Feminista Jones: Conquer Your Sexual Comfort Zone

Get Physical!

Our bodies go through all sorts of changes, especially as we mature and get older. Having a baby, for example, has a tremendous impact on the body and mind, and it can take a while to readjust and get back on track. Perhaps, since college, you have gained a little weight – or a lot—and may feel less sexy or less comfortable than you once did. Or maybe you’ve been taking medications that have caused hormonal changes, like birth control, or psychiatric medications that affect libido. Whatever the change, it’s perfectly OK to feel less inclined to get into the groove as long as you’re aware of what the obstacles are and take them into account when assessing where you are.

You definitely have to acknowledge and embrace your sexiness as something that isn’t reliant upon your physical appearance. It is who your are inside and, quite honestly, if your partner is constantly hugging and rubbing on you, there’s a good chance you still got it and a whole lot of it, so why let a little pudge get you down? There are great lines of lingerie for women of all sizes and a few new pieces might be just what you need to bring you back to your sensual self.

If you don’t exercise, I highly recommend working daily movement into your routine regardless of your weight or size. A good, sweaty workout will have you coming home ready to pounce on your lover, even though you’re someone who rarely initiates sex. Exercise often boosts libido, increases endurance, and improves flexibility so becoming active can help with trying some of those new positions you have bookmarked on sites like Glamerotica 101. Nothing keeps the flames going in the bedroom (or kitchen, parking lot…) than trying new positions and perfecting those angles.