‘I Don’t Need To Be In The Gym, I’m Raising Our Daughters’: Vanessa Bryant Responds To Drake’s ‘Stay Schemin’ Jab

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January 2, 2013 ‐ By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Whether you’re a rap fan or not, you’ve probably at least come across the rap line “You wasn’t with me shooting in the gym,” being quoted on social media sites. In case you may be unaware of where the popularly quoted phrase came from, it is actually a line from Drake’s verse in Rick Ross’ Stay Schemin song where Drake references the controversy surrounding the massive sum of money that Kobe would have had to hand over to his wife Vanessa back when the two almost divorced. Since the release of the song, Kobe fans have been known to chant the phrase to demonstrate their support for the Lakers shooting guard. Up until now, Vanessa has been pretty quiet regarding the song’s lyrics. She recently took to her Instagram account to respond to a few people who brought the quote back to her attention as well as express her feelings regarding the phrase and the people who constantly quote it.

“I love when immature kids quote a rapper that has never been friends with Kobe and knows nothing about our relationship. Just shows how gullible they are. I don’t need to be in the gym. I’m raising our daughters, signing checks and taking care of everything else that pertains to our home life…”

“I really wish people would stop THINK and then realize that they are being sucked into someone’s clear intention to monetize and gain attention off of our family’s heartache. This is real life. I hold down our home life so my husband can focus on his career. It’s a partnership.”

“Since my husband is isn’t friends with Drake, we received a text of an apology forwarded from his manager. It’s done and over with and it’s now time for people to THINK before speaking.”

I certainly agree with Vanessa’s stance that marriage is indeed a partnership; however this all just goes back to the age-old debate surrounding the amount of money a woman should be awarded upon her divorce from her husband. According to Necole Bitchie, Drake has openly expressed that it was just a song and was never meant to offend Vanessa or Kobe.

“That line came from a conversation about being this young and making this much money and the fear of losing it all. I just used his potential situation to address my own life. I never intended to offend Vanessa or anyone else.”

As usual any bad blood between the Bryants and Drake appears to be non-existant, but of course, the public continues to fuel the drama.

What do you think of Vanessa finally addressing the song lyrics? Was Drake wrong for referencing the Bryants’ drama in his song or was he simply doing what rappers do?

Jazmine Denise is a news writer for madamenoire.com. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise

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  • IllyPhilly

    So did he actually say her name in the line of the rap song?

    • Pivyque

      No. From what I remember he was like, “Kobe my n****, I hate it had to be him. B****, you wasn’t with me shooting in the gym!”

  • Pivyque

    They don’t want to hear that. She is a VICTIM here. lol

    • mac

      smh if this was a Kim K or someone else, this discussion would be so much more different lol

      • Pivyque

        If it were Kim K, she would have been getting the side eye before we even read the article! lol

  • Pivyque

    I agree with you. I wouldn’t be surprised if no one else did tho. I understand that once you are married (with no prenup) all money is shared money, but Kobe earned that money and I don’t believe that she deserves any more that is necessary to support kids if they divorce. That’s assuming that she gets them. He might be retire and get full custody. lol

  • Jazz

    I agree with her. I can’t determine what she deserves because I am not the one walking in her shoes (her husband is the one to determine that). We all, rich or poor– , single or not, have our own set of challenges. No one has it made easy, and that includes Mrs. Bryant.

    We have got to stop viewing marriage/relationship as a competition. It is not. A healthy marriage requires a balance and a partnership. This mentality of keeping tab on what you put in versus what s/he puts in is detrimental. If Kobe was interested in someone who was shooting in the gym, he would have asked one of teammates to marry, not her. Her role in her marriage is to meet the needs of her husband and children. It would be extremely difficult to do such if she’s busy trying do everything her husband is already doing.Men are providers/protectors and women are nurturers/ nesters. Men commonly pursue women who are nurturers because that is one of their needs and women commonly pursue men who are providers for the same reason. Everyone in-between is just fighting against the natural order.

  • clove8canela

    I hated that line. Drake had no business commenting on their 10+ years relationship & I really think she shouldn’t have even wasted her breath responding to it.

  • scandalous7

    Im still trying to figure out WHY is this such a big deal. People really dont have anything else to do.

  • Kaori

    Thank you, Vanessa. It bothered me to high h*ll the way people took that line and used it to put her down as a woman because of their own misogynistic feelings.

  • JustSayin

    Hmmm You STILL Wasn’t With Him Shooting In The GYM! If anyone has watched Eddie Murphy raw they will understand where Drake was coming from. He said it.. When your husband is bringing in MILLIONS what do you really do. Let’s really think about this. Does she REALLY clean up that entire house? All of them? Does she REALLY pick out his clothes, the children’s clothes and her’s? Does she REALLY sign checks? If that is so then they are the ONLY millionaires that do not have accountants, chefs, maids and all the other help. Nope… for her to even decide that she wants to reference that lyric an ENTIRE year later… is just so bootsie. Girl… get over it. Good day.

    • Trisha_B

      I think of that episode of The Game were Tasha Mack was talking to the Sun beams. she said when the women are angry the men pay the price. They aren’t getting fed, the house isn’t handled, they aren’t having s3x, they aren’t stress free, as a result they start loosing games. Obviously Vanessa wasn’t on the court w/ Kobe, but she’s supporting him, making sure his needs are met, making sure his kids are taken care of & his house is in order…as a result of all that he’s winning on the courts. If Vanessa up & left him, decides she’s not gonna be a supportive wife anymore he’ll probably start doing horrible on the courts

      • Pivyque

        Trust me, Kobe will get his needs met elsewhere if she isn’t down. We have a documented Colorado case to prove it. ALSO, if Vanessa wasn’t doing anything, Kobe would have a chef to cook, a maid to clean, a nanny to watch the kids and his family, fans and friends to support him. Please tell me where Vanessa makes any impact on how his game played? Kobe was balling before she walked in and he would still be balling if she left a long time ago.

        • mac

          SMH thank you! Not only do we have a Colorado case to prove it, didn’t she say herself he’s cheated with a hundred women over the course of their marriage?

          To seriously say Kobe will all of a sudden stop being the hall of fame player that he is because some female decides to dip? As someone who actually dislikes the Lakers and Kobe, even I can say that is an extremely foolish thing to write. Jordan lost his FATHER and still balled his way to a championship shortly after.

          These athletes bust their tails season in and season out to reach the ultimate goal of playing for a championship and you think some woman will make them lose sight of that goal? Especially someone like Kobe who’s a workaholic? Smh I’m done.

          (as a sports fan that riled me up, sorry).

          • Pivyque

            Lol PREACH! I feel the EXACT same way. I’m not a Lakers fan either, but my husband is. Kobe was balling with a broken finger wasn’t he? Lol The person that wrote that post is putting way too much importance on her role. Yes, she is the one doing those things, but if she wasn’t, someone else would be. Kobe is a rich sports player. If she left, he would not be hurting for anything lol

        • mac

          SMH thank you! Not only do we have a Colorado case to prove it, didn’t she say herself he’s cheated with a hundred women over the course of their marriage?

          To seriously say Kobe will all of a sudden stop being the hall of fame player that he is because some female decides to dip? As someone who actually dislikes the Lakers and Kobe, even I can say that is an extremely foolish thing to write. Jordan lost his FATHER and still balled his way to a championship shortly after.

          These athletes bust their tails season in and season out to reach the ultimate goal of playing for a championship and you think some woman will make them lose sight of that goal? Especially someone like Kobe who’s a workaholic? Smh I’m done.

          (as a sports fan that riled me up, sorry).

        • Trisha_B

          Having a supportive partner has an impact on anyone! How many rich kids whose parents are away all the time wish they could have their parents in the stands during their games? Our a man wanting to confide in a woman about how his day went. Yea Kobe can get a chef & maid, but none of that compares to having a partner there that loves you & supports you 100. Smfh your trying too hard to throw negativity at this relationship. Why did Kobe do to you?!

        • Trisha_B

          Having a supportive partner has an impact on anyone! How many rich kids whose parents are away all the time wish they could have their parents in the stands during their games? Our a man wanting to confide in a woman about how his day went. Yea Kobe can get a chef & maid, but none of that compares to having a partner there that loves you & supports you 100. Smfh your trying too hard to throw negativity at this relationship. Why did Kobe do to you?!

          • Pivyque

            I’m not. I’m just being logical. I like Kobe as a player and I love the fact that he and his wife are working things out. However, to say that she impacts his game in any way is a bit of a stretch. Kobe has the ability to separate the game from his home life. I am pretty sure he was still playing well in the midst of that rape accusation. It may impact him emotionally, I am not saying that it won’t, but it most likely will not affect his game. Let’s give credit where credit is due. Kobe (& God if you’re religious) is the only reason Kobe is so talented. He trains, he focuses and he gives his all to the game and his team.
            Just to throw in there, Kobe is a grown man. Let’s not compare him to a child that wants his parents in the stand. My cousin was a ball player in high school and he would have loved for his parents to be in the stands, but they usually had to work. It may have made him sad, but it never had an impact on his game. This was from a guy in high school. Kobe is a professional. He can handle it, i’m sure.

        • Trisha_B

          Having a supportive partner has an impact on anyone! How many rich kids whose parents are away all the time wish they could have their parents in the stands during their games? Our a man wanting to confide in a woman about how his day went. Yea Kobe can get a chef & maid, but none of that compares to having a partner there that loves you & supports you 100. Smfh your trying too hard to throw negativity at this relationship. Why did Kobe do to you?!

        • Trisha_B

          Having a supportive partner has an impact on anyone! How many rich kids whose parents are away all the time wish they could have their parents in the stands during their games? Our a man wanting to confide in a woman about how his day went. Yea Kobe can get a chef & maid, but none of that compares to having a partner there that loves you & supports you 100. Smfh your trying too hard to throw negativity at this relationship. Why did Kobe do to you?!

        • Trisha_B

          Having a supportive partner has an impact on anyone! How many rich kids whose parents are away all the time wish they could have their parents in the stands during their games? Our a man wanting to confide in a woman about how his day went. Yea Kobe can get a chef & maid, but none of that compares to having a partner there that loves you & supports you 100. Smfh your trying too hard to throw negativity at this relationship. Why did Kobe do to you?!

        • Trisha_B

          Having a supportive partner has an impact on anyone! How many rich kids whose parents are away all the time wish they could have their parents in the stands during their games? Our a man wanting to confide in a woman about how his day went. Yea Kobe can get a chef & maid, but none of that compares to having a partner there that loves you & supports you 100. Smfh your trying too hard to throw negativity at this relationship. Why did Kobe do to you?!

      • mia

        You clearly don’t follow basketball lmao

        • Pivyque

          Lol right.

  • http://www.facebook.com/a.daneecakes Danee Cakes

    I just wonder how many women defending Vanessa would be ok with they husband “writing checks” while they “shooting in the gym”… I feel it is a partnership either way… But would u take care of ur husband in the same way just asking…

    • Pivyque

      I would. If I were making millions and my husband decided he wanted to stop working and be a house husband, I would be ok with that. He would have to stay in shape and keep the house in order, of course.

    • sweettea

      I would have no problem with my husband being a house husband if I was a millionaire. I would probably retire super young and sit on my butt right along with him

  • Afrorican85

    @8c9f24a1862fc57a16819b56c353e01d:disqus yo I have to agree with you. Vanessa isn’t the typical basketball wife making everything a publicity stunt however I did feel her need to respond a bit childish and only makes her look as though she HAD to defend herself. Why attempt to defend when it supposedly doesn’t apply. Secondly, not to discredit her “homemaking” abilities but I have to TOTALLY disagree with her being a single mother because being a kept woman and homemaker is only an insult to those who are REAL single mothers acting as both mother and father, breadwinner and homemaker. She said it herself she JUST signs the checks because she damn sure ain’t making them. Unless your children are newborns or can’t be potty trained why are you are home lol? Hell even the kids are out of the house for 8 hours, why aren’t you? lol just keeping it real. Now I know a lot of women may not agree with me but hell I am a woman myself and I see being a mother being a full time job but most women have that and ANOTHER full time job so she needs to stop defending the fact she’s a kept woman. Vanessa, just stick to signing those checks and stop getting on Instagram!lol

  • Shay

    He earned the bulk of his wealth while he was married to her, so it’s half hers. That’s the way with most marriages, rich or poor. I also believe that if they were to divorce, she should get a huge chunk of change because she has children to raise. In my opinion, whatever money she would need for the children to maintain their standard of living sounds fair to me.

  • Pseudonym

    I HATE that phrase!

    and my response is always the same: she wasn’t with him shooting in the gym, but she sure was with him in that Colorado courtroom. Drake- and everybody else using that phrase- needs to fall back.

    • Pivyque

      And? So was the other woman that he slept with…

      • Pseudonym

        Your comment makes no sense. The other woman was there filing charges to get money from him or send him to jail while Vanessa was there in support of her husband while being embarrassed having to hear every detail of his sexual encounter with the plaintiff.

        You can fall back as well.

        • Pivyque

          Lol Look, you can throw details in there are you want. Both of them were still in the courtroom.

  • JaneDoe

    I like Vanessa. Seems to be she is not all about the money like most assume. It takes a lot for a woman to be a single parent all yr that includes training camp, and basketball seasons, holidays, schools, etc. Their marraige/partnership is nobody’s business.. Its worked for them all these yrs. And I applaud her for not being an attention wh*re.

    • mac

      a man cheats on her with “105 women” and she stays. Yeah shes definitely not all about the money.

    • mac

      a man cheats on her with “105 women” and she stays. Yeah shes definitely not all about the money.

      • Pivyque

        I have to say, women will stay with broke men because of “love”. My friend started dating an abusive, broke cheater back in college and they are STILL together. I don’t know if he is still an abusive cheater, but he still doesn’t have a job, so he is still broke. He wants to be a rapper…he is over 35 and still wants to be a rapper -_-

    • mac

      a man cheats on her with “105 women” and she stays. Yeah shes definitely not all about the money.

  • Trisha_B

    I like Vanessa, idk. She doesn’t run to the media, isn’t being like Jackie Christie & following her husband city to city, she’s just being a wife & raising their kids. She’s basically a single parent w/ him gone all the time. She do have added perks, like probably have a maid that comes in every now & then & probably a chef, but she’s still a mother whose raising her kids solo while her husband is away. Does she deserve half? Idk, but she deserve something

    • mac

      A maid that comes in every now and then? LOL. This is Mrs. Kobe we’re talking about. They have a live-in maid and other live-in help, who she is abusive of, according to her former housekeeper’s lawsuit.

      This woman probably barely lifts a finger except to swipe her black card at Saks; give me a break. “Single parent” my behind. What an insult to the actual single mothers who bust their a**es to make ends meet.

      • kjones

        Amen!!

    • Pivyque

      I like her too, but she definitely shouldn’t be compared to a single parent.

      • Trisha_B

        Isn’t the definition of a single parent is one who is raising a kid w/out a partner? Or is a single mother defined by your income? “You can’t be a single mother b/c your rich!” :/ Kobe is away a lot, she’s at home w/ their kids alone. Yes she has a lot of money, & don’t have struggles like other single parents but at the end of the night she’s tucking those kids in bed alone. She’s getting the kids up & ready for school in the morning alone.

        • Pivyque

          Did I say anything about her income? Let me read my post again. Oh, I didn’t? Ok. She has a partner. She is married. It has nothing to do with her income. When she files taxes, it is as married, not single. That is why I say she is not a single parent. She is being a stay at home mom. That is what they do. Of course, some single mothers are doing better financially than others. When someone is MARRIED, they are not a single parent. As a stay at home mom, it is her job to take care of the house and tend to the children. Even if Kobe was a teacher that came home every night, that would still be her job as a stay at home parent. Married women have been doing this for ages and have never had the audacity to claim to be a single parents. That is an insult to the father that is providing and assisting in raising his kids.

  • Stacy L

    Why is she responding now tho? I mean, that song is how old???

    • Trisha_B

      I can only think she responded now b/c people kept commenting on her pictures saying the same thing over & over again. People go on celeb accounts & sound like a broken record asking/saying the same stuff over & over again lol. She probably got tired of the comments & wanted to shut it down!

    • Kaori

      Does it matter?

  • Pivyque

    That’s what rapper’s do. Regardless of what she is saying, the fact remains that she wasn’t with him shooting in the gym. When they write checks, they write the checks out to Kobe Bryant, not Kobe and Vanessa Bryant. Lol I get that marriage is a partnership and the whole “what’s yours is mine” mindset, but it doesn’t change the fact that he is the one going out (working) and bringing home the money. I don’t see why she is offended. It’s the truth.

    • kierah

      It doesn’t seem like she was offended at all. Drake said the line and it was others who kept throwing it in her face.
      It’s not a “what’s yours is mine” mindset. It is actually a legal contract between these two individuals. A man is supposed to take care of his family. It doesn’t matter if he’s bringing in $50k or $50m.

      • Pivyque

        Once again, I get that. My only point is that the line from the song is accurate. I am only addressing “You wasn’t with me shooting in the gym”…and she wasn’t. SN: I believe that both partners in the relationship should take care of the family. The sole responsibility should not be on the man.

    • Anonymous

      Since they were married in California, anything either of them make during the course of the marriage relationship is community property (unless they made other arrangements prior to marriage on how the money would be classified). Both parties have equal ownership and control over said community property as well. Thus, Vanessa Bryant was “shooting in the [proverbial] gym.” With that said, it was just a song lyric. But don’t let Drake have y’all out here ignorant to what the state has said is your legal right to share.

      • Pivyque

        I understand that. However, my statement still stands. They make the check out to him because he is the one that works and makes the money. She isn’t literally out there shooting in the gym.

    • bluekissess

      Totally agree. I admire committed married couples BUT times are changing with all the education I received and careers I want to pursue I can’t see myself sitting at home. I got to get mine. If my husband told me he wanted to leave I’ll open the door. Because I’ll be alright.

      • Pivyque

        She’ll be alright if Kobe leaves too. Lol But i’m like you, I have career goals and I just can’t be at home all day unless it is necessary. I have to be disabled or something! I can’t be able bodied and just stay home. It’s not in the cards for me lol

  • Nikki

    Eh, whatever… I didn’t think it was a big deal.

    • Kaori

      But a lot of other people did, and as a result, this woman was dragged through the mud because of other’s preconceived notions about her.

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