Life after the wedding: How to not abandon your friends
Don’t Be That Wife: How To Not Abandon Your Friends After The Wedding
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Getting married is bound to change your life a little bit, but it shouldn’t change your friendships. Just because you walked down the isle doesn’t mean you can’t walk down the strip in Vegas with your best friend anymore. But some women think that is the case, and one they jump the broom they leave their friends in the dust. Here’s how to not abandon your friends in life after the wedding.
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Keep up the dumb text threads
Yes, you have your husband to text about how annoying your mom is or how gassy your food made you. But also keep up these pointless text threads with your best friend. They’re not pointless to her—they’re a connection.
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Be a wing woman
You should still go to single bars with your friend and play wing woman. You should make an effort to at least entertain the buddy of the guy she is into. And for goodness sake do not check your watch every twenty minutes to see when you’re allowed to go home. Be present!
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Don’t mention your husband immediately
Oh and do your friend a favor: stop letting “my husband and I” be the first words that fall out of your mouth when you’re wing-womaning. At least let your friend make some headway with the guy she is into, before you completely scare off his friend. Because once the friend goes, so will that guy your friend was into.
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Get drunk with them
Your best friend needs you to still have nights where you get too drunk, say silly sh*t, and text each other the next day about how hungover you are. Take one (hangover) for the team so you and your friend can still get silly.
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Invite several single friends to dinner
You invite your single friend over to your dinner parties that are mostly comprised of couples. Great. Now go one step further and invite other single people so your friend actually has fun.
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Listen to her dating shenanigans
Listen to her shenanigans about crawling out a guy’s window to avoid his roommate or realizing a guy had a twin (and that’s who she was hooking up with.) Listen with the same enthusiasm you’ve always listened—you’re not too good for these stories because you’re married.
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Go on the girl’s getaways
As much as you can, go on the girl’s getaways. You live with your man. You’ll have plenty of time together. But it’s very rare that all your girlfriends set aside the time and money to travel together.
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Go to sex shops with them
You’re not too mature for these. It doesn’t matter who spots you in there. Go with your friend and laugh at butt plugs or whatever. Help her pick out edible underwear.
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Crash on their couch occasionally
Just like you did when you were single, or even when you were with your man but still lived separately, crash on your friend’s couch sometimes. Go over there, have too much wine, and sleep on the couch. You need sleepovers with your best friend.
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Take the damn cab
Stop counting your drinks. And don’t let your husband pick you guys up like he’s your father. Give up the cash so you two can drunkenly take a cab to Jack in the Box.
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Invite them over for girl’s night
Your place isn’t off limits for girl’s night just because you’re married. Tell your husband to make himself sparse so you can have the ladies over and they can talk about whatever they want.
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Go on the shopping trips
Even if you and your husband are on a budget and you’re not supposed to be shopping for clothes the way you used to, go with your friends. Watch them try on stuff. Have fun trying on stuff yourself. Just be a part of it, like you always have been.
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Talk about your relationship
If you talked about your relationship pre-marriage, continue to talk about it. Vent about annoying things your husband does. Women bond over venting—your man should understand that by now!
