How To Tell If You're Dating A Married Man

The last thing anyone wants is to meet someone, fall in love and discover that this individual is legally attached to another person. While dating a married man or woman may be cool for some people, it’s a relationship going nowhere. Hopefully, you and your partner are honest with each other. But in case you are not, here are some signs you’re dating a married man. Granted it’s not always foolproof, but a heads up can help.

He doesn’t use privacy filters on social media

Believe it or not, there are some people who don’t keep their social media accounts, like Facebook, private. You may just discover the truth about their relationship status that way.

He is secretive about his past

If you just meet someone and you’re on a first date, it’s okay to be somewhat guarded. Should things start to progress, however, consider it a red flag if they refuse to provide details or cliff notes about their past relationships.

His home is off limits

Something shady could be going on if you’re only spending time at your residence or a public place. Even if they live with multiple roommates, you shouldn’t be forbidden from seeing his pad or at least knowing where he stays.

Holidays are off limits

My how ironic it is that he’s free almost any time during the year except major holidays. He must have some ritual–like a secret family to tend to–if he can’t spend a little time with you.

He “Travels” like a salesman

“Wait, don’t you teach school children?”

If there’s one thing married men can’t do it’s spend too much time away from their families. Unless he has a job that forces him to travel or is off fighting for our country, he’ll need to make more than the occasional appearance at home.

Doesn’t let you meet certain family members

Don’t be fooled if you hang out with his guy friends or his brothers. They may keep his infidelity secret. If you’ve been dating a man for some time and have yet to meet an aunt, let alone his parents, it’s time to get a little nervous.

He dodges important questions

Don’t fall for the fear of commitment excuse. Yes, people get scared at the thought of settling down, but zero interest in developing your relationship with an official commitment should be considered a red flag.

Doesn’t want to go to certain places

It must be hard for creeping married folks to hit the town with their side-piece. Ask yourself why he doesn’t want to go to particular neighborhoods or places of business with you.

You know where he works, but that’s it

While it’s good that you know what your man does for a living, have you ever been to his job or met a few of his co-workers? Who does he take to special company events, or does he always find an excuse not to go?

He uses multiple phones

Come on, don’t act like you never checked a man’s cell phone.

Even if he uses a company-issued phone, why he have so many others? Why do you always need to contact him on one particular number? And what’s with the Rolodex?

He is against PDA

Yes, some people are shy when it comes to kissing and touching in public. Do, however, pay attention if your guy is a little too quick to separate or refuses to get romantically photographed with you and/or put the image up on social media.

Enjoys more daytime events

Unless he’s a stickler for affordable eating, there’s no reason why your public encounters should only be during lunch or the daytime. Is he so busy that you two can’t spend time together during the evenings?

You have a bad gut feeling

At the end of the day you need to go with your gut feeling. If your inner voice is telling you something is off in your relationship, don’t gloss over it. You may just be picking up on questionable activity.