Some people are just jerks when they get drunk. You reach an age when you accept the reality that some people are happy drunks, some people are sad drunks, and some people are angry aka jerk drunks. I know a few people who are levelheaded, patient, kind, and generous sweethearts when they’re sober, and the moment they get a few drinks in them, they turn into the demonic version of themselves. It’s a very Jekyll and Hyde situation. The day after drinking, they have a lot of apologies to make.
It can be hard to know what to say to these friends. The truth is that I mostly stay away from them on nights I know they’ll be drinking. But, if you’re romantically involved with someone who can be a jerk when he’s drunk, you don’t exactly have the luxury of just staying away. You’ll have to talk to him about it. Here’s what to say to a partner who is mean when he’s drunk.
Mention it when he’s sober
First thing’s first: don’t bring it up when he’s drunk. He won’t be of any mind to talk about it then. Talk to your partner about this when he’s sober and has his wits about him.