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Remember back in 2004 when Usher’s album, “Confessions,” came out at nearly the exact same time the singer broke up with Chilli and everyone assumed all the scandalous tales on the album were about his relationship with her? Since that time, producer Jermaine Dupri has spoken up about the fact that the confessions on that album were actually about his trife life and not Usher’s, but as Chilli makes her media rounds promoting the TLC Biopic airing on VH1 tonight, she’s also setting the record straight about the recordings and how she feels about Usher to this day. Clearing the air with Us Weekly, she said:
“We were together when he recorded that album. All of those songs on ‘Confessions,’ that was about Jermaine Dupri’s situation. Usher was just singing it. But people kind of bought into it, it was just the timing of our breakup when the album came out. So people assumed that album was about us, but it was not. And Usher and I weren’t oil and water. We broke up because I guess it was that time or whatever. He was that real love for me.”
Though we can believe “Confessions” wasn’t really about Usher and Chilli, what seems a bit confusing is the 42-year-old claiming they broke up because “it was that time or whatever.” Am I the only one who recalls a semi-bitter Chilli calling into Atlanta’s Q100 radio station back in 2004 and telling the world, “Usher did the ultimate no-no to me. I will never be with him again, and that is that,” before adding, ”He portrayed himself to be this honest and great guy, and he really wasn’t. ”I will never take him back. It is a done deal.”
Now I’m not saying she couldn’t have finally gotten over that and changed her tune about the type of man Usher is, but doing the “ultimate no-no,” which we all assume is cheating, does not sound like it was just time to move on. Makes me wonder whether Chilli calling into that radio show nine years ago was a part of a PR spectacle to boost sales of “Confessions” or she just forgot she told the world that in her latest interview? Whatever the case, it appears any bitter feelings she may or may not have felt toward her ex at that time have since subsided. She added in her Us Weekly interview:
“In any relationship, even when it came to my relationship with Usher, when it was time to make a move, I had to do that. I don’t care how much my heart was hurting, sometimes you’re just supposed to be with people for a reason and it’s not always a lifetime. Even if you want it to be, it just doesn’t work out that way.
“But I’ll always love him, forever, because he was my first adult love, a real love. We’re cool, we’re really cool. There’s no hard feelings, nothing like that. It’s all good.”
Someone Dallas Austin, the father of her 16-year-old son Tron, is thinking, “ain’t this about a bleep?” Just kidding. It’s good to know Chilli’s in a good place Usher, but do you think she should stop talking about him so much, though, considering they’ve been broken up for almost 10 years now?
Usher has reached another career milestone.
The “Climax” singer will be honored with the ASCAP Golden Note Award at the 26th Annual Rhythm & Soul Music Awards. The honor only goes to artist, musicians and composers who have greatly contributed to the industry through their gifts. Previous honorees include Stevie Wonder, Quincy Jones, Pharrell Williams and Alicia Keys.
“I take the art of songwriting and music—making very seriously, so to be given the ASCAP Golden Note Award from an organization of my fellow music creators is a huge honor,” said Usher in a statement.
You can read the rest about Usher’s big honor over on Essence.com.
Wow, that is quite an elite group, isn’t it? Some may have “issues” with Usher’s current style of music but no one can deny that he’s definitely made a mark on the years. I mean, 8701 or Confessions anyone?
Congrats to him!
Let this jam play in the club on an especially good night (aka, the night you wore cute flats, not crippling heels) and bet any money you’ll lose your mind on the dance floor. As Usher says, you’ll be making faces while you’re doing it too. One of the standout jams from the critically acclaimed and mega-successful Confessions album, “Bad Girl” is the beez-neez. The bass and guitars are killing the game and Usher’s vocals were on point. Say what you want about the guy now, but you can’t deny that he knows how to make you dance when he really wants to. The video we’re attaching with the track is at an Usher concert, where bad girl Bey came out on the stage and did a scandalously fab performance with him. Are you ready to be bad!? Well then, go ahead and click on the video and act a fool in your cubicle. You have MN and Usher’s permission…
I was having an interesting conversation with some friends on whether women truly put their close male friends in the “friend zone.” For anyone who doesn’t know what the “friend zone” is, according to the always hilarious Urban Dictionary, it’s the following:
“What you attain after you fail to impress a woman you’re attracted to. Usually initiated by the woman saying, “You’re such a good friend”. Usually associated with long days of suffering and watching your love interest hop from one bad relationship to another. Verb tense is “Friend-ed”.”
Ironically, most of the other definitions on Urban Dictionary paint this similar picture: that men are the sole victims to being looked at as just friends by the women they care for, but who don’t happen to feel the same way back. Or what I would call victims of unrequited love.
The way some people perceive the “friend zone” bothers me because it’s usually only implied to men. Most movies and TV shows present men who feel they are victimized in some way because they didn’t get to that next level with their romantic interest and because she didn’t share his feelings. Just because you buy a woman dinner, or take her out on a date, or spend time with her doesn’t mean she’s automatically required to either sleep with you or become your significant other and immediately feel the way you do.
I’m not saying that there aren’t people out there who take advantage of men’s kindness, because that would be a lie. We can all probably find a time where we’ve accidentally or purposefully played with someone’s emotions, but to think that it’s only women who do this to men? That’s my problem with the perception of it all.
I’ve been friend zoned plenty of times. I’m either too cute or too sweet to the guys I’ve found myself interest in, and I’m always someone’s “kid sister” or “one of the guys.” Guys have given me some indication that they were interested in me, but then after they get what they wanted, be it physical, emotional–whatever–they have pulled the “You’re great and all, but we just don’t have that spark. We should just be friends.” There have been guys who I’ve liked, but their only interest in me was to be friends and they never tried to lead me on and “play” like me in a romantic sense. As much as it might happen to men, it definitely is something that women go through just as much, and it might even be worse. Whether the man in the picture gets what he wants from you (be it companionship, someone to vent to, etc) but says he “doesn’t look at you that way” or not, being thrown in the friend zone isn’t something exclusive to one sex, despite popular opinion that paints women as heartless maneaters.
What am I supposed to do if someone doesn’t like me? Make them like me? Uh, no thanks. And it’s funny, because if a woman does it she’s a crazy psycho, but if a man does it, he’s a hopeless romantic. Thank you romantic comedies such as, 500 Days of Summer and Just Friends, for proving this point.
Rejection isn’t easy for anyone, but at the end of the day if someone genuinely doesn’t like you and was honest about it, what can you do? If people had more open and honest surroundings, it would create for stronger relationships and friendships. So while Urban Dictionary and others might like to play like women always rarely know what they want, use men and then play them because they’re “too nice” and would be better used as friends, men get down the same way…
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