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A wink here, a glance there – flirting can be a fun, playful way to engage and meet people…which is great when you’re single. But what if you’re in a relationship – what is the protocol then? While some feel that flirting is harmless, having a significant other who is a notorious tease can be frustrating. Excessive flirting can cause tension and even break up relationships if boundaries aren’t set.
Here are some ways to tell when flirting crosses the line….
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Touching
It’s one thing if your man gives the waitress a lingering smile in order to get better service. But if he must caress her hand or touch the small of her back, then he’s doing too much. Touching creates sparks that can lead to other things, so you (or your man) should keep your hands to yourself. Even if there is no intent to go any further, it’s downright disrespectful.
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It’s Sexual
Flirtatious conversations should generally be innocent and pleasant, not laced with innuendo. When you add attraction and desire to inappropriate talk, you’re playing with fire. All it takes is for one person to share his or her favorite fantasy before one of you decides to act it out. A good rule of thumb is this: Don’t say anything you know you wouldn’t say in front of your partner. And if that doesn’t work, consider how you’d feel if you knew your partner was engaging in sex talk with someone else. Not cool.
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Your Partner Doesn’t Approve
If you’re happy and satisfied in your relationship, then why seek attention elsewhere? After all, that’s what flirting is all about – attention…seeing if you still got it. But if your significant other isn’t comfortable with your flirtatious ways, then it should stop – immediately. Excessive flirting can hurt feelings and create an environment of doubt and insecurity. While it may seem like no big deal, your man or woman may take your actions a bit more seriously. If your partner doesn’t respect your feelings, it may be time to bounce.
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Being “Overly” Complimentary
There’s nothing wrong with making a woman smile by paying her a genuine compliment. But if those compliments take on the form of a superlative, ie: “You’re the most beautifulest thing in this world” – you need to fall back. Telling a complete stranger that their eyes melt your soul or that they’re really filling out those jeans suggests that you have eyes for someone else other than your significant other. And of course, any direct comparisons to your mate (You’re more ________________ than my man) is definite NO-NO! Save all the accolades for your boo.
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Lying or Being Secretive
You don’t have to share with your mate every time you speak to a member of the opposite sex. But if you lie when asked or have something to hide, then you’re probably crossing the line. If you know your flirting is so reckless that you purposely hide or lie about your behavior, then you’re swimming in shark infested waters….and are about to get eaten alive!
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Filling An Emotional Void
Most men and women flirt simply to satisfy their ego or to boost their self esteem – which shouldn’t be necessary if you’re already in a healthy, nurturing relationship. But if your wife is nagging you, or your man doesn’t value you, flirting can become an easy and dangerous way to make you feel good about yourself. While flirting may start off as a harmless fix, looking outside of your relationship to get your needs met can ultimately lead to cheating. Find another way other than flirting to foster self worth, because if you lack confidence and are insecure in your relationship then you might be better off being single.
