“The stages of grief are never linear. You may jump from denial to depression or experience anger and bargaining at the same time. That is okay."
While nobody can completely coddle you after a breakup, you can get advice from a self-love expert on how to best manage the transition.
Here’s another very irresponsible thing a lot of people do after a breakup: they call up a different ex—one who they know is pining after them—and get them to elope. That night. What a financial headache. What a roller coaster for the families.
When you tell strangers at a bar or out on errands that you’re going through a breakup, they become very sympathetic. But then when they ask when the breakup happened, and you tell them, they obviously retract their sympathy—you should be over that by now.
It doesn’t really harm you to have someone enjoying your HBO account or making use of the free shipping you get with Amazon Prime. You just want to cause an inconvenience for the ex at this point.
We’re all delusional in thinking that we can avoid the pain somehow—that we can skip it, go around it, over it, or under it, but certainly not through it.
Whenever someone breaks off a relationship, there is always that lingering question: “Did I do the right thing?” Breaking up is a big decision. When you’re still together, even if things are really bad, you still feel hope of salvaging things. And nobody will judge you for trying to salvage things (for the most part). […]
You started dating your boyfriend in college. You continued dating after college, the connection between the two of you growing. You were confident that he was the one you would marry. Years into the relationship, you break up, leaving you single for the first time in years and for the first time as a young […]
This isn’t true for all men, but a large majority of them don’t feel like they’re allowed to pay their breakups the attention they deserve. Many men don’t think they should make a big deal about their breakups—or even mention them at all! I’ve had plenty of male friends who casually mentioned, two or three […]
It’s not ideal, it’s usually a nightmare, and most people will feel bad for you but sometimes it has to happen: sometimes you have to live with an ex after a breakup. If you moved to a new city together, both got jobs you love there but have no friends yet and no money for […]
Some people really show their true colors when you break up with them, and those colors can be dark, stormy and hideous. It’s a beautiful thing, really, because they save you months of wondering if you made the right decision, if you could have eventually been happy together and if you just let a great […]
Social media is a miserable place for the heartbroken.