Men Reveal The Moment They Realized They Loved A Woman
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I’m always curious about when a couple knew they were in love. It does seem to happen in an instant, doesn’t it? Or at least one little moment makes you realize you loved somebody all along. Sometimes that moment is quirky, unexpected and–at the time–not even all that enjoyable! It shouldn’t come as too big of a surprise, though, since in the end it’s the little gestures that mean everything rather than the grand ones. It’s how people react in everyday, totally ordinary moments that tell you how they really are. And so, after asking dozens of men when they realized they loved their girlfriend or wife, I received very few answers that had to do with moments of grandeur, and a lot of answers that were nice and simple. Here are 15 moments men realize they’re in love with a woman.
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She says nothing when you spend a half hour in the bathroom
One guy said that, after a…um…battle with the toilet, during which he’d left his girlfriend alone on the couch for 45 minutes, he came back and she said nothing. Well, she said, “Need some Peptobismol?” and when he said, “No thanks,” she said, “Okay. What should we watch on Netflix?”
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She shares her food that she really wanted to herself
One friend said he went to his girlfriend’s house, having had no time to eat dinner, and when he got there she had just finished making an elaborate, towering sandwich that he could tell she was so excited about and had spent a long time making. When she could see he was hungry she said, “Here. Have it. I wasn’t even that hungry.” And then she proceeded to eat two bananas and pretend that’s all she wanted anyways.
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She let’s you see your own mistakes
One guy told me that he knew he loved his girlfriend after a certain fight they had. He had definitely overreacted and been an idiot, but his girlfriend didn’t tell him that. She simply quietly said she was going to give him some space for a few days. He realized later that she didn’t get off on proving she was right, or yelling. She trusted him to realize his own mistake.
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She stands up for herself
There’s nothing hotter than a woman who demands respect. But it’s easy to demand respect from people we’re not that close to, or from whom we have nothing to lose (like a rude bartender or guy at a restaurant). It takes a lot of courage to stand your ground with somebody with whom you’re close, or who can affect your future. That’s why one guy said he knew he loved his girlfriend when she refused to run an errand for her boss that would be unethical (buying the mistress a present). She said she’d rather lose her job than her values.
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She facilitates your favorite hobby…that isn’t really her thing
One guy knew he could spend eternity with a woman when, for his birthday, she bought him and his best friend tickets to a Lakers game. She didn’t like sports, but she knew there was nothing he’d rather do for his birthday, so she just said, “Go ahead. We can have dinner later this week or something.”
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She understands your crazy family immediately
One man said he was always nervous about bringing a woman home to meet his family because they were generally very combative, said things that were offensive and made people uncomfortable, which freaked women out. But not this one woman; this woman laughed it off on the sidelines with him, and handled his family with total tact. She wasn’t scared at all, and so he loved her.
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She makes a sacrifice for her pet
Men are suckers for a little maternal instinct and when a woman doesn’t have a child to show that to, a pet is the next best thing. My friend said he loved his girlfriend when she slept on the floor all night next to her dog after he’d had surgery, and needed help getting up to use the bathroom (FYI he needed to use it a lot because he was incontinent).
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She remembered a little something special
Sometimes it takes a food allergy to know you love somebody. One guy said he knew he loved his girlfriend when, after dating her for a few months, he opened her pantry to find low-acidity coffee and coconut milk. She remember that he loved coffee, but had acid reflux and was lactose intolerant. “I figured I’d just keep it here for you” she said and he said, “I love you.”
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She was genuinely happy for somebody else
It takes a really happy, grounded person to be happy for other people. One man knew he loved his partner when, immediately after not getting a promotion she wanted, she got a phone call from her friend saying she’d just gotten a new job she really wanted. The woman went immediately from wallowing into planning a party for her friend, and her boyfriend knew her for being so selfless.
