With Valentine’s Day having just passed, I got to witness how a lot of couples approach and celebrate holidays. At every store I visited—from simple pharmacies to upscale boutiques—I’d find someone picking up something for their honey. At the pharmacy, one might grab a heart-shaped balloon and generic but certainly delicious chocolate. At fancier establishments, heart-shaped diamonds were cropping up. There isn’t necessarily a right or wrong way to celebrate holidays like Valentine’s Day, birthdays, or other occasions where there is a lot of focus on one person. But how couples celebrate these occasions says a lot about them. A $200-per-plate fixed menu dinner doesn’t necessarily denote a successful couple, nor does a single rose suggest a flailing one. Here is how stable couples handle holidays like birthdays and Valentine’s Day.
They’re open about what they want
They don’t expect their partners to read their minds. They don’t set up traps for their partners, making them guess what they may want as a gift, or how they’d like to spend the evening. They honestly tell each other how they want their birthday or the big day to go. They set one another up to succeed.