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One of the biggest challenges people face in longterm relationships is keeping the sex hot and spicy. It is way too easy to get stuck in our routines, and nothing kills passion more than monotony.

Some couples even forget to go back to the basics as they rush to “get it in.” Slowing down to kiss, massage and touch can add the much needed spark to your bedroom action.

A 2004 study of 152 men and women found that both men and women wanted 20 minutes of foreplay before getting it in, Refinery 29 reports. Even though people want more foreplay, they aren’t getting it. The participants reported that they were only indulging in around 10 minutes of foreplay before the act. And perhaps investing in that extra ten minutes would lead to an even more explosive orgasm. A 2017 study found that both men and women were more likely to climax if there was deep kissing, genital rubbing, or oral sex before intercourse. So, what you do before sex matters to what happens during sex.

Here are some other ways to make sure you are nice and warmed up before sex:


Massages get you nice and relaxed, which is perfect for loosening physical and mental tension. Get some warm oils and rub your partner down. They will thank you later.

Make Out

Don’t forget to kiss, and kiss deeply! Pretend like your young again and make out like sex isn’t the goal. Just connecting in this way with your partner without sex in mind, can lead to more intimacy and greater orgasms.

Talk Nasty

For some women, foreplay begins in the mind. Feel free to send your significant other some nasty texts when you’re priming for a big night in. Some couples forget to flirt!

Don’t Forget Nipples

Check with your partner but, nipple stimulation can turn on both men and women. Rub, suck, and kiss them to send waves of pleasure all over his/her body.

If All Else Fails, Use Your Mouth

Fillatio and cunnilingus helps the body get prepared for sex. Whether is is creating a harder erection for your mate, or a wetter vagina for you, it’s important to take your time down below so you both can walk away satisfied.

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