Here’s the truth about being assertive that we all basically know, but are terrified to admit: the sooner you say what you want, the sooner you’ll have it. And that will either be because you’ll discover that the person you’re dealing with wants that too, and will make it happen, or doesn’t want the same thing as you, at which point you’re free to move on and find someone else. Instead, a lot of us take a passive approach, accepting mixed signals from wishy-washy men, hoping that one day those signals will become clear. Cut out the waiting time. Be more ballsy in every stage of your relationships and you’ll be rewarded.