My ex boyfriend and I were together for 8 and a half years before we got engaged. We were living in a foreign country at the time and he lost his visa and had to return home. Soon after he left I found out I was pregnant and it was such a joy. But whilst I stayed abroad, I began to notice changes in our conversations. I thought he was frustrated that he couldn’t be there for me at the time. I went through the pregnancy on my own with two very close girlfriends by my side. To cut a long story short, my daughter’s father miraculously returned just a day after her birth. We were still on great terms. He always promised that everything would workout. About a month later, I learned that he also fathered a child with his so-called friend and she and I were in the same city. I left him and returned home. He married the other woman. Fast-forward five years later: He]’s now divorced and asking me to get married and relocate with my daughter. I worked hard to keep our relationship cordial, and I would be lying if I said I didn’t want to give our family a chance, and most of all, give our daughter a family with both her parents in it. However, there are other people now involved and a big part of his life. How do I make a choice for my daughter and I?
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