As two ladies from the MN team prepare to say “I do,” they share what they’re learning about their relationships, the wedding-planning process, and themselves.
Weddings are expensive. The entire planning process is a constant reminder of that. And while I am trying to have the full “fairytale” wedding experience, I am definitely not trying to be in debt after all is said and done. The experts say that hosting a wedding during the “off season” could shave hundreds—sometimes even thousands—of dollars off of venue costs. So I recently began entertaining the idea of holding our wedding during the winter or fall months. I became quite fond of the idea of holding an evening ceremony and reception the day after Thanksgiving.
I mentioned it to my fiancé during a lunch outing following Sunday morning service last weekend. Although he was visibly distracted by the Bills vs. Bengals game, he stopped watching long enough to chew on the idea of a Black Friday ceremony and give some solid feedback. He quickly got on board for reasons similar to the ones that attracted me to the date in the first place. Personally, I feel like the date has sentimental value. It would be the day after we got through celebrating family and showing thanks. We’re guessing that most of our guest list, which mainly consists of close relatives, would have the day off already. They’re all local, so we wouldn’t have to worry about anyone trying to fly in during one of the most expensive travel weekends of the year–not to mention that weekday weddings are slightly less expensive than weekend weddings. It would also be an excuse for our families to celebrate all weekend long and there are probably so many fun things that we could probably do to bring everyone together for the holiday and wedding.
At the same time, I realize that there are some who probably would be annoyed by the idea of having to attend a wedding on the day after a major holiday. People tend to put a lot into hosting Thanksgiving dinner, and it’s understandable that some folks may be exhausted after all of that. Then, of course, there’s the fact that Black Friday is the day many people head out to the stores to get their Christmas shopping done. While I’m pretty confident that most—if not all—of our guests, would be okay with missing a few hours of shopping to celebrate with us, you just never know. I realize that you can’t please everyone and that people will always find something to complain about, but I also wonder if hosting a Black Friday wedding would be inconsiderate. We certainly don’t want a bunch of miserable guests sitting around wishing that they were elsewhere.
Ladies, would you be open to attending a wedding on the day after Thanksgiving? If not, why?