What Is A Sleep Divorce And Can It Save Your Relationship?

Alternatives To Sleep Divorce

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Some couples are opposed to sleep divorce, even if they aren’t sleeping well next to each other. If this is you, there are some alternatives you can try. These will only work in certain situations. In others, the only way to get a good night’s rest is to sleep separately. But, try these first:

• A custom mattress. If mattress conflicts are causing bad sleep, invest in a customized mattress. Many companies are happy to make these for couples today and they can appeal to both of your mattress preferences.
• Separate beds but not rooms. If it is just movement sensitivity keeping you awake, consider getting separate beds in the same room. You can even push them together, so you can easily cuddle at night, then roll onto your respective beds when you’re ready to sleep.
• Great earplugs. If noise issues are keeping you up, spend some time (and money) exploring the best earplugs. Look up the ones that people who work at concerts or on airport runways use. These block out very high decibels.
• Sleep apnea treatment. Snoring can be a sign of an underlying issue like sleep apnea that should and can be treated. That would be best for the health of the snorer, and then their partner can get some sleep, too.
• Get on the same schedule. If it’s different bed/wake times that are causing issues and you’re determined to sleep together, then you might have to compromise. Decide on a bed or wake time that works for both of you.

Sleeping together can be great for some couples but detrimental to others. You ultimately have to ask yourself what is most true for your relationship. Do you feel emotionally distant when you sleep separately? Or, do you feel closer, because the sleep-deprivation-fueled fights come to a stop? Only you know what’s right for your relationship.

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