Men can be vocal about what they want from their significant others, sometimes expecting them to anticipate their needs or indulge their desires. Yet, they don’t always express what they would like to do with their partners. So, here’s a list of things that your man might like to do with you, in regards to entertainment, sex, and hobbies, that you might not have thought of.

Skin Ink

When love seems eternal, some men like to signify that by having the both of you mark one another with a token of affection, like an image or name written on the other person’s body. The latter idea is kind of a terrible idea, so even if your man doesn’t want you to tattoo his lips on your hips, or put his initials on your body,  a lot of men simply enjoy getting tattoos with their significant other and hitting up the tattoo parlor together for a quick thrill.

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We are certainly living in a different era.

13 year old Elizabeth Robinson was finally caught in Nashville last Thursday after stealing her brother’s car and her mother’s debit card in an attempt to drive from Texas to Kentucky to meet her boyfriend Dylan that she’d met while playing Xbox. She was able to make it 800 miles before police were able to track her down.

Her parents say Elizabeth had started retreating to her bedroom more and more to play the game and was always on the headset, which players use to connect with other players across the world.  Her parents said they tried to throw her off the morning she disappeared by saying she was being bullied in school and was going to a friend’s house. Her parents also decided to break into her email account and ended up finding Dylan’s address.

According to Elizabeth’s dad, she’d been upset that he’d taken the game away from her. He also became a bit suspicious when she became oddly fascinated by the amount of gas mileage on her brother’s car.

A Tennessee patrolman recognized her from the Amber Alert that had been put out for Elizabeth.

Of course, like the young man he is, Dylan decided to possibly keep himself out of major trouble by letting her come to him – he never left his house.

The young car thief must have been a pretty good driver for making it 800 miles without one accident. What is this world coming to?

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Everyone seems to have their vices that can sidetrack their dating life, whether it’s work, the cell phone or other friends. For some men, it seems like their attention span goes to only one thing in their life at a time, which could be the distraction that strains your connection with him.

The pressures of dating a guy who is constantly distracted by the littlest, useless things (if you ask me), like video games, their cell phone, etc., could say a lot about him at that moment in his life. Take college life as a first example. Dating in college is a whole other ballgame in itself, with its own rules and playing field, but the pressure to feel like you are competing with video games, parties and constant drinking (and possibly drug use) lets off some red flags.

In college, I dated the typical guys who were sometimes just as busy and involved as I was: taking classes, working part-time for the school and heavily involved in extracurricular activities. Even though a lot of those responsibilities took up a lot of my time, I still made time to party and have downtime, just like any college student does. Dating in college when downtime for most guys consists of parties and sitting on the couch all day playing on their Playstation (oh, excuse me, Xbox) can be very trying on the relationship, especially when most of their attention and motivation goes to those “side distractions.” On a more positive note, college can definitely weed out the “real-world” weak from the strong, doing the hard work for you when it comes to dragging that relationship past undergrad and being disappointed when nothing has changed but the video games.

Once I got out into the “real-world” after college, where my career and professional growth became one of my main priorities, I thought that it would be easier to find a guy who isn’t distracted by the menial things, but instead of video games and parties, it was the cell phone and social networking that became the elephant in the room of dating. From answering the phone in the middle of a conversation to checking Twitter, texts and emails all day, the cell phone became the new “video game” in my new “grown-up” dating life. Some were too busy being distracted by every notification on their phone, that a valuable connection only seemed to happen via phone, DM or email, and personal time only occurred between the late-night hours.

From cell phones, to video games, to other friends, distractions seem to plague the dating world in some form or another, but I do not believe all is lost for the attention span of some men. With a healthy balance of work and play, I believe some distractions could be beneficial and not destructive to a relationship, like focusing on a growing career or business (better than a guy not being motivated, not working but still spending a great deal of time on those video games). As I look to find that balance, I hope to find the man who can put his distractions and “toys” aside sometimes to grow up and grow old with me.

What types of distractions are you noticing that men you date have in their lives?

Blair Bedford is a media professional and freelance writer/contributor based out of NYC.  Follow Blair B. on Twitter @BlairsPadandPen.

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Sure, you can’t really define what a grown a** man is in plain, black and white terms. However, I’m sure we can all agree that it’s pretty easy to point out the traits that prove a man’s overall maturity level is on the low low. We hear brothas say it often: “What!? I’m a grown a** man!” But you don’t just talk the talk, you have to walk it. But before someone gets their briefs all tied up in a knot, as usual, this list only pertains to some men, not all. So with that (and with all due respect), let’s get this thing started.

PS, there will be one for women coming soon too, so don’t get too comfortable.

Geek? Nerd? Dork? Some sort of combination of all three?

I was trying to think of any good role models that empower the geeky or nerdy black person. In the media there are often go-to stereotypes when it comes to black people. But thankfully, these characters are broadening.

When it comes to black men, instead of just having them shown as athletes or gangsta rappers, intelligent black men have become somewhat more acceptable in the media. Some would say cool.

But when I say geek or nerd, I don’t mean the popularity it has gained nowadays: i.e. Chris Brown wearing big black rim glasses and skinny jeans. I’m talking about someone who is interested in things that were once held as geek or nerd hobbies like video games, comic books, anime and manga, science fiction films and novels, and anything science or technological related.

That’s the person we’re seeing more in the media. Black geeks and nerds have come a long way, from Urkel to Glover.

So why can’t black woman be shown as geeky or nerdy? We are either shown as being sassy, bossy, or Beyotchy.  But there are some exceptions. Here is a list of women I think are proving geeky and nerdy black women exist in mainstream media.

(Daily Finance) — If you’re in the market for a new Sony PS3, consider yourself $50 richer.  Sony(SNE) revealed yesterday that it isslashing prices on its video game console. The entry-level model with a 160-gigabyte hard drive is going from $299 to $249. The higher-end unit with double the storage capacity is also being marked down by $50, to $299. The new price points are effective now in the United States, kicking in Thursday in Japan.  Remember when the PS3 hit the market five years ago? The 60-gigabyte model set diehard gamers back a whopping $599. Given the limited supply at the time, desperate holiday shoppers found themselves paying even more to secure a PS3 through eBay(EBAY) and other resale channels.

(New York Times) — The Supreme Court on Monday struck down on First Amendment grounds a California law that banned the sale of violent video games to children. The 7-to-2 decision was the latest in a series of rulings protecting free speech, joining ones on funeral protests, videos showing cruelty to animals and political speech by corporations.  In a second decision Monday, the last day of the term, the court also struck down an Arizona campaign finance law as a violation of the First Amendment.  Justice Antonin Scalia, writing for five justices in the majority in the video games decision, Brown v. Entertainment Merchants Association, No. 08-1448, said video games were subject to full First Amendment protection.

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By Charlotte Young

It’s a victorious day for young video game enthusiasts all over California. Bloomberg reports that the US Supreme Court voted against a California law that prohibited the sale of violent video games to minors, declaring the law “an unconstitutional infringement on speech rights.”

With a vote of 7-2, the court disagreed with the state’s assertion that violent game are equivalent to sexual materials, which government can restrict in efforts to protect children. The law would have restricted the sale and rental of video games depicting violence against humans and “appeal to a deviant or morbid interest of minors,” to anyone under 18 with fines of up to $1,000 for any violators. It did not specifically detail restrictions for online sales

If the California violent video game ban had been upheld, other states may have potentially duplicated the measure.

The video game industry, which makes over $10 billion in annual sales, believes that even if the California law had been upheld, it would have no serious impact as it has a voluntary rating system already in place with age specific ratings.

With the right to play open to kids of all ages, the only thing that will keep the youngsters from their favorite past times of blowing up towns and killing people now are disapproving parents.

(Rolling Out) — In June of last year, Beyoncé allegedly entered into a contract agreement with Gate Five, LLC to create a game, “Beyoncé: Starpower,” but abruptly pulled out of the deal, according to a soon-to-be-filed lawsuit.  The suit claims that at a “crucial moment in the project’s development,” Beyoncé “made an extortion demand for entirely new compensation terms she suddenly decided she wanted” and then pulled out of the game.

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(eurweb.com) — Like they say, nothing stays the same but change. And in yet another sign that social games are emerging as a promotional platform of potential significance, Dr. Dre has partnered with game developer Zynga to develop a variety of branded experiences within the popular game Mafia Wars.  The partnership includes streaming the music video for “Kush,” the first single from Dre’s long-anticipated new album Detox, due out in early 2011.

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