Dealing with mean employees can heighten stress levels for you at work. When you’re finding every excuse in the rule book to conveniently use the restroom as your patience wears thin, these are signs that you have exhausted your options on how to confront the issues at-hand. Difficult people will emerge every once in awhile in the workplace – and you must exercise smarter moves on how to cope with it.
Here are some useful strategies:
1. Document as much as possible over email
You may be dealing with several complex situations all at once when low and behold, there are mean employees trying to attack you on the job. Your first gut reaction should be to play it safe. Use internet dialogue to limit interactions with them. Send emails instead of face-to-face interaction, as it doesn’t impact the frequency of work and land you in trouble if things get out of hand.
2. Take a breath before responding
A moment of solitude helps in every work situation. But if you’re forced to communicate with negative individuals, then practice taking a breath before responding and confidently make your point. You will find that it helps to suppress any inappropriate emotions you may have so that you don’t speak out of anger or frustration.
3. Drink some cool water
Another way to clear the air is to open a window or drink some cool water. It maintains a natural flow into your system. It also elevates your posture and helps you think on your feet. Instead of revisting the water cooler for additional cups, bring a tall plastic container for extra refills.
4. Use stress relief balls
Another peaceful method to use are stress relief balls. They come in all shapes, sizes and colors, but its a type of meditative tool that allows you to release tension throughout your body. Let the ball rest comfortably in your hand and squeeze. You can use it during any time of the day, including work when it’s most necessary.
5. Don’t use backbiting to confront your foes; speak with them privately
The unsatisfactory behavior at work could be affecting you in other ways. Your attitude has evolved from resolute to defensive in a few short months because of the distractions at work. This may be the last straw for you, but before you start igniting a firestorm, think rationally. You dont want to be seen as a victim or a misfit, but do the right thing by talking with the troublemakers privately. Don’t divulge backbiting or gossipy exchanges to confront your foes or else, you’ll find yourself without a job.
6. Rely on a trusted colleague or group member
Speaking with a trusted confidant who senses your frustration, can redirect personal feelings you may have at work. It helps to hear from someone on the receiving end about how to manage your behavior or deal with it head on. This can make the stresses of the job a lot easier for you.
7. Let your mind do the talking instead of your emotions (be a peacemaker)
Making a truce with people can also eradicate the underlying issue. Work out your differences with them because it may shed some light on what the problems are. For example, ask questions in a subtle tone that gives them an opportunity to speak; and don’t be deceptive! In most cases, making peace with those who have done you wrong can patch things up a lot faster and bring unity to the group.
8. Use laughter as an escape mechanism
Use laughter as a means of getting through the trying times. It can change your entire outlook on work and how you perceive others. It also lessens anxiety, which will help in bouts with your co-workers or boss. During lunch, talk to a boyfriend, friend or relative who listens and puts a smile on your face. A good laugh during lunch will help you deal with the rest of the day.
9. Prepare to speak with your boss
If all else fails, prepare to speak to the person at the top – your boss. Hopefully, he or she will be able to resolve most of the private disputes between you and your manipulative co-workers, so that it doesn’t become a widespread situation. Stepping up to the plate doesn’t entirely mean that your lack of resolve has been ineffective, it could just take someone with more power to break the ice. If the problem persists, then your best bet is to start considering your relocation options, in or outside the company.
