This one can be very hard to hear, but if a friend sees that you just aren’t putting in the work to have the things you b*tch and whine about not having, she’ll tell you. She’ll let you know that, for the record, people who do have those things do x, y, and z that you aren’t doing.
Guy friends just have a great way of teasing me that at once teaches me so much about myself, makes me laugh, and still comes off as gentle. My guy friends can point out to me the way I come off to all men in general, and it can be so hilariously insightful.
If this person has called you several times in a panic and said they need you to talk to them or go to them right then and there because they’re having a panic attack or don’t know what to do with themselves, you’re the crisis friend. They believe that you will drop everything you’re doing to tend to their emotions. They don’t have boundaries.
You can tell each other a lot without even speaking. You know how your childhood friend feels about someone else in the room without having to ask. You can pick up on their energy and know just what energy they need from you at any given time.
Have you ever been interrupted in mid-vent?
What have you had to stop your girls from doing?