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Smile, It’s Candid Camera
Pretty sure that’s illegal.
Today marks the day our lives were changed. Exactly ten years ago, to the day, Usher Raymond IV dropped his fourth studio album Confessions and shut the music industry dow-nn. It was, by all accounts, a game changer. I already know the CD is on your iTunes, you know not only the words but have memorized the order of the tracks and can most likely remember what was going on in your life around March 2004. You know Confessions…intimately. But we’d bet good money that you know don’t some of these facts behind the album.
Over the last year, Usher has really hurt the feelings of legions of female fans because he…wouldn’t get a haircut. He’s walked around with a mohawk and unshaven face before finally growing his hair all the way out for his role as Sugar Ray Leonard in the upcoming biopic on the boxer’s life. All you would hear or read is, “If Usher gets a haircut he would be back on the ‘he could get it list’.” Yes, we’ve heard it all.
But finally – finally – Usher has gotten rid of it all and is looking like the Confessions Usher we all knew and loved. But it didn’t come without some playing around first. On Friday, after his hair was all picked out, Usher had his hair braided. The tweets were flying fast and furiously after people said that no man over 25 should have braids:
Check out the next page for all the other haircuts Usher toyed around with before finally going back to the man we love. We can only hope that his next album is as good as his haircut (and yes, I’m making a direct connection between his hair and his music – am I the only one?).
Remember back in 2004 when Usher’s album, “Confessions,” came out at nearly the exact same time the singer broke up with Chilli and everyone assumed all the scandalous tales on the album were about his relationship with her? Since that time, producer Jermaine Dupri has spoken up about the fact that the confessions on that album were actually about his trife life and not Usher’s, but as Chilli makes her media rounds promoting the TLC Biopic airing on VH1 tonight, she’s also setting the record straight about the recordings and how she feels about Usher to this day. Clearing the air with Us Weekly, she said:
“We were together when he recorded that album. All of those songs on ‘Confessions,’ that was about Jermaine Dupri’s situation. Usher was just singing it. But people kind of bought into it, it was just the timing of our breakup when the album came out. So people assumed that album was about us, but it was not. And Usher and I weren’t oil and water. We broke up because I guess it was that time or whatever. He was that real love for me.”
Though we can believe “Confessions” wasn’t really about Usher and Chilli, what seems a bit confusing is the 42-year-old claiming they broke up because “it was that time or whatever.” Am I the only one who recalls a semi-bitter Chilli calling into Atlanta’s Q100 radio station back in 2004 and telling the world, “Usher did the ultimate no-no to me. I will never be with him again, and that is that,” before adding, “He portrayed himself to be this honest and great guy, and he really wasn’t. “I will never take him back. It is a done deal.”
Now I’m not saying she couldn’t have finally gotten over that and changed her tune about the type of man Usher is, but doing the “ultimate no-no,” which we all assume is cheating, does not sound like it was just time to move on. Makes me wonder whether Chilli calling into that radio show nine years ago was a part of a PR spectacle to boost sales of “Confessions” or she just forgot she told the world that in her latest interview? Whatever the case, it appears any bitter feelings she may or may not have felt toward her ex at that time have since subsided. She added in her Us Weekly interview:
“In any relationship, even when it came to my relationship with Usher, when it was time to make a move, I had to do that. I don’t care how much my heart was hurting, sometimes you’re just supposed to be with people for a reason and it’s not always a lifetime. Even if you want it to be, it just doesn’t work out that way.
“But I’ll always love him, forever, because he was my first adult love, a real love. We’re cool, we’re really cool. There’s no hard feelings, nothing like that. It’s all good.”
Someone Dallas Austin, the father of her 16-year-old son Tron, is thinking, “ain’t this about a bleep?” Just kidding. It’s good to know Chilli’s in a good place Usher, but do you think she should stop talking about him so much, though, considering they’ve been broken up for almost 10 years now?
Usher has reached another career milestone.
The “Climax” singer will be honored with the ASCAP Golden Note Award at the 26th Annual Rhythm & Soul Music Awards. The honor only goes to artist, musicians and composers who have greatly contributed to the industry through their gifts. Previous honorees include Stevie Wonder, Quincy Jones, Pharrell Williams and Alicia Keys.
“I take the art of songwriting and music—making very seriously, so to be given the ASCAP Golden Note Award from an organization of my fellow music creators is a huge honor,” said Usher in a statement.
You can read the rest about Usher’s big honor over on Essence.com.
Wow, that is quite an elite group, isn’t it? Some may have “issues” with Usher’s current style of music but no one can deny that he’s definitely made a mark on the years. I mean, 8701 or Confessions anyone?
Congrats to him!
There’s mom fantasy and then there’s mom reality. I used to be one of those smug moms to be who swore she wouldn’t let herself go. Post baby life will be glorious! My meticulously styled hair would whip slightly in the gentle breezes, I’d smell like a Bulgarian rose, and frolic at the playground with my two cherubs all day long.
My reality as a mother is beautiful, but it’s the kind of beauty only another mom would appreciate. Beautiful but not always pretty. There is sometimes shame. Secrets I keep to myself and hold on to tightly. In the spirit of camaraderie, I’m opening the vault. Fellow moms, you are not alone. Or maybe my shameful self is alone.
Either way here are a few of my shameful mom confessions for your reading pleasure.
I thought it’d be super cute to make my children little mugs of hot chocolate with a dollop of marshmallow fluff on top after a few hours spent playing in the late autumn cold. They were seated and enjoying themselves so I seized the moment, left the room, and got to work on a pile of dishes. Bad idea. My two-year old daughter rubbed the marshmallow fluff into her hair like candy shampoo while my three-year old soon gleefully cheered her on.
As I picked the large chunks out of her hair I checked the clock. Bedtime. Do I delay bedtime and wrangle two cranky kids into the tub alone, or go about my business as if nothing happened? That’s right. I let my child sleep with some marshmallow fluff in her hair.
Go on. Judge me.
I was exhausted and in no mood to endure the horrible shrill screams my daughter subjects me to during shampooing. No, thank you. She wasn’t carried away by a colony of ants in the middle of the night and I gave her a bath in the morning. Shameful? Maybe but I got some much needed sleep.
I wear yoga pants, but I hate yoga. I know I’m not alone but I take yoga pants wearing to shameful new levels. I buy yoga pants with the precision and meticulous research normal people save for purchasing their first home. They’ve got to have the right cut, stretchy fabric, and some sort of stomach panel.
I know what you’re thinking and yes I really should get back to my 18% body fat pre kids shape, but until I have the time to spend two hours a day in the gym – again it isn’t happening. For now yoga pants are my secret weapon. I look fantastic in them and that secret stomach panel keeps everything where it should be like a set of bootleg Spanx.
Of course on days when I have to go somewhere yoga pants aren’t appropriate and try squeezing into my jeans I’m shocked. Where did this weight come from! I looked so good in those pants yesterday! Oh, right I live my life in a deceiving yet flattering casing known as yoga pants.
Oh well. Oh and once I went out in my dressy yoga pants and when I came home changed into my more comfortable hole in the crotch home yoga pants. That’s when I knew I hit rock bottom.
If those aren’t bad enough for you here are a few hall of famers:
- I dropped my glasses in the toilet as I was helping my son clean up. They landed on poo. I didn’t burn them. I’m like Velma from Scooby Doo without my glasses and they’re Gucci! You better believe I washed them off and put them right back on.
- My diet plan when I’m home alone consists of only allowing myself to eat what my kids have left over or dropped on the floor. Mmm secondhand turkey bacon.
- Sometimes I forget how long it’s been since I’ve showered.
- I like Max and Ruby.
What’s your most shameful mom confession?
All of us have done it. Accidentally hit our toe or tripped over something and all of a sudden that infamous curse words comes across our lips before you can stop yourself. Everything in the room stops and then all of a sudden you hear, “Mommy, that’s a baaaaad word!” You want to deny you said it but you know the kids aren’t going to buy it. You’ve been busted for committing the number one Cardinal Sin of being a parent—you cursed in front of your kids. Even the best parents have slipped up and let a bad word out in a moment of pain of frustration. Many times we try to play it off so not to bring attention to it, but to our kid’s ears those words are like poison, so not only did they hear it but their waiting to see if it’s okay. Being the good parent you are, you reassure them that yes, that is a bad word and Mommy has to be punished.
I’ve been the parent who has slipped up and cursed and then felt so bad because I try to make sure I’m the example for my kids. I can remember one time cursing in front of my oldest child and for a week I would catch him saying the obscenity to himself. It took me a week to get him to stop saying it. I had to do something to make sure that my toddlers understood this was not appropriate language. I remember one time talking to one of my girlfriends and she was shocked that I put so much emphasis on it. In her words she said, “My kids know I curse, they know that I better not hear them curse.” I instantly judged her. What kind of parent openly curses around their kids but then expects them not to curse? Is that even logical? This example stuck in my mind as I decided what I was going to do to not only teach my kids but me that cursing is not allowed in this house—even if it’s an accident.
It had to be extreme enough so that my preteen didn’t laugh and that my two toddlers weren’t scared. I thought about acting like my tongue was going to get cut out but that would scare the kids. So I thought about what my mother would do in this situation. I instantly remembered the Dial soap and knew I had a plan. I called all three of my kids to the kitchen and I gave them a lesson that none of us will soon forget. I told them that not only was saying bad words bad/ but it was equally disgusting. So I told them I had to wash my mouth out with soap. They hollered and screamed in disgust as I did it. By the time I got done, the two toddlers were beside themselves shouting, “Ewwww, I’ll never say a bad word!” My twelve-year-old was less amused but just shook his head and said, “Mom, it’s not that serious.” My husband peeped his head in with all the commotion we were having and just chuckled at my craziness.
In the end, I proved my point with how disgusting using curse words are to myself and the kids. Now the kids watch me when I hurt myself or am angry and instead of cursing, I simply shut my mouth and just breathe in and out until I can regain my composure. I think I learned my lesson.
Do you curse in front of your kids my Mommy Noire family?
Let this jam play in the club on an especially good night (aka, the night you wore cute flats, not crippling heels) and bet any money you’ll lose your mind on the dance floor. As Usher says, you’ll be making faces while you’re doing it too. One of the standout jams from the critically acclaimed and mega-successful Confessions album, “Bad Girl” is the beez-neez. The bass and guitars are killing the game and Usher’s vocals were on point. Say what you want about the guy now, but you can’t deny that he knows how to make you dance when he really wants to. The video we’re attaching with the track is at an Usher concert, where bad girl Bey came out on the stage and did a scandalously fab performance with him. Are you ready to be bad!? Well then, go ahead and click on the video and act a fool in your cubicle. You have MN and Usher’s permission…
Karrine Steffans is most known for her nickname: Superhead, after blowing the whistle on men in the industry in her debut book: Confessions of a Video Vixen, which became a best seller that garnered her an interview on Oprah. After Confessions, she went on to write 3 more books: The Vixen Diaries, The Vixen Manual and SatisFaction. She just released a new book: Drink F#$@ Sleep, a collection of essays featuring other women and their stories of how alcohol influenced their sexual escapades.
Karrine is open about her sex life, but one thing we never get to hear her speak of is her son, and just the mention of his presence brings tears to her eyes. Here’s an excerpt from our interview:
So what would you tell your son about the type of women he should look out for?
Karrine Steffans: The only thing I tell my son, who’s 14…and he’s really 14. He’s not like one of these 14 year olds who ride the subway and smoke cigarettes. He’s really a sheltered, normal 14 year old. He’s not on the internet. He’s not allowed to watch anything on TV except for Nickelodeon and his TV only has like 3 or 4 channels…parental controls. So he’s sheltered from the world and I do that on purpose because he’s only gonna be my kid for a few more years and then I gotta give him out to the world [and] when he goes out he’ll be a little green, at first, but life is long and you’re an adult for a very long time. You’ll figure it out. I don’t want you figuring out how to be an adult at 14. Figure it out when you’re an adult.
So when we do talk about relationships and as he gets older, women…I tell him I want him to treat every woman as if she were his mother, no matter who she is, and you have to treat her as if she’s been hurt because she probably has. You have to treat her as if she’s been raped and spit on and called every name in the book. You gotta treat her as if someone came in here and ruined her already.
Go into everything feeling like that because it’s probably true and what that does is, it gives you a sense of empathy…treat her like you would your mom…
You seem very emotional when you talk about that, does that hit a button for you?
Karrine Steffans: It’s my kid…and um…my kid is such an amazing kid. I think about him growing up and going out into the world and when you have kids you try your best to tell them the things that you hope will keep them when they get out there…so I’m very emotional about that because he’s my kid [so] I want to make sure I’m telling him the right things and giving him those things [and so] it does make me emotional to think about my son being a man.
What about that day when he comes to you after being outside in the world and he says: someone said your mom, they call her Superhead?
Karrine Steffans: Nothing. That’s what they used to call me…There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that and I don’t mind it. It just doesn’t matter. They’ve called me worst things. You’re talking to someone who’s been being put down since she was born, by her own mother so the things that bother other people don’t bother me. I’ve made it already. I’m already here you know [and] by most accounts I should’ve been dead a long time ago, so whatever that is, it doesn’t matter and I instill that in my child…things that matter and things that just fucking don’t and he’s a remarkable person and he gets that already.
Words By: Dominga Martin