Feminista Jones: Conquer Your Sexual Comfort Zone

Picture Yourself Getting It In

I am a fan of taking pictures and videos during sex.  Doing so allows you to explore exhibitionism in the privacy of your own home and provides you a way to check yourself out a bit. Have you ever seen the face you make when you’re about to cum? For some, there is definitely a kinky bonding experience when couples watch themselves having sex and I think it is also a learning tool. You can, for example, look at what you did that really turned your partner on and work on doing more of that next time.

When you watch yourself on video or look at pictures your lover took of you, you get to see how fascinating and gorgeous you look which can help boost your physical self-esteem. Seeing yourself through another lens can be quite eye-opening. Now, I understand your concerns about the risks of exposure, and I’ve outlined some ways to keep your sexy videos your little secret. When you mitigate the risks, you can enjoy the rewards even more.

Sometimes, we find ourselves repeating the same old, same old when it comes to sex and that can, unfortunately, cause problems within our relationships if we’re not careful. Repetition becomes boring after a while, and that boredom can trickle into other parts of your lives. The key is to communicate, as cliché as it sounds, because you have the right to get the sex you want and you should feel comfortable enough with your partner to say “Oh yes!! I want more of that!!” and “Nah uh, boo, that’s not hitting it.” Make sure that you are not the person getting in your own way, and try stepping out of the zone that could be limiting options for your sexual growth.

Feminista Jones is a mental health social worker, sex-positive feminist writer, public speaker, and community activist from New York City. Jones has been featured in several online publications, notably as a contributor to Salon.com and TIME.com, and she has been syndicated in TheRoot.com and TheGriot.com Get more from Feminista Jones by logging on to FeministJones.com or following her on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.