videos, as assistants anything.? what then?

          • Concerned Reader

            Black men do not support black women on a large scale. FAIL.

            Wow! These jobs are so admirable! It’s so nice of them to pay black women to use them in their videos!

            This is pointless. You seem to not understand that black women are more educated than black males. THEY HAVE CAREERS. Teachers, computer programmers, nurses, ….
            You think you’re talking to one of your ghetto friends who think only those paltry jobs exist. Come again.

            • Tony Williams

              So white man builts cvs , hires black woman pays for $9 /hour

              Waka Flaka hires his mothers as his personal manager and she gets 15% of every thing he makes. so if he made $4 million in 2012. she collected a cool $600,000. thats not supporting in a major level? EVERY NFL PLAY, NBA PLAYER BLACK SOCCER PLAYER in the world. when ever they get their first checks big money. you know what they tell reporters when the reporters ask them ” so Tyrone what are you buying with your first check ” I AM GOING TO BY MY MAMA A BIG HOUSE AND CAR AND MOVE HER OUT OF THE HOOD.

              i know 2 black athletes in college, right now. Their first names are Stefon and Jalen. Do you know what this guys are playing for? guess.they told me, they will never give up and stop, until they retire their moms. they want to make it to the NFL. So their mothers dont have to work anymore. I have facts.

              • Concerned Reader

                OK, I Googled the Waka boy.

                The last paragraph could be made up. You can’t use that as a fact.

                See what I mean? As long as it’s positive, black males say every black man, as long as it’s negative, black males say every black woman, even though both are false.

                When I say “large scale” I don’t mean one person, or a few, I mean along the lines of what I said before. Something happens to a black man, everyone rallies for him, including black women. Something happens to a black woman, you can hear the crickets. You know this, everyone knows this. The media pushes this method of racism (gender based racism) and black men are part of this. Everyone knows this. I read a comment from someone recently who said this very same thing. She is not black or white, but knows that it’s happening.

                Name 10 black women that Al Sharpton supported. I can’t even think of one.

                Black men commit the most murders EVERY DAY against black females and the other black men do not get up and speak about it. Yet, I’m supposed to care that Trayvon died in a fight? That Troy Davis was executed for murder, when he lied and said he was innocent? ……
                I do not support any famous black male, nor will I ever again, I am not naive.

                And what are you talking about CVS? So what if a black woman works there? She does not represent the majority of black females who are educated.

                • Tony Williams

                  The last paragraph if not made up, Google Stefon Diggs, and Jalen Tabor, there big time athletes from the Dc Maryland area. i didnt want to put all their private information in the air. but thats the proof. Diggs plays for U of Maryland GO TERPS. Tabor will be joining him in 2014 season.

                  • Concerned Reader

                    Respond to me. I am responding to you. Not only the parts that you think you can win in your mind.

                • 9Boots

                  Concerned Reader I think black women that have sense like you and I need to ban together because these misogynists and misogynist sympathizers (often times black women) are in complete denial

                  • Concerned Reader

                    Agreed!

          • Ebony Blanca

            Black women aren’t getting paid by black rappers, WTF?. Black men don’t support black women. Nothing recently or publicly connected to black female progression, be it education, empowerment or anything else aren’t supported by black men. Oprah’s supporters damn sure aren’t black men, but she campaigned behind Obama. Black women also style other black female celebrities what’s your point? Nicki Minaj gave a struggling black woman a job as her makeip artist what’s your point? A lot of these black female celebrities and artist also have black men as their hair dressers and makeup artist, again what’s your point? Most music videos from them feature Latina or some foreign non-black woman whom they pay as models in their videos. Rappers don’t have choreographers wtf? Black women are immune to lack of support from black men, so if every negro finally quit on black women today, it would be nothing new.

            • Tony Williams

              The rapper ” The game” his top top assistant is a black woman.

              the rapper Bow wow his manager was his mother a black woman.

              the rapper Waka Flaka his mother a black woman is his manager.
              on and on, you can tried and fight me on this. I HAVE FACTS , YOU HAVE EMOTIONS FACTS WIN.

              • Ebony Blanca

                What their mothers? Most celebrities, male and female parents are behind them 100% Ashanti’s mother follow where ever she goes. Beyonce’s mother is always behind her as well, and she desings her outfits.That’s apples to oranges honey, we’re not talking about family. You need stop with these apples to oranges comparisons because they aren’t working at all.

            • Concerned Reader

              Excellent post! I couldn’t comment on these things because I am not well-versed in entertainment but your post hits the nail perfectly! I saw glimpses of music videos recently and all I could see were non-black women.
              This is what I could not put into words. I know what I see and I do not see black men supporting black women. I cannot think of ONE SINGLE CASE and I’ve been around for more than 2 decades!

            • Jeriel Patrick

              A lot latinas have African in them.

          • 9Boots

            “What if i said black men need to stop supporting black women”. This is an oxymoron. The 70% single rate, the 80% OOW birth rate, the poverty rate, the homicide and sexual abuse rates are all signs of your lack of support. You misogynists do not support black women.

    • Ebony Blanca

      Ironically you’re getting thumbs down(I’m sure mainly done by the brothas under here), and the males on here speaking ill about black women are getting a thumbs up. This is why the trending topic was created. Maybe black women need to separate ourselves from Blackistan like the women in the congo did. They broke away and formed their own progressive structure, lets see how black people feel then when they no longer have black women as punching bags, or burden scape goats for black men protection, and wombs providers for more black bodies but at the same time complain about OOW birth **rolling my eyes** My mother always told me you never know what you got until it’s gone maybe that needs to happen.

    • stewie

      you have no were to go…lol

      • 9Boots

        You self absorbed MISOGYNIST the world is our oyster! See black women these men are certified abusers. Abusers always say you have nowhere to go and you can’t leave me.

      • Concerned Reader

        Oh, so baby Stewie has me tied down!
        You mean that is what you desperately WISH. Didn’t your mother tell you that all of your pathetic wishes can’t come true?

  • Tonyoardee

    #BlackPowerisForBlackMen when Brian Banks gets 5 years in prison for a rape he didnt do

    • Tony Williams

      Oh man i wish i could have given this 100 likes.

    • 9Boots

      Typical misogynist wont address black men raping, murdering, and beating black women. This is why your well of support is about to run dry

    • Just saying!!

      You are referring to what could possibly be construed as racism on the outside. Misogyny from black men is internal and deals with the way black men attempt to control their women.

      I know you probably read this and threw it out the window, but as a black woman I’m asking you to please think about it because there is definitely some validity to it. It’s incredibly hard to have this conversation with black men, because for the most part they’ve become accustomed to playing the victim, but this is not a personal attack. Black women are dying inside and if you truly care you will throw away your pride and listen instead of deciding that your pride is more important.

  • Concerned Reader

    Stop trying to tell me what my standard of beauty is supposed to be! I know MANY black women who are more beautiful BY FAR than Halle Berry (and yes, I actually tell the truth about beauty, for instance, I would never say Alex Wek is), have PERFECT bodies, and most importantly, are educated and more than MOST black males are! And yes, some of these women are dark brown – dark brown with extremely beautiful, doll-like faces, WITHOUT MAKEUP. Who is really stupid enough to think that isn’t so? Beautiful until their 60s, without wrinkles or Botox.

    THINK!

    • piin

      I think Alek Wek is beautiful imo, but what I find interesting and I was thinking about this maybe even today is how bm’s pin up woman is not even black, Halle Berry. Wm have a number of ww that are theirs Marilyn Monroe, Pamela Anderson, Indian men have theirs but mostly all bm pin up women, the ones they’ve held up and celebrated are mixed and not even one is full black, It’s a sad shame, anyway!

      • Concerned Reader

        Ok, I understand that some people may find her beautiful. That’s OK.

        I agree about Halle Berry. That’s what I was getting at. The women are black and more beautiful than her. I remember the most beautiful girl I ever saw, yes I said girl – schoolgirl, no makeup, as it is not allowed at school in my country.
        When I saw her I immediately thought of Halle, then I told myself, “This girl is far more beautiful than her and she wasn’t even made up like Halle Berry to compare fairly”. It was a face that you would draw! Extremely beautiful – and she was DARK BROWN, and with a perfect body and height.

  • Concerned Reader

    I thought I was the only person who knew this.
    All I could do is shake my head at how stupid Beyonce, her sister and all the other brain-dead black women look, rallying for Trayvon. I mean, didn’t it ever ONCE cross their minds, that black women are not supported at all like this, but are constantly attacked? Go on, name 10 black women supported like this.

    This is why I get so mad with them. I’ve spoken to some and they have the most annoying “so what” attitude. Yes, they feel terrible, I know this, but they feel that by being “nice” would make black boys with inferiority complexes be nice back to them. You can’t fight fire with words.

    I can’t win the war on the internet. There are too many brainwashed black women out there who need fixing. Someone influential and famous needs to stand up one day and quote these very same things to everyone, so they can all see that they are indeed being treated very, very badly, and unfairly and need to fight back.

    By the way, I am SICK of hearing this BS about “European Standard of b_ty”. I mean, this is a part of the problem. Black people have been trained to accept the worst lies about themselves, without even THINKING about how they are being tricked. I mean, think about it, what other race mentions this crap like black people? NONE. Have you not figured out that it was made up to target YOU?
    What standard? You mean the fake noses? The overly thick, fake lips? The butt implants? The breast implants? Do a Google search to see the worst plastic surgery disasters and swallow the truth: they are WHITE WOMEN. How can they be a “standard”, when they don’t even want to look like themselves?

    THINK!

    • piin

      Supporting Trayvon was a good thing, but I agree that bw have overly done all the supporting and they have not returned it, thus bw should cease doing it for them.

      • Concerned Reader

        I agree, it is a good thing, but nothing good is being returned. Nothing. The thing is, I use to be sad about it, then I realised there was no need to be! Black men have the worst problems on the planet. If people were to keep bombarding them with these problems constantly, they would self destruct. I use knowledge.

    • stewie

      Trayvon is your son…you idiot.

      • 9Boots

        Black women and girls are YOUR mothers and daughters you self absorbed MISOGYNST.

      • Concerned Reader

        REALLY? LOL! I was never pregnant by any black man. I don’t share failed children with black men just because you want me to. This is my body and no one on earth can tell me what to do with it or what is my duty, least of all some fool on the net. Look into the mirror for the idiot.

  • Real Truths

    Looks like an attack by swirlers…LOL

    • 9Boots

      Keep deflecting and not address black men’s misogyny

  • Gina

    Black men keep saying that Black women aren’t wanted by other races of men, that’s complete bullshit! I don’t care who or what website said what about us being undesirable, if you’re a pretty Black woman you can get any race of man you want, point blank period! Black men keep telling you this, because they want to see you miserable and lonely, plus they don’t want you to date/marry other races of men. Black men are the biggest hypocrites on this planet, they date all races of women, but have a problem watching pretty black women walk down the street hand in hand with a White men, Hispanic men, Asian men and etc. Go figure.

    • Real Truths

      Sorry not every black man believes in that. You’re free to do what you will, we don’t own you. But we all know what time it is….happy hunting. P.S. bring a lunch!

      • Gina

        Most Black men do believe in this, I don’t need to hunt, I got a White man. :)

        • Real Truths

          I’m glad to hear that. I believe there needs to be a thinning. Glad you chose to walk! Soon enough there’ll only be real black people ready to rebuild (no half-steppers, half-loyalties)…I can’t wait. :))

          • 9Boots

            Real black people take authority and stop scapegoating. this is why we are talking about misogyny

            • http://www.greaterunderstanding.net/ Anthony Brian Logan

              please stop. google “family guy big fat phony” and watch the youtube vids that come up. thats you.

        • Drew

          Don’t you come crawlin’ your ashy, flat a$$ back when your coveted, White man comes home and politely informs you that he’s not happy, packs his s*** and hits the streets with his new, young, White number. And, good luck getting another White man with those lil’ mixed bastards you’ll have running around confused and hair a mess. FOH with that BS.

      • Real Truths

        Since you weren’t woman enough to keep my reply below… Good! I’m glad you have a white man. Please breed into the oblivion. I for one am glad you decided to leave. The more people like you go, the sooner the real black people can rebuild. No half loyalty, allegiance. SO FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART THANK YOU!!! :)))

    • Tony Williams

      Come on like Halle berry and Tyra banks arent hot and beautiful to white men or asian men. I REALLY REALLY REALLY WISH BLACK WOMEN WOULD STOP SAYING ALL BLACK MEN, OR BLACK MEN, AND JUST SOME HALF OR SOME. honestly i dont even care what black women do. live free and die young for all i care.

  • Real Truths

    @9boots:disqus What a joke. You and the 20 dummies who upvoted and sit your a** down. You’re right the big bad evil black man keeps you from employment, education, getting loans, voting, owning homes/cars/businesses and etc. right? Woman up and take some responsibility for once in your life. You can’t name 5 black men that have systematically had the power to hold you back. That’s right “BLAME THE BLACK MAN”. We’re like Al-Qaeda, everywhere and nowhere at once, the ever present threat to destroy black women…LOL. We’re there to be blamed when we aren’t there, to be blamed when we are there, hated when we command authority, hated when we don’t. Every failing in your life is to be blamed on a black man. Love the hypocrisy. But if a black man were to talk about the “Evil black woman” that crap is shut down immediately. Let’s be real, black men were raised by women. Mothers, sisters, aunts, grandmothers. So it’s black men who were raised to respect black women, unfortunately that respect all to often isn’t reciprocated. Black men (excluding crime) can get along with each other better than black women could anyday. Big vs. Skinny, Darkskin vs. Lightskin, “Good hair” vs. “bad hair”. Deal with your own issues then come talk to us. BET ALL YOU SISTAS CAN NAME 5 BLACK WOMEN OFF THE TOP OF YOUR HEADS, THAT TRIED, TO HOLD YOU BACK, UNDERMINE YOU, LIE ON YOU AND ETC…..oh the irony!

    • 9Boots

      That is correct. Black men have a common bond…it’s called MISOGYNY

      • Real Truths

        Yeah because black women are 100% blameless right? So says the female gender supremacist femi-nazi.

        • 9Boots

          Are you a simpleton? Stop deflecting. black women have the highest homicide rates and sexual abuse at the hands of black men. You just don’t give a hoot. that is why you refuse to address this MISOGYNIST.

      • Drew

        Would you PUH-LEEEEAAAAAASSSSSSSEEEEEE knock if off with the misogyny stuff???!!!??? You are highly annoying! Go do something with all this energy.

        • 9Boots

          Pot meet kettle. Everyday we here racism, racism, racism. now you try to silence the word MISOGYNY. Hypocrite. Deflecting much?

          • Drew

            Try using different words than “misogyny” and “deflecting” and their many variations for a day. You are beyond a nuisance.

            • 9Boots

              You deflecting misogynists are a nuisance

          • Ebony Blanca

            ^THIS.

        • Ebony Blanca

          Why is calling out misogyny amongst the black community “annoying” but we can discuss and reference racism, white male privilege, white supremacy/patriarchy in any form or about anything 24/7 and never get tired of them? An oppressive, detrimental structure is an oppressive detrimental structure no matter who it’s coming from.

          • Drew

            The operative word in my post was “do,” and it didn’t refer to commenting in a thread online. Go out in the world and actually DO something, or sit down, shut you mouth and take what you’ve been getting. That is all.

            • Ebony Blanca

              Take your own advice instead of online bickering with women. Pot meets kettle. THAT IS ALL.

              • Drew

                In a forum for the seemingly intelligent, engaging in correspondence surrounding important topics isn’t bickering. Bickering is what people do on Bossip regarding Beyonce’s new hair cut.

                Anyway, the long and short of my message was that if you care so much (which is evident from the 25+ posts by your friend), then you should probably amp up your efforts and do something — as opposed to complaining. I trust you understand…

                • 9Boots

                  This is just the beginning Drew. You and your ilk are about to be associated with the word MISOGYNY.

                  • Drew

                    *shivers* Oh, no — not the dreaded word, “associated…” What are we EVER going to do???

                    • Ebony Blanca

                      That’s why the trending topic was made, you all think it’s a joke, when it was not. But when it comes to you all, it’s all serious and no games. No wonder that trending topic was made. Hopefully they make another one. I saw a few white men “getting it” and empathizing under that trending topic while black men came in mad and angry without even understanding. Black women have no dog fight, we only have ourselves to uplift and protect.

                    • Drew

                      Right on, Ebony.

                    • 9Boots

                      Drew, if you thought black men were already only associated with crime, you guys are also about to be associated with misogyny. The public awareness campaign is going to continue and everyone is going to know the exact stats of the s%#* you have done to black women. They will be able to site these stats frontwards and backwards. You guys have earned it. Congratulations!

                    • Drew

                      9Boots, I don’t give one flying f*** what people associate with Black men any more than you care that Black women are associated with being welfare recipients who have bastard kids. Why? Because, it’s not always true. In fact, it’s more untrue than it is true. Look at me: I’m neither a criminal, nor a misogynist. So… yeah. Good day.

  • Sheena B

    Call me naive, crazy, etc. but I dont want to be labeled a feminist in 2013 terms. It’s turned into a misandric, butchy, irresponsible and all too often mysogynistic word. I’m married to beautiful black man and I receive horrible looks and snarky comments from black women. There is no sisterhood but competition even for my married man. He is accused of abandoning his race because of who he married; a light skinned woman. Black women can’t complain about there being no good black men when we aren’t doing much better ourselves. I know plenty of great black men who are single and searching for a life partner/wife. The complaints are the same; she doesn’t want to simply have fun, she debates and argues against everything, she thinks so highly of herself that she looks down on others, self absorbed, critical, mean spirited, etc. I know that no one is perfect but many of us have made ourselves impossible to deal with. We have created an almost unrealistic idea of what we want in a man when don’t even complement those requirements. You want him to be financially stable? Great; but you can’t be without a savings account and/or retirement plan. Want him to have great taste in clothing? Cool but you have to drop Forever 21. Want him to look like Idris? That’s fine but you can’t look like Funky Dineva. You cant want a 10 and be a 6. It’s not about being seen and not heard but we have lost our place as “ladies”. If you know that black men are no good and won’t take care of you as a woman then simply don’t deal with them. It’s that easy. I have gotten way off topic but we scream for all these things and we don’t bring any of it to the table (complicated and confusing). I can’t bring myself to belittle our men to the extent at which a lot of women do because I really don’t know any. That’s not to say that they or the problem doesn’t exist but that’s just my experience and I’m thankful. As you were.

    • 9Boots

      So let me guess, these great single black men cant’ find a good black woman but I bet they’re having sex with them. Typical excuses used to just fornicate. You might not know these cowards but the stats don’t lie.

      • Sheena B

        To my current knowledge they are not. However, a few of them turned down living with their ex girlfriends (the woman asked, he said no, she left in… all 3 separate cases) and they have no children to tend to. I have never ignored the stats nor did I deny that there is an issue that needs to be dealt with. I just feel that this discussion is no longer progressive; neither parties is willing to admit to their involvement, shake hands, and begin finding a solution. It will forever be a finger pointing name calling n!ggas/b!tches ain’t sh!t fest while our children eavesdrop on the conversation and continue the cycle.

        • 9Boots

          The solution is for black women to cut their losses. Stop having sex with these misogynists. Wait till they are married to have sex this way their bodies will not be used. Stop living with men unless they are married. Stop tying their finances with men they are not married to. Only deal with men that are looking for a wife. Make sure the man understands his role as man. He must love, work, protect,and be willing to die for wife and children.

        • keesha

          Exactly.

  • blackbeauty2013

    I will never ignore you. I am very aware of the oppression and thats why I try to be the mental, physical and spiritual support a man needs. Are you telling me that white women dont hold black men to a european standard of money, do they expect you to be broke?? please explain. I cant help but to notice when an average black man becomes wealthy they marry a non-black woman.

  • gina

    Black men are now the ENEMY plain and simple, do NOT march for them or any other Trayvon Martin’s of the world, let them deal with their OWN murders from other races, it’s OPEN SEASON on killing Black men right now.

    • Herm Cain

      It’s been f**k black women and any brother who thinks you are not the enemy is delusional it’s crazy that black men can’t have a stable relationship until they date out face it the quality of bw has diminished we’re both discriminated against but nobody wants you that speaks volumes

      • 9Boots

        Bull! Black women were brainwashed into being loyal to black men because you guys cried and begged and said we can’t fight the white men alone it is too hard. Unfortunately many black women sold their souls throwing out all standards and expectations of what manhood is and the requirements of how men should behave. However, we are now tearing down the false god (black men) and are awakening. We are now expanding our dating options and you will see a TITLE WAVE of black women getting married to other races. BTW black women and white men marriages have the lowest divorce rate of ALL marriages. Mean while black on black marriages have the highest divorce rate do to the common denominator….the black man.

        • Herm Cain

          I hope to god that wave comes soon so you bitter b****s can stop looking at me and mines crazy cat lady funny how you spew your bs about black men not marrying y’all but you refuse to acknowledge sisters are out here looking disgusting and carrying themselves the same no man wants that

          • 9Boots

            we will do it quickly. we cant wait either

        • Gina

          According to the Census Bureau, Black men have the highest divorce rate with other races of women, while Black women that the highest success rate with non Black men, if they don’t believe it then they can look it up for themselves. Black men refuse to act right no matter what race of women their with. Smh

          • 9Boots

            Preach! It’s everyone’s fault but the black man.

      • Gina

        Zimmerman I’m waiting…The world wants Black men dead more than us, trust me, you can be the next Trayvon Martin. The biggest danger to Black women is Black men, you are the ones killing us, not White, Hispanic and etc. YOU!

      • Gina

        Black men have stable relationships huh? So why do you have the HIGHEST divorce rate, and we don’t? Census Bureau, read it and weep moron. Nobody wants Black men! Lol

        Black and White

        In the United States there has been an historical disparity between Black female and Black male exogamy ratios: according to the United States Census Bureau,
        there were 354,000 White female/Black male and 196,000 Black
        female/White male marriages in March 2009, representing a ratio of
        181:100.[21]
        This traditional disparity has seen a rapid decline over the last two
        decades, contrasted with its peak in 1981 when the ratio was still
        371:100.[22]
        In 2007, 4.6% of all married Blacks in the United States were wed to a
        White partner, and 0.4% of all Whites were married to a Black partner.[23]

        The role of gender in interracial divorce dynamics, found in social
        studies by Jenifer L. Bratter and Rosalind B. King, was highlighted when
        examining marital instability among Black/White unions.[9]
        White wife/Black husband marriages show twice the divorce rate of White
        wife/White husband couples by the 10th year of marriage,[9]
        whereas Black wife/White husband marriages are 44% less likely to end
        in divorce than White wife/White husband couples over the same period.[9]

        • Gina

          Black men have TWICE the divorce rate, whereas Black women are 44% LESS likely to end in divorce when they marry White men. I hear crickets Black men…..LMFAO!

      • BlackBeauty

        Your delusional for thinking all other men r as stupid as you. Men of other races show me love all the time, especialy mexican men. They are hard working, passionate and protectors. Not at all scared of my chocolate skin and full lips.

    • Real Truths

      You aren’t too far behind but I guess you’re stupid to figure that out huh?
      Talk to the two men in Texas sexually violated by the police…but I guess that’s different huh?

      • 9Boots

        let’s talk about the murder, rape, beatings, and abandonment of black women. did you forget what the topic is about. Typical black man always talking about your pain. selfish

  • gina

    5 White women and 1 Hispanic FREED George Zimmerman and Black men are still talking crap about Black women. I didn’t see any White, Asian or Hispanic women at the Trayvon martin rallies, you know why? Because they don’t care!

  • 9Boots

    Dating is another term for having sex. Ladies, these man are not marrying you. Don’t have sex with them unless you are married to them. stop giving your bodies to unappreciative, selfish cowards. No marriage no sex

  • 9Boots

    We are talking about the present there is no need talk discuss pre 1965. Do you notice how they refuse to shed tears over black women? Do you notice how they refuse to lift the burdens off of our backs? Do you notice how they always want to march for them but there is never a march by black men for the better treatment of black women? Do you notice how there is no major movement by black men to rally to treat black women better? To stop looking for new sex partners and to man up and get a wife. To return to the millions of sons and daughters they have abandoned. Actions speak louder then words. Move on black women, you deserve better you know you deserve bettter.

  • 9Boots

    This discussion is about the evil treatment of women. Black women and girls are 6% of the population and we have the highest homicide rate. White women are 35% of the population! Thank you black men. Black women and girls have the highest incidents of sexual abuse. Thank you black men. We are the poorest because we do not combine our wealth with a spouse and are the primary care takers of children since black men are not around. Thank you black men. Ladies, actions speak louder then words. We have practically laid down on the street to elevate the height of black men by trying to make things eaiser for them because we understood racism and classism was holding them and us back. We’ve thrown out all moral standards and expectations of how they as men are supposed to treat women. Instead of being appreciative they only walk all over u day in and day. It is time to cut your losses. The only man you should have sex with, live with, and spend your energy uplifting is is your HUSBAND. As you can see all they want is sex they refuse to marry you and they want to save money by refusing to take care of their children.

  • Marie Bano

    It is a shame that black websites, black twitter and facebook remains so divisive and nonsensical. Black people need to stop being diverted by the small stuff. We need to focus on our families, our education, our economic base and where we as a community are going. We always seem to let divide and rule seperate us. This society is changing and we are not keeping up.

    • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

      YOU NEED TO EXPLAIN THAT TO AFRICAN AMERICAN BLACK WOMEN, MISS MARIE…….

    • 9Boots

      Misogyny is not nonnsensical. Tell these men to stop murdering, raping, abusing,and using, black women.

    • Just saying!!

      I definitely agree, but I think having these discussions is a part of gaining that unity. We will never be happy while sweeping stuff under the rug. The problem is we don’t know how to have these conversations without making drastic generalizations and hitting below the belt when it’s not even necessary.

  • blackbeauty2013

    This is so complicated. I love my black men but I feel unwanted by them. I see EVERY man in my family under 45 yrs old is married or involved with a white or hispanic woman. I luv these women but see no difference in how they treat and tolerate black men therefor i cant understand why im treated like a hoopty while they are treated like a jag. Im just as caring, nurturing, Smart and beautiful. Sometimes I feel like my chocolate skin is a curse.

    • http://twitter.com/@Mz_Undrstd Miss_Understood

      It is truly sad…I think that while we acknowledge the powerful role European standards of female beauty and desirability plays in the overall self-esteem of Black women, we forget that our men, brothers and sons are receiving the exact same message, not only from the white race but from us as well….the notion of the white woman being the ideal symbol of beauty, chastity and very importantly status lies in the psyche of “our” men….

      • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

        FIRST OFF, BLACK MEN ARE NOT “YOUR” MEN……WE DO NOT COLLECTIVELY BELONG TO YOU, SO GET THAT INTO YOUR THICK HEAD…..SECONDLY, BLACK MEN HAVE NO CONTROL OVER WHAT IS IN YOUR HEADS, NOR DO WE CONTROL THE “STANDARDS OF BEAUTY” TO EVEN BEGIN TO INFLUENCE YOUR SELF ESTEEM…..WHITE MEN CONTROL THE MEDIA, AND IF ANYTHING, WE ARE MORE THAN CAPABLE OF CHOOSING THE WOMEN WE WANT TO BE WITH AND DO NOT NEED YOU TO INFLUENCE OUR DECISIONS AS TO WHO WE CHOOSE TO BE WITH OR NOT…..

        • 9Boots

          Exactly ladies. Black men are not OUR men. Stop marching and having sex with these MISOGYNISTS.

          • Cool Breeze [Trap Star]

            ur a troll w/ a fake profile. Get lost!

            • 9Boots

              The truth hurts!!

              • blackbeauty2013

                OOCH!!

              • Cool Breeze [Mr. Bars 4 Dayz]

                sure it does, troll

                • 9Boots

                  You are the TROLL. All up on a black women’s website being the MISOGYNIST that you are. Now wear your title MISOGYNIST.

                  • Cool Breeze [Mr. Bars 4 Dayz]

                    you’re the troll and how can I be a misogynist when I love white women, Hispanic and Asian women, even Native American women. I don’t like Negro women and that doesn’t make me a misogynist but really an animal hater.

                    • 9Boots

                      Keep showing your true colors. You are the poster child of why black women need to flee.

                    • Cool Breeze [Mr. Bars 4 Dayz]

                      But I prefer the company of white women anyhow. I refuse to go within 50 feet of negro women.

                    • Concerned Reader

                      You are a negro. What is your point?

                    • gina

                      You love the White women who FREED George Zimmerman??? Lol

                    • 9Boots

                      Exactly Gina!

                    • Gina

                      5 White women and 1 Hispanic freed Zimmerman and Black men didn’t say a damn thing about them! Several cases are popping up all over about Black men getting murdered by non Black men. It’s OPEN SEASON on killing Black men and they are the target!

                    • 9Boots

                      It’s been open season for murdering, raping, beating, and abandoning black women via the black man for decades

    • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

      MS. BLACKBEAUTY, YOU MAY NOT LIKE WHAT I AM ABOUT TO SAY, BUT IT IS THE TRUTH….A LOT OF BLACK WOMEN NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT BLACK WOMEN ON THE WHOLE ARE (FOR LACK OF A BETTER WAY OF PUTTING IT) NOT VERY APPROACHABLE…..IT SEEMS AS IF YOUR ENTIRE DEMEANOR IS ONE WHERE YOU ARE OFTEN ON EDGE, AND PISSED OFF ALL THE TIME, AND NO MAN WANTS TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH A SHREW….LET’S ALSO LOOK INTO THE FACT THAT A LOT OF BLACK WOMEN DO NOT REALIZE THAT THEIR FRIENDS OFTEN RUIN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS AS WELL, BECAUSE ONCE THEY CHIME IN ABOUT HOW THEY EITHER DO OR DON’T LIKE A MAN THAT YOU ARE DATING, THAT IS OFTEN A CAUSE FOR FRICTION, TOO….PERSONALLY, I LOVE BLACK WOMEN LIKE COOKED FOOD, AND THEY ARE SOME OF THE MOST ATTRACTIVE AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN ON THE PLANET WHEN THEY TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES, BUT TO BE HONEST WITH YOU, TOO MANY OF THEM DO NOT, AND THEY HAVE CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK, THEY WEAR RIDICULOUS WEAVES, AND ARE FULL OF UNNECESSARY ATTITUDES…..THEY GET TATTOOS AND PIERCINGS IN INAPPROPRIATE PLACES AND EXPECT TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY WHEN IT BECOMES TIME FOR THEM TO BE CHOSEN AS MATES, AND THAT SIMPLY ISN’T GOING TO HAPPEN…..SORRY TO BE THE BEARER OF BAD NEWS, BUT PERSONALLY, I’VE PRETTY MUCH GIVEN UP ON MEETING A MARRIAGE MINDED, SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE BLACK WOMAN WITH NO TATTOOS, NO PIERCINGS, AND NO OUT OF WEDLOCK CHILDREN……I DON’T PERSONALLY THINK ANY EXIST ANY MORE……AND THIS IS COMING FROM A COLLEGE EDUCATED, HOME OWNING BROTHER WITH 2 BROTHERS THAT BOTH HAVE MARRIED WHITE WOMEN, HAD KIDS WITH THEM AND ARE EXTREMELY HAPPY…..AND FOR THE RECORD, YOU SHOULD NEVER FEEL AS THOUGH YOUR SKIN IS A CURSE, BECAUSE IT IS A BLESSING, BLACK BEAUTY!!! IN THE SUN, IT GLISTENS LIKE COPPER, IT HAS MELANIN THAT KEEPS YOU LOOKING YOUTHFUL LONG INTO YOUR LATER YEARS, AND IT IMMEDIATELY LETS EVERYONE WHO SEES YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE A BLACK WOMAN, AND THAT, IN AND OF ITSELF IS SOMETHING TO BE PROUD OF……..

      • blackbeauty2013

        Wow, I seem pissed off and on edge all the time??? I am known to be a happy and welcoming women to all. I cant help but to say you kind of prove my point as to when men see my dark brown skin they assume Im loud and bitter which is far from the truth, But truth be told I have a tattoo, my mothers name across my shoulder, got it on my 18th b-day. I have twin daughters whos father i met when i was 18 he was 23. I didnt want to marry young contreception failed,and I decided to keep my gifts from god and tried like hell to make it work for 8yrs. He left me when I was no longer able to be molded. Now at 27 I am Succesful, Happy, and full of love but Intelligent, Beautiful spirited men like you shun me because of all the above. Right?

        • Herm Cain

          Contraception failed so you got two bastids and can’t figure out why your lonely lol so let me guess that brother who’s had the discipline and drive to be sucsessful and worked hard to be financially secure is supposed to court you and potentially play daddy FOH

          • 9Boots

            Stop making excuses. Your fellow brutha is a coward. He abandoned his children

          • BlackBeauty

            A. I’m far from lonley, I have a loving family. B. My children have an outstanding father. No bastids here. You on the other hand will always be a worthless piece of sh!t out to hurt people .your obviously miserable and u deserve it. Now kick rocks in flipflops. B! TCH (TooShort)

        • Blackhawk

          Its not ur skin color thats the deterrent, but having two kids. I admit thats a no go for me.

          • 9Boots

            Do you know how many black men out there have two kids running around. But no one would hardly no it because they don’t claim them.

            • Blackhawk

              what does that have to do with her finding and keeping a man?

              • 9Boots

                it’s called
                Hypocrite

            • Blackhawk

              what does that have to do with her finding and keeping a man?

          • blackbeauty2013

            I can’t be mad @that because I don’t date because I have my twin girls. I just feel they need my attention and affection more than I need a man. I will still be fine when I’m 36 I’ll worry about who finds me acceptable then.lol

            • Blackhawk

              well thats good.. keep it positive mama

      • Chris

        Wow, I think it’s sad that you cannot find what you are looking for even though I know those women are out there. I know because I am a home owning, non-tattooed, non-pierced, non- mother (no kids in or out of wedlock) soon to be college educated (one class left), successful black woman. I have a career in finance and decided to change career paths so I’m seeking a degree. What I will say is that if I’m wandering the city, I’m not always approachable because “hey shorty, with the fat this that or the other” is not an acceptable greeting and I’d rather just keep it moving. However, I have been responsive to those who approach me like a human being. I love my dark skin and couldn’t imagine living in any other. When black men marry white women or black women marry white men I don’t see the big deal because they found someone that loves and values them. When it comes to relationships I do not search out anything. It will happen the way it’s supposed to. You like and relate to those who you have the most in common with so I believe that what is meant for me is meant for me. I focus on being the type of person I would want to date and not worry about why someone didn’t pick me. I’m sure she’s out there but just let your life take you where it may.

    • http://twitter.com/@Mz_Undrstd Miss_Understood

      Also your chocolate skin is not a curse…what is a curse is the inability of some Black men to appreciate and find beauty in women who share the same tones as their own mothers. It’s kind of like that one kid who is allergic to chocolate and never gets a chance to take part and enjoy all the wonderful Easter candy lol

    • 9Boots

      Your chocolate skin is not a curse. Black male cowards are the curse.

      • blackbeauty2013

        Thank you.

    • keesha

      I am a black woman, but why do we as black women need validation or approval from black men, men in general, or other women? Beauty comes from within. It’s time that we love ourselves and find the beauty within ourselves instead of looking for other people to give us complements.

      • blackbeauty2013

        Like I said, I know my worth. My issue is more about the alarming amount of black men who deam us as undesirables. I just dont see mases of white men, latin men or oriental men doing that to the women with in thier race.

        • keesha

          There probably are other men of other races that do the same thing. Just because we don’t see it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen.

          • blackbeauty2013

            Of course it does but can you honestly say as a black woman you can’t understand what I’m feeling. If I saw white men frequently marrying black women after making it to the nba or becoming a star, I would have nothing to stand on but we all know that’s not the case, @ least not yet ; )

            • keesha

              I understand what you are feeling, but I also know that there are plenty of white men who will marry Asian women.

  • DressSox~n~draws

    We are a complicated and confusing group at times.

  • 9Boots

    Black men have been the greatest oppressor of black women for the last 50 years. Black women have the highest homicide rate among women yet we are a minority of the population. Of course it is black men killing black girls and women. We also have the highest incidences of sexual abuse of course at the hands of black men. We are the poorest because black men only want to have sex. They dont want to get married and be the protectors of their wives nor children. It is a shame. NO MORE MULING FOR BLACK MEN!!!!! They are not are allies, you have chosen to be our ENEMIES.

    • get real

      Lmao. Is this a joke? Please tell me how black men have disenfranchised black women? Tell me what can black men do that black women can’t? Tell me about this “privilege that black men have? You do know that crime is intraracial right? Meaning that you will be victimized by someone of your own racial group? Ask white women who are the biggest rapist among their group.

      • 9Boots

        Do you know what misogyny is? Apparently not. It is the hatred or dislike of women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including sexual discrimination, denigration of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification of women. Black men only come around for sex. They refuse to marry and you have to practically hold a gun to their heads to raise THEIR children. They are nothing but sexmongers. NEVER looking for a wife. STOP HAVING SEX WITH THEM! They are not worthy. Save it for the husand that is not a selfish coward and understands that HE is responsible to die for his family if duty calls. These black men want you to die for them and you ain’t even married to them. Despitefully using black women again and again.

        • get real

          Ok, where in this nonsense does it express black male oppression?

          • 9Boots

            Apparently you don’t know what oppression means.
            Definition of OPPRESSION
            1
            a : unjust or cruel exercise of authority or powerb : something that oppresses especially in being an unjust or excessive exercise of power
            2
            : a sense of being weighed down in body or mind : depression
            Murder, rape, physical violence, misogyny in music, refusing to protect and provide are all oppression. Black men refuse to be goodhearted men. Instead of having pure intentions they only look for sex. They refuse to marry so black women have been relegated to only sexual partners and baby mothers hence viewing black women as only sex objects. Black men don’t life a finger to male life a blessing for black women. Instead they get in the way and add load us with impossible burdens. But those days are coming to an end

            • QJ

              Right on 9Boots! As someone who has organized in political groups and in cultural groups, afrocentric and hip hop, ain’t never seen NOTHING like this BS that black men are running down. It’s f’ing WILD! Hip hop artist who are supposed to be “conscious” are doing some mighty shady things behind closed doors… as with the rest of them no counts…

              • 9Boots

                These black men are “FAUX MEN” damn impostors

            • Wepo1

              “Murder, rape, physical violence, misogyny in music, refusing to protect and provide are all oppression”

              All that is from the breakdown of the black family and black women being easy.

              “ They refuse to marry so black women have been relegated to only sexual partners and baby mothers hence viewing black women as only sex objects.”

              That is a poor excuse for why black women have so many babies out of wedlock! Black women don’t want to take accountability for their own reproduction and choose to have babies by men before marriage.

              Black women don’t understand how women should value their own bodies and have good morals. How a women’s carries herself determines her worth as a wife.

              No man feels the need to marry if the woman is worthless and has babies for free.

              • 9Boots

                Of course a black man blaming black women for THE EVIL CHOICES OF MEN. Tell me this, why is it that my grandfather never acted like you evil, selfish, cowardly boys? My grandfather had 14 CHILDREN! He never once abandoned them and he stayed MARRIED to my grandmother for 40 YEARS until she passed and he never remarried. My father has 3 children, have never abandoned and has been MARRIED to our mother for 44 YEARS! Both of these black men have lived through racism and feminism and REFUSED to behave you like you FAUX MEN! Get some CHARACTER & CONVICITION and stop blaming everybody for your selfishness. YOU CHOOSE TO BEHAVE THIS WAY NO ONE IS FORCING YOU. Now maybe you users need to start talking to REAL MEN like my FATHER.

                • inessa

                  unless someone rapes you , YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR BODY!!!!!

                  • 9Boots

                    Unless some demon, or alien forces these black men to unzip their pants, kidnaps them from their children, forces them to murder, rape, and beat, black women, THESE BLACK MISOGYNISTS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR BEHAVIOR.

                • trevor stevenson

                  LOL you’re absolutely correct! problem is men like your grandfather/ father, the 2013 black women are not interested in. Them being responsible, upstanding men as you say, is too lame for today’s black woman

                  • 9Boots

                    Men like father and grandfather BARELY EXIST. But there sure is a lot of wanna be pimps and playas

                    • trevor stevenson

                      You black women can’t have it both ways in one instance you complain these types of men don’t “EXIST” as you claim, then you turn around and say all the good black men ran off with white women lmfao?? which is it??

                • Candace

                  Well said 9Boots! I too had a father who is a real man. My sister is lucky to have found a good man in this present generation. Good men are rare!

                  • 9Boots

                    Candace, it’s time to raise the bar. No more low expectations for black men. Grading on the curve is over.

            • trevor stevenson

              That’s a bunch of baloney. Good black men historically always desired black women and wanted to build strong families. Black women will not take accountability for “ANYTHING”. It was them who wanted the fast life with losers now you’re fed up with the outcome of these losers. As if bw were gonna hook up with these types of men and magically they were gonna be good family men who will provide and be good role models when they’re coming from a cesspool culture that would of never brought about those results. BW’s decisions have ABSOLUTELY no logic!!! Those same good men they were never interested in, went on to raise strong families. While BW are stuck griping, singing the blues

              • 9Boots

                Tell me this, why is it that my grandfather never acted like you evil, selfish, cowardly boys? My grandfather had 14 CHILDREN! He never once abandoned them and he stayed MARRIED to my grandmother for 40 YEARS until she passed and he never remarried. My father has 3 children, he has not abandoned and has been MARRIED to our mother for 44 YEARS! Both of these black men have lived through racism and feminism and REFUSED to behave like you FAUX MEN! Get some CHARACTER & CONVICITION and stop blaming everybody for your selfishness. YOU CHOOSE TO BEHAVE THIS WAY NO ONE IS FORCING YOU.

                • trevor stevenson

                  Evil?? wooo that’s a little strong! Nothing evil about me here but anyways..You keep deflecting from the point! Your rage stems from multiple losers you all have chosen to be with simple as that! You BW seen something intriguing about loser bad boys from a young age and then after a life long of consequences and realization that the fun came with pain and disappointment you scorn every LAST black man even the so-called “nerds” who desired you and you clowned them because they weren’t exciting enough. Are the “good” black men supposed to be accountable for that? Where’s the accountability? Please tell me exactly what black women are accountable for??? And please name at least one if you are really trying to be fair and honest with yourselves.

                  • 9Boots

                    Black women are accountable for having sex with men they are not married to but those days are coming to an end. Black women have wised up and the black misogynists will only be left to have sex with prostitutes and women of other races.

                    You misogynists are accountable for having sex with women you are not married to. In addition you misogynists are accountable for:

                    1. being liars and not admitting you treat black women like dirt
                    2. making black women & girls have the highest murder and sexual abuse rates
                    3. physically abusing black women & girls
                    4. abandoning your children
                    5. your lack of taking responsibility for providing, food, clothing, and shelter for your children
                    6. promoting and supporting misogyny via (c)rap and R&B music

                    7. your desire to want to be pimps and playas therefore you are always looking for new sexual partners and practically never looking for a wife.

                    8. your lack of protecting black women and girls

                    9. you so called “good black men” don’t lift a finger and refuse to rally together and have a common goal to man up and get a wife and to return to the millions of sons and daughters they have abandoned.

                    • trevor stevenson

                      It’s funny cause everything you listed is foreign to me.

                      - I’ve never abused a black woman in my LIFE! And i don’t promote hiphop R&B misogynistic lyrics,
                      - I am NOT a rapper i have chosen a profession other than music and also i am not a record executive behind hiphop music who USE rappers to promote misogyny against their women.
                      - When black women throw their men under the bus and hate them who’s gonna protect them?

                      Question the education black men who are with white women and other race of women there’s always exceptions but do you think think those are the types of men would treat black women like that or do you think it’s the thugs? Which women are getting the best black men and which women are getting the worst black men?

                      These other women know this about black women, they know you diss the good ones, why do you think they infiltrate your men?

                    • 9Boots

                      You so called “good black men” don’t lift a finger and refuse to rally together and have a common goal to inspire and demand black men man up and get a wife and to return to the millions of sons and daughters they have abandoned and to treat black women better as human beings. PERIOD

                      “When black women throw their men under the bus and hate them who’s gonna protect them?”
                      1. We know it certainly is not black men
                      2. That is for us to know and you not to find out

                    • trevor stevenson

                      And do you really think ANY movement in the world is gonna stop people from having sex? esp. black people? Pre marital sex is going nowhere its always been that way. Both black men and women need to use protection and try not to have babies

                    • 9Boots

                      We shall see about that

              • Witchery

                Ok, so if I entertain your stupidity and mediocrity, you are saying that the majority black women choose loser black men for mating and left ALL the good black men alone and lonely holding his good black man balls; this is your course of logic to explain the high incidence of loser black men now. Science proves that there are and always has been more women than men. So deductive reasoning leads me to know that this could only mean that the majority of black men have always been losers and that the women’s probability of choosing said losers was/is always significantly higher than other groups. Could it be that we have no better stock to choose from? We’re not in-breeders, so we are choosing individual, separate men (except for those losers that lie about their relationship status to attract a woman) and thus you guys are really losers. Who shall we choose, eachother?

              • deborah lowery

                You need to read the history of Frederick Douglas, married to a black woman with children and bringing in his white feminist, abolitionist hoars to live with his family, over and over again, disrespecting his wife till the day she died, then he outright married one of the trollups and this story is nothing new I have friends whose fathers have been with their mothers for 40 years but they have brothers and sisters younger than that. Why did she stay, because black women were not included in the feminist movement, they were under there mens thumbs with no where to go. Today the tides are turning and it is a wonderful thing to see, my daughter is going to be a PHD I have a BS and her choices in men even of different races will be there. I hope she can find a wonderful black man like her father, but the choice is hers.

            • ConsciousBM

              Love how your soooooooooooo comfortable creating a monolith out of Black men but the reverse is Misogyny. I mean seriously how could anyone spew so much vemon and hold that much bias yet expect others to cater to their concerns as a whole (Dominant Society or their Black male peers). Go ahead date/marry out but I hope your kids come out light like their father because if they come out in a brown shade I’m afraid for their self-esteem. You will almost certainly express your disgust for black males and he will look in the mirror and see that he is in fact a black or brownish male and then it’s just a case of a self-furfilling prophecy and he’ll possibly give in to the MYTH of black male inferiority and become everything your ranting against sad part is even if he doesn’t succumb to that fate he may resent you for your views and choices. He will love his father but you will just be another example of a bitter black women with low self-esteem but hey your own self-furfilling prophecy will also be complete because having such a pathetic self-hating mother will all but ensure that he won’t bring “you” home and that blackness you tried so hard to water down and dilute will not come back in the form of grandkids. You will get to die knowing that your kids and grands won’t have to go through the same struggles you did, which is really what your all about. That’s why your claiming the days of being attached to black men are coming to an end.

          • ConsciousBM

            Notice how she isn’t mad at the system of white supremacy just white women. That should tell you everything you need to know about black feminist like her. She doesn’t even give crediance to what white women continue to go through today but act as though the main nonblack feminist movement owes them something. They are literally trying to replace white women knowing that white women have a lot of the same issues but since they have a major case of the grass is greener on the other side then still want to do it. Never mind working to improve the community they belong too, women like her just want to jump ship and they get mad when no one but her like minded peers take her seriously.

        • lovethyneighbor

          9boots is brilliant!

          • Drew

            Sarcasm???

          • 9Boots

            Right on lovethyneighbor! You are brilliant too!

        • trevor stevenson

          That is VERY interesting to say “black men only come around for sex”
          when that’s clearly the only thing white men are coming around for. Black women have a logic that only makes sense to black women and them ONLY. BW pick and choose all the men the have children with (which are no good to begin with) then turn around and say black men this black men that as if they’re generalizing all of them even the “good” ones that they dismissed. Now as a result of your negligence and failure to make logical decisions on the types of men you choose, you join these feminist groups for empowerment which is another path that leads to nowhere lol. For once black women need to fight for a cause to that pertains to them

          • 9Boots

            70% of black women are single. BLACK MEN REFUSE TO MARRY! SEXMONGERS. ALWAYS LOOKN FOR A NEW SEX PARTNER.

            • trevor stevenson

              Badboys and thugs don’t marry, REAL men marry and build families. Again these are the types of men black women are choosing

              • 9Boots

                Since 70% of black men are single by your logic 70% of black men are badboys and thugs because they are not married. Yep sounds about right.

                • trevor stevenson

                  But the joke is 70% of black men are NOT single lol. No other race or gender has a single percentage number remotely close to that. So you’re wrong! Black men went on to other races where they were accepted, appreciated and don’t have to deal with certain issues that comes with dealing with black women! How’s that logic for you?

                  • 9Boots

                    Ok, make it 68%. The census numbers don’t lie. If you are not married you are single. Your sex partner does not count as a wife. Yes, black men are so accepted and appreciated by these other races that you still have the HIGHEST DIVORCE RATE WITH EVERYONE YOU MARRY.
                    How’s that logic for you?

                  • 9Boots

                    Ok, make it 68%. The census numbers don’t lie. If you are not married you are single. Your sex partner does not count as a wife. Yes, black men are so accepted and appreciated by these other races that you still have the HIGHEST DIVORCE RATE WITH EVERYONE YOU MARRY.
                    How’s that logic for you?

                  • Concerned Reader

                    What certain issues? Go on, list those pitiful issues, little boy. I will disprove EVERY single one of them with the click on a mouse. Go on! I dare you.

            • Blackey

              70% of black women are single = 70% of black men aren’t interested in marrying. I agree – SEX MONGERS

              I say we start outing them by name and city, state!

              • 9Boots

                LOL. I have a better idea…let’s cut them off. No marriage, no sex. They ain’t worthy! Let’s give men of other races a shot at all this goodness!

      • Wepo1

        Bw don’t want bm to be men or to learn patriarchy. They want to keep bm beneath them like they do their sons. They want a complete matriarchy.

        They complain about what the black man not being man enough but at the same time calling him a misogynist for being in control. None of their arguments are valid!

        This is an attempt to demonized the black male just like white men have done in the past and present. Bw will call bm abusive, rapist, and misogynist if they sense black men mobilizing a cause to be real men.

        Black men must understand that we are fighting against our own women to survive because they’re raising black children to think just like black feminist.

        If that tag said blackpower is for blackwomen this would not be an issue.

        • 9Boots

          You black men have CHOSEN to be demons. You murder, rape, molest, and beat black women and little girls. You son’s of SATAN are not entitled to treat us this way! WE have had enough!

          • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

            Son’s of satan? You reaching a bit far with that one.

            • 9Boots

              Evil comes from Satan. Murder, rape, women beating, misogyny, and denial are evil. Certainly these behaviors do not come from GOD’s Sons

              • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

                Evil comes in all shades, not just black and brown so to generalize is ignorant.

                • 9Boots

                  Excuse me. Is this discussion not about misogyny in the BLACK community. Stay on topic. We aren’t talking about other men at this time. Quit deflecting

                  • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

                    Seeing how men play a HUGE part when it comes to misogyny, I think my comment was very valid. And I agree. Get some counseling bub.

                    • 9Boots

                      I’ll get some counseling after were done publicly exposing and shaming the hell out of theses evil cowards. MILLIONS of black women and girls have been murdered, beaten, and raped and tit will continue to happen. WE DESERVE BETTER. Now kick rocks you misogyny sympathizer.

          • Blackhawk

            not trying to be funny.. but it may be time for some counseling

            • 9Boots

              You misogynists need counseling on the following areas.
              1. stop being liars and admit you treat black women like dirt
              2. stop blaming white men and black women for your behavior
              3. black women do not exist for the sole purpose of sex and your fight against the white man
              4. you should be looking for a wife instead of a harem
              5. get some self control and keep your zippers up until you get married
              6. do not abandon your children
              7. you are responsible for providing, food, clothing, and shelter
              8. stop raping and sexually abusing women and girls
              9. stop physically abusing women and girls
              10. stop promoting misogyny

              • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

                I do agree with you here though

            • Drew

              Yeah, the comments I’ve read — at the very least — garner counseling and a 48-hour hold.

        • I_am_a_Gladiator/Scandalista

          Black men are fighting against black women to survive? That has to be the most laughable thing I have ever heard. Now I do want our black men to succeed don’t get me wrong but black men are their own worst enemy. They keep themselves down then always want to blame black women for their struggles and unwise, selfish decisions. Black women did not stop black men from getting an education, getting a career, opening their own business, or taking care of their children. What black men need to do is take a hard look in the mirror because there, they will find the answer to their problems.

          • Blackhawk

            I think what Brother Wepo is referring to is the brainwashing that happens when black boys are raised by single mothers

        • trevor stevenson

          LMFAO HAHAHA “If they sense black men mobilizing a cause to be real men” so true! They are confused and instead of dealing with the confusion they use black men as a scapegoat. they’re raising “bitchmade” men to reverse the roles and it eventually will bring genocide on the entire black family

      • keesha

        Gender privilege is what people are talking about.

    • Nope

      Regardless of race, IMO it’s typically women that hold themselves back the most. Sisterhood is almost nonexistant whether you’re talking about Black women or women in general, and too many love their Convenient Rights. And Black men don’t have the power to oppress anyone to begin with. And I’m sorry, but I don’t think most women are having sex and kids with men at gunpoint, those are just the result of p*ss poor decision making by both parties.

      • Nope

        I think the other day MN had a lengthy list of many typical health issues with Black women. Did we do that to Black women too???

      • 9Boots

        Do you know what misogyny is? Apparently not. It is the hatred or dislike of women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including sexual discrimination, denigration of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification of women. Black men only come around for sex. They refuse to marry and you have to practically hold a gun to their heads to raise THEIR children. They are nothing but sexmongers. NEVER looking for a wife. STOP HAVING SEX WITH THEM! They are not worthy. Save it for the husand that is not a selfish coward and understands that HE is responsible to die for his family if duty calls. These black men want you to die for them and you ain’t even married to them. Despitefully using black women again and again.

      • Tonyoardee

        No one put a gun to your head and made you have sex with him and carry his baby

        • 9Boots

          No one holds a gun to your head and makes YOU un zip YOUR pants and hide from YOUR children

          • inessa

            then you can agree that you are both at fault!

      • Just saying!!

        Unity among women is definitely an issue, but I think you are failing to see the part that black men play in manipulating that dynamic. Black men have always dictated which issues were at the forefront of the movement for black equality, what black beauty was, and often times how what the black family would look like. I’m sorry to say, that although both parties have played their part, right now black men are acting as a heavy weight that black women refuse to let go of, but don’t know how to help. I’ve very young (early 20s) and not sexually active, and even I have found myself becoming bitter by observing the treatment of black men towards black women, especially when compared to other racial groups.

        • Just saying!!

          *sighs* sorry for typos… Autocorrect lol

          **I’m in my early 20s

    • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

      WRONG…..AS “NOPE” ALREADY STATED EARLIER, BLACK MEN HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO POWER TO OPPRESS BLACK WOMEN, BECAUSE WE HAVE NO ECONOMIC POWER STRUCTURE, WE DO NOT CONTROL THE MEDIA, WE DO NOT CONTROL THE MILITARY, AND WE DO NOT CONTROL ANY FORM OF POWER, NOR DO WE HAVE ANY ACTUAL POLITICAL STRENGTH HERE IN AMERICA EITHER…..AS FOR THE LAST 50 YEARS, I DIRECT YOU TO THE WHITE FEMINIST MOVEMENT BACK IN THE 60s WHERE GLORIA STEINEM WAS PUMPING BLACK WOMENS’ HEADS FULL OF NONSENSE ABOUT HOW THEY SHOULD JOIN THEIR (THE WHITE FEMINISTS’) FIGHT AS OPPOSED TO HELPING THEIR OWN MEN ESTABLISH STRONG AND VIRULENT COMMUNITIES IN WHICH THE BLACK NUCLEAR FAMILY COULD FLOURISH…..WHAT’S EVEN FUNNIER THAN THAT IS THE FACT THAT ONCE THOSE WHITE FEMINISTS GOT WHAT THEY WANTED, WHAT DID THEY DO???? I’LL TELL YOU….GLORIA STEINEM MOVED TO BEVERLY HILLS WITH HER HUSBAND AND NEVER MADE ANOTHER PEEP ABOUT FEMINISM…..THE BLACK WOMEN THAT ACTUALLY “FELL FOR THE BANANA IN THE TAILPIPE” WERE LEFT TO FEND FOR THEMSELVES, AND WE CAN NOW SEE THAT AS A RESULT OF BLACK WOMEN FEEDING OFF OF GOVERNMENT HANDOUTS AND THE FACT THAT A MAN IN THE HOUSE IS DESIRED, YET NOT REQUIRED, THE PHRASES “I DON’T NEED NO DAMN MAN!!!!”, OR “I’M A STRONG AND INDEPENDENT BLACK WOMAN!!!!” ARE ONLY TRUE AS A RESULT OF THESE WEAK WOMEN HAVING SO LITTLE FAITH IN THEIR OWN MEN THAT THEY ARE REDUCED TO S3X OBJECTS AND ARE OF LITTLE VALUE FOR ANYTHING ELSE, BECAUSE THAT IS HOW THESE MEN CURRENTLY VIEW THEM AS A RESULT OF THE GOVERNMENT AND AFRICAN AMERICAN BLACK WOMEN NOT ALLOWING THESE BLACK MEN TO BE MEN!!!! DON’T BELIEVE ME??? I DIRECT YOU TO YOUR NEAREST BLACK NEIGHBORHOOD!!!! THAT IS WHY THESE WOMEN ARE NOT EVER INTRINSICALLY VALUED AND COMPLAIN ABOUT IT, BECAUSE WHITE MEN REALIZE THAT WHITE WOMEN ARE NECESSARY TO MAINTAIN THEIR SUPREMACY, AND THEY WILL NEVER EVER PUT BLACK WOMEN ON A PEDESTAL OVER THEIR OWN WOMEN!!! IT’S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN, LADIES…..IF YOU’D LIKE TO SEE BLACK WOMEN TRULY APPRECIATED FOR WHO AND WHAT THEY ARE AS A RESULT OF THEIR OWN PHYSICAL FEATURES AND NATURAL ATTRACTIVENESS, YOU WILL HAVE TO ESTABLISH MULTIPLE STRONG, BLACK, AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES AND NETWORKS THAT WILL THEN ALLOW BLACK MEN AND WOMEN TO BE IN CHARGE OF THEIR OWN ECONOMIC DESTINY AND ESTABLISH A TRULY PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY…..OTHERWISE, GET READY FOR MORE OF THE SAME OLD “RINSE, WASH, REPEAT”, LADIES!!!!!!!!! AS FOR YOUR PATHETIC RANTS ABOUT HOMICIDES, S3XUAL ABUSE, AND ALL OF THE OTHER ILLS IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY, YOU PLACE THE BLAME ON BLACK MEN, YET FAIL TO MENTION THAT A) MOST CRIMES AGAINST THE WOMEN OF ANY RACE ARE MORE OFTEN THAN NOT COMMITTED BY MEMBERS OF THEIR OWN RACE. B) BASED ON THE FACT THAT 75% OF ALL SINGLE PARENT HOMES ARE HEADED BY AFRICAN AMERICAN BLACK WOMEN, THE QUESTION BEGS TO BE ASKED THAT IF THESE MEN ARE SO HORRIBLE AND MALADJUSTED, WHO IS RAISING THEM IF THE MEN ARE (ACCORDING TO YOUR OWN A$$ERTION) “NOT THERE”???? ALSO, YOU DRONE ON AND ON ABOUT BLACK MEN NOT MARRYING AND PROTECTING YOU, AND YET YOU CONSIDER THEM TO BE ENEMIES, BUT FAIL TO TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THAT IF YOU LADIES CONSIDER YOURSELVES TO BE “STRONG AND INDEPENDENT”, AND YOU “DON’T NEED NO MAN”, THEN YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO FEND FOR YOURSELVES….IN A TRULY EGALITARIAN SOCIETY, WOMEN GET TREATED LIKE MEN DO, AND THERE IS NO TAKING INTO ACCOUNT THAT WOMEN ARE NATURALLY WEAKER THAN MEN, SO ONCE AGAIN, THAT IS THE SOCIETY THAT YOU LADIES ASKED FOR, SO NOW YOU GET TO LIVE IN IT……

      JUSTICE IS SERVED!!!!!!!!!

      • get real

        Flex, is this you?

        • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

          WHO IS THIS “FLEX” THAT YOU SPEAK OF??????

          • get real

            The homie Tariq.

            • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

              NO, I’M NOT HIM, BUT I AM FAMILIAR WITH HIS WORK, THOUGH…..

        • http://twitter.com/@Mz_Undrstd Miss_Understood

          I noticed that most of the “trolls” and intentional race baitors on MN and B0SSIP type their responses in all CAPS so I just pass them on by lol

          • Cool Breeze [Trap Star]

            You’re one of the trolls from Bossip.

            • Wepo1

              Articles like this is why I believe black women have been compromised and cannot be helped.

              They are black feminist so they lie whenever they see anything about black men being men.

              Bw will only accept black women being “strong and independent.”

          • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

            WHY DO I HAVE TO BE A “TROLL” JUST BECAUSE I DISAGREE WITH YOU AND PRESENT AN OPPOSING PERSPECTIVE ON THE FOUL BEHAVIORS OF SOME OF THESE MODERN DAY AFRICAN AMERICAN BLACK WOMEN??? IT WOULD SEEM TO ME THAT YOU ARE ATTEMPTING TO DEFLECT THEIR BLAME……….

        • Nope

          “BASED ON THE FACT THAT 75% OF ALL SINGLE PARENT HOMES ARE HEADED BY AFRICAN AMERICAN BLACK WOMEN, THE QUESTION BEGS TO BE ASKED THAT IF THESE MEN ARE SO HORRIBLE AND MALADJUSTED, WHO IS RAISING THEM TO BE THAT WAY IF THE MEN ARE (ACCORDING TO YOUR OWN A$$ERTION) “NOT THERE” TO RAISE THEM????”

          **crickets**

          • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

            IGNORING A PROBLEM WON’T MAKE IT GO AWAY……..

            • Nope

              I was in agreement with you. That’s a question women don’t usually have a response to. A lot of women complain about how men are being raised, when THEY are usually the one’s raising them.

              • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

                DEFINITELY!!!! MY POST WAS NOT TO BASH THEM, BUT TO INFORM THEM, BECAUSE YOU CAN’T DO WHAT’S RIGHT UNTIL YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING WRONG……AND IN SO DOING, I APOLOGIZE IF YOU THOUGHT I WAS BEING FACETIOUS……

          • 9Boots

            How about you ask yourselves why are black men to selfish and cowardly to raise their children. ABSENTEE FATHERS. Now wear your title.

            • Real Truths

              Sorry we don’t have the luxury of aborting 10 million+ babies. When a man doesn’t want to raise children he’s a deadbeat. When it’s a woman it’s “pro-choice”. Black men go to jail for not being able to afford kids, his co-conspirator gets Section8, Welfare, WIC and everything else…..strange.

              • 9Boots

                how about black men keep their zippers up until they get married

                • Tonyoardee

                  how about making better decisions with your vessel?

                  • 9Boots

                    Yes Tonyoardee how about you selfish, cowardly, misogynists make better decisions with your vessel. keep your zippers up and you wont have to turn into an absentee father. deadbeats

              • 9Boots

                if these black men can’t afford kids then DON’T HAVE SEX

                • Real Truths

                  Seem like women can’t either. What about b/c, I guess that’s 100% men’s decision. Can’t wait until pills, IUDs, female condoms are invented!

                  • 9Boots

                    there is male birth control.
                    1. abstinence
                    2. condoms (stop begging women to leave off the condoms)
                    3. vasectomy

                    and if the condom breaks, too bad. you gambled and played the odds and lost. man up, keep them zippers up

                    • Real Truths

                      Well wouldn’t that be the “Black man” holding you down? Not expecting black women to play her part in making conscious choices when it comes to her body? After all, how dare he impose 100% over her body! Expecting her to carry half the load…damn how they hate those women!

                    • 9Boots

                      That made no sense

              • deborah lowery

                omg there goes another excuse

            • stewie

              because you are not a women. Who in his right mind would want to live with you.

              • 9Boots

                You are a faux woman, a conquered and castrated black man

          • blackbeauty2013

            Prisons

          • gina

            A woman can’t teach a boy how to be a man, only a father can do that, but Black men would rather abandon their offspring then to stay around and raise them. PRESIDENT OBAMA said the same thing! Lol

            • Herm Cain

              Stop trying to make boys men and get on birth control or make him wear a condom too many kids out of wedlock to act like brothers are the problem black women are h*es who try to trap and hold your seed hostage you think sex equates to marriage and and it doesn’t sometimes its just sex protect yourself because if a child comes from the situation who’s stuck

              • gina

                Here’s a solution Black women should abort Black male babies! Black women already outnumber Black men, so this should even things out. Black women don’t want to get stuck with a child and Black men don’t want to raise their own child, this way everyone’s happy.

                • blackbeauty2013

                  You think abortion is a joke. I rarely cuss but you can eat sh1t and die you miserable b1tch.

                  • Gina

                    Girl have several of theses. /_

                    • Herm Cain

                      Lol you wh**es can’t get along and don’t like each other no wonder your single smdh

                    • Gina

                      Zimmerman! Oh Zimmerman, where is that damn man when you need him??? I’m not single, I’m dating a White boy! Nice try assuming I was single peaches! Hold on that is what you gay men like to be called right?

                • gina

                  Black women are raising Black males who grow up to disrespect and hate Black women, so what’s the point in raising them at all? Keep the black girls and get rid of black boys!

                  • blackbeauty2013

                    You sound like you have alot of pain dealing with black men. If so im sorry, but what your saying isn’t funny.

                    • Gina

                      I don’t date Black men and I don’t have any kids by them either, it’s not meant to be funny it’s the truth!

                    • Herm Cain

                      I agree start aborting let the bastard cleansing began and watch the community clean up when we no longer allow these ratchet ignorant young hoes to reproduce the brothers and sisters who are trying may have it a little easier

                    • Gina

                      Let me say this one more time, Black women outnumber Black men, we will be fine…Black men should be worried, because their will no longer be males that have brown skin that look like YOU.

                    • Real Truths

                      Thank God! Your exit from the black gene pool is the best news I’ve head all day! You’re probably a runt of the litter who couldn’t run with real black women anyways.

                    • deborah lowery

                      In China they get rid of the girls and keep the boys, now in some areas men don’t have women to marry, this is not a solution.

                  • Jeriel Patrick

                    What would getting rid of Black boys do?

                • 9Boots

                  The solution is stop having sex with black men. It’s pointless. They are always looking for the next person to sex never trying to get married

                • Real Truths

                  Funny I see non-black men kicking down doors to have you…LOL. Don’t worry, your white daddy won’t need you too much longer. He’s accomplished his goals. Slowly they’re turning on you now….lol.

                  • Gina

                    Non Black women are kicking down doors to help bring justice for Black men- Zimmerman jury ring a bell? White men are killing Black men NOT us! You should try picking up a NEWSPAPER sometime. Trayvon Martin wasn’t the only Black male killed by other races, like I said before it’s OPEN SEASON and Black men are the target! Deal with it!

              • blackbeauty2013

                Black women are hoes? NO some women are hoes. Considering how many men leave thier children, getting pregnant isnt much of a trap.

              • gina

                Black men are jailbirds, homosexuals, unemployed deadbeats and the list goes on….

                • Real Truths

                  And black women, raised and bred that type of behavior.

            • Real Truths

              Like he abandoned all those guys to die in Benghazi?

              • 9Boots

                no like black misogynists abandon their children

          • Jeriel Patrick

            Theres a cycle being played out the Fathers run and the sons are the ones that grow up without one. Now this son who grows up with a Man-hating mother because of the Father running out on them basically has a choice to raise a strong, independent, wise, educated, loving son while also teaching him to LOVE BW the proper way. The way GOD intended. Or the she can put him down and rant on about how BM are no-good-rotting dogs for the most of that kids life. I’m going to say thats going leave a hefty mark on the kid.

            I think its both the Men and Women’s fault both parties are involved and both knew what they were doing. Now its MENS turn to step up as a lot of African women are stepping up and I’m not talking about feminism. I’m talking about plain common sense.

          • Concerned Reader

            You are a child. You alone are responsible for your wrongdoings. God will judge you based on that and you know it. The pathetic, girlish black male as usual, blaming the woman for his evil. Pitiful girl.

          • deborah lowery

            why are so many black women raising children alone? the question of the century is where the answer lies. children need to have their father around, if not boys do not have an example of how to treat women and our girls don”t know how they are suppose to be treated

      • 9Boots

        Do you know what misogyny is? Apparently not. It is the hatred or dislike of women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including sexual discrimination, denigration of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification of women. No wear your title. MISOGYNIST.

        • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

          I THINK NOT, “MISANDRIST”……I’LL STICK WITH BEING A REALIST INSTEAD……

          • 9Boots

            ha ha ha. The term and concept of “misandry” holds just as much weight as “reverse racism”. ha ha ha

      • Amber

        You can’t be men because you have no power? This sounds like a cop out, not taking responsibility, it’s the same the world over with bm. Bm as individuals you have the power to do many things such as looking after the children you produce, to be productive, in Africa to feed your people, whose stopping you from being men, the simple and most basic things you can do are not being prevented by the white men but by yourselves.

      • trevor stevenson

        LOL Actually saw a video of Gloria Steinem the other day where she was defending Trayvon Martin, You kind of sense the shame in her voice while she was pretending as if she was down with black males from the begginning

      • deborah lowery

        How did you make that long connection, most black female don’t evne and didn’t even know whop Gloria Steinem was, only a few mayhave been guilty

    • Cool Breeze [Trap Star]

      so who was oppressing you before the last 50yrs began? Oh you would never say a bad word about your white daddy. That would never happen because he keeps you negro women fat and happy off welfare and cheap student loans.

      • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

        LET’S NOT FORGET SECTION 8 HOUSING, EBT CARDS AND FREE COLLEGE EDUCATIONS, AND EVEN WITH THOSE, ALL THEY EVER DO IS GET DEGREES IN SUBJECTS THAT THEY ACTUALLY CAN’T EARN ANY REAL MONEY IN, Mr. Cool Breeze [Trap Star] I DEFINITELY AGREE!!!!!!

        • Cool Breeze [Trap Star]

          You right but these women don’t want to hear the truth. All they wanna do is blame black men for everything that goes wrong with them. They get all sorts of government aid and still can’t find their way out the ghetto or stop having children out of wedlock by thugs and deadbeats.

          • MRFINALJUSTICE2012

            PRECISELY!!!!! I DO CONCUR!!!!!!

          • 9Boots

            Awhhh yo guys aren’t smart enough to get degrees?

          • Herm Cain

            +100 and you will not get a response black women don’t want to be held accountable for their actions it’s to easy to pin on Tyrone’s dumb illiterate a** I guess he said no condom feels better so all these ghetto queens went with it the only culture that celebrates babymamahood

        • blackbeauty2013

          2 out of 3 of black women recieving section 8 and food assistance, There is some good for nothing man eating that food and playing video games on her couch. How much does the goverment spend housing, feeding, and clothing black men who are not even trying to work, be dual parents and a active part of the community. I’ll ask your white daddy.

          • http://www.greaterunderstanding.net/ Anthony Brian Logan

            a real woman gets with a forward-thinking man and helps him build a stable life for the both of them and their children. a lost and confused woman gets on government assistance and keeps a bum in her house for sex.

      • 9Boots

        Stop deflecting. For the last 50 years white men have not been having sex with black women and refusing to marry them. White men have not been producing children with black women and running away from their children like they are the plague. White men don’t ask us to march for them every other damn day. White men gives us jobs and YOU get jobs from them too. We cant apply at the black businesses because…oh wait black men dont create jobs. ha ha ha.

        • Real Truths

          Are you one of those black women who only has $5 net wealth?

          • 9Boots

            Single black women have $5 of net worth because black women are more likely then single black men to:
            1. own their OWN home in comparison to single black men because they live with their mom or mooch off their girlfriend
            2. go to college and earn bachelors and masters degrees therefore paying back student loans.
            3. financially support their children while the absentee fathers create more babies

            drops mic…..

            • Real Truths

              Sorry…doesn’t add up. I give you points for trying but still doesn’t add up.

              • 9Boots

                Stop being a simpleton

      • Chris

        Student loans are not cheap! But then again, I don’t have kids and work full-time and go to school full-time.

      • Concerned Reader

        First of all, negro means “black”. You know, that’s why it’s the same in Spanish, like Sabado (Sabbath) is Saturday. So, using it as an “insult” shows your low IQ.
        Secondly, do you know that out of the race, black males are the LEAST educated, by far? Research. So what if black women have cheap student loans? Another miserably inadequate attempt at an insult. FAIL! Btw, I know at least 3 black women in my tiny circle who have studied with scholarships from their excellent grades.
        Thirdly, these women go on to become successful in their careers obviously; whereas, the uneducated black males rely on: some type of ball game, a trade (not saying this is all bad), drugs, rapping stupid rhymes etc to make money. You can see this. In other words, they would be on welfare if it wasn’t for the fact that they could lift up a brick.

    • Ebony Blanca

      I’m happy to see black women finally wake up. The black community is not only full of misogynistic black men but black women are very misogynistic as well. I can’t go to any black forum without sistas saying some sexist ignorant bull crap. Misogyny, sexism, and patriarchy are all oppressive structures so for negro men to try and play clueless as if it doesn’t oppress is laughable. They can call out racism from top to bottom and white male patriarchy like it’s nothing even in the process defend white women, but we’re suppose to ignore the fact that it exists within the black community too? Our black daughters are growing up with a since of consfusion. She’s wondering how am I excelling in college and financially but I’m still being blamed for all the failures of the black community? Black people have this sick idea that sexism, misogyny and patriarchy at the fate of black men is some sort of weapon for white supremacy. It’s the only way we feel black men have the same power and control as the white man by imulating his very structures. Black who’ve been traditionally told that black male progression is more important than her own, support it. We’re told to see the good in every black man from the thugs the Obama types, but every time we see a black woman she’s guilty to proven innocent. It’s virtually disgusting.

      • Ebony Blanca

        *emulating

        • 9Boots

          You are right!! Since the beginning of time all men of all nations and tribes understood it is THEIR responsibility to provide food, shelter, protection, train their sons, and GO TO WAR if need be. Black men keep shuckin their responisbility because they are too busy crying about the white man. Ain’t nothin changed black men, if you are still men, you are responsible for the above actions regardless of the circumstance. Stop relying on women to fight men’s battles! Man UP!

    • Real Truths

      What a joke. You and the 20 dummies who upvoted and sit your a** down. You’re right the big bad evil black man keeps you from employment, education, getting loans, voting, owning homes/cars/businesses and etc. right? Woman up and take some responsibility for once in your life. You can’t name 5 black men that have systematically had the power to hold you back. That’s right “BLAME THE BLACK MAN”. We’re like Al-Qaeda, everywhere and nowhere at once, the ever present threat to destroy black women…LOL. We’re there to be blamed when we aren’t there, to be blamed when we are there, hated when we command authority, hated when we don’t. Every failing in your life is to be blamed on a black man. Love the hypocrisy. But if a black man were to talk about the “Evil black woman” that crap is shut down immediately. Let’s be real, black men were raised by women. Mothers, sisters, aunts, grandmothers. So it’s black men who were raised to respect black women, unfortunately that respect all to often isn’t reciprocated. Black men (excluding crime) can get along with each other better than black women could anyday. Big vs. Skinny, Darkskin vs. Lightskin, “Good hair” vs. “bad hair”. Deal with your own issues then come talk to us. BET ALL YOU BLACK WOMEN CAN NAME 5 WOMEN RIGHT NOW WHO HELD YOU BACK, PLOTTED ON YOU, UNDERMINED YOU, LIED ON YOU AND ETC….the irony.

      • 9Boots

        Do you know what misogyny is? Apparently not. It is the hatred or dislike of women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including sexual discrimination, denigration of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification of women.

        Apparently you don’t know what oppression means.
        Definition of OPPRESSION
        1
        a : unjust or cruel exercise of authority or powerb : something that oppresses especially in being an unjust or excessive exercise of power
        2
        : a sense of being weighed down in body or mind : depression
        Murder, rape, physical violence, misogyny in music, refusing to protect and provide are all oppression. You have chosen to be our enemies

      • Candace

        Real Truths you’re the reason I want nothing to do with black men. The only black men I care about are my relatives. As for the rest of the black male population they can fend for themselves.

    • Wepo1

      For over 40 years bw have been blaming and criticizing bm for the problems in the BC. Soon as bm starting fighting back and placing blame and criticizing bw it becomes a problem.

      I think the relationship needs to be severed.

      • Ebony Blanca

        What fighting back? Black women have never had a chance to speak out. We’ve been silenced all of our lives until now. The Civil Rights movement was centered entirely around black male progression. Everything for black rights is centered entirely around black men. Black women’s issues which intersect being female and black was often ignored by the black community in pursuit of black male protection and uplifting in a white man’s society. If anything in this day and age black women are the one’s waking up and finally speaking out. The mule role is no longer black women’s position and I’m happy to see sistas finally refuse to be abused verbally and mentally from black people anymore. A black girl 14 years of age graduated college with a PHD raised by her black mother, and another black girl became the youngest to pass Britian’s bar exam, and black woman became Italy’s first black prime minister and it took a damn tooth and nail to even search these sistas but hairweaves and other irrelevant crap about black women pop up in the search engine like pimples. Crap is pathetic.

        • Wepo1

          Really?

          Look I believe black male and female working together will never happen which is the foundation for black unity. When the male and female cannot get along as one the family becomes obsolete and the black community becomes like it is now(chaotic)

          I don’t believe black men and women have anything to offer each other. The black woman teaches a black man’s son feminist propaganda making him into a simp. I believe if a black man wants a child that believes in patriarchy and how to be a man he needs to have his children by other races of women. Same goes for black women.

          There is no hope when it gets to this level where the women blame the men for things that have never happen. Black women blaming men when those same men they blame were raised by black women.

          Black women blaming black men for rape and abuse just like the white man’s media does to the black male.

          “A black girl 14 years of age graduated college with a PHD raised by her black mother, and another black girl became the youngest to pass Britian’s bar exam, and black woman became Italy’s first black prime minister”

          You black women will brag about that black 14 year old and another women achieving greatness as if black men were the ones keeping blacks from achieving. You all don’t see a black women’s success as a black achievement, but only as a black women’s achievement.
          Others races of women don’t think like that!

          You brag about the achievements of single black mothers but never mention the many failures of single black mothers in prisons, teen mothers,baby mama, and in the grave.

          • Ebony Blanca

            No you didn’t just complain about feminist propaganda and quote patriarchy as a freaking structure that’s okay to teach children. I stopped reading after that. You just proved that trending topic 100%

      • 9Boots

        Yes the relationship needs to be severed. Go ask the women of other races to march for you and fornicate with you and then you can also abandon your children with them too. Also start murdering, raping, and beating them too so that they can have the highest homicide and sexual abuse rates! Good riddance