Little Changes You Have To Make Once You Become A Wife

If it’s a great relationship, you shouldn’t have to make too many changes after getting married. You just slapped a license on a deep love. But, your man will appreciate you making these 14 teeny, tiny changes after taking his last name (if that’s something you choose to do).

Update your Facebook status

Even if you never listed your relationship status before, do so now. You finally have a solid reason creeps and exes should leave you alone! Take advantage of it. Plus, odds are you never listed your relationship status because you didn’t know if the relationships would last, so show your husband you have faith in your marriage and list it.

Check with your husband before making plans

You’re sort of supposed to be partners now, remember? It’s okay to occasionally make a plan or accept an invite without your husband, but if you treat your schedule and his as completely separate as you used to, once you are married, that will start to feel sad.

Try to have dinner together

At least see if your schedules can accommodate the two of you having dinner together before grabbing yourself takeout or a sandwich from the office cafeteria. Your husband is your family—officially—and families eat dinner together more often than not. At least, the ones who stay together do…

Work a little harder to show you’re still fun

To your friends, not to your husband. Unfortunately, the second you become a Mrs. your friends expect you to become boring. You have to work a little harder, at least the first few months of marriage, to show them you’re not going to totally bail on them.

Be extra conscious of your figure

This just refers to the first month or two immediately after your wedding. Why? Because in the months leading up to it you were on an intense diet to look incredible in your wedding pictures, and jumping back into your old eating habits will make you pack on weight fast. Ease back into eating normally so your husband doesn’t freak out thinking he’s living the typical story of the woman who turns wife who turns, well, fat.

Whatever you get for yourself, get him

Again, your husband is your family now. And just like when your mom would stop by her favorite bakery and grab an extra cupcake for your dad, you should be buying an extra anything now that you’re married.

Mention that you’re married

Oh yeah, when men are around who could potentially take an interest in you, mention that you’re married. When you were just a girlfriend, it was understandable if you waited for that to “happen to come up.” But it’s embarrassing for your husband (even if he’s not there to witness it) if you wait two hours to mention to a flirty man that you’re a married woman.

Befriend other married couples

Seriously. They’re lonely. And you’ll probably be lonely. Your single friends won’t invite you out as much anymore. They just won’t. And a lot of what they do is best enjoyed by singles anyways, so befriend married couples so you can enjoy movies and dinner without someone feeling like a third wheel.

Stay in when he’s tired a little more

Pre-marriage, if your guy was tired and wanted to cancel plans, it was sweet if you stayed with him but not mandatory. Once you’re married, you should make a switch to mostly staying in when your husband isn’t up to the plans you two made together. It’s a bad look to your friends if you come out without him a lot.

Prioritize your husband

Your friends can no longer make you feel bad for putting a man before your friends—he’s your husband now. You’re completely allowed to work your schedule around him, and put your friends second. Your husband should be your best friend, anyways! Your friends should still be highly prioritized, but you might have to loosen the tight grip you had on the “hos before bros” mentality.

Dress a little more conservative

It’s embarrassing for your husband if other men are saying, “That girl in the skin tight, see-through mini dress is somebody’s wife? She’s hot but, poor guy…” Don’t totally give up your style; just stop wearing things that say, “Come and get it!”

You have to call his mother more

Sorry, but she’s family now too. Along with your grandpa and your widowed aunt, add your mother-in-law to the list of family members to call at least twice a month.

You have to go to his office events

Getting married means getting the perk of always having somebody accompany you to stuffy work events. Don’t deprive your husband of this perk. And don’t make his co-workers and colleagues—people who he wants respecting him—thinking he has a wife who doesn’t care about his job.