Siohvaughn Wade Speaks Out: “Now I’ve Overcome Fear”
This must be the week of celebrities speaking out. Though we all know what’s gone down between Dwyane Wade, his ex-wife Siohvaughn, and Gabrielle Union in some form or fashion from the outside, lately the conversation has been dominated by D Wade and Gabby. But now Siohvaughn is adding her voice to the mix and speaking out for the first time since she filed those lawsuits against Gabrielle and since she lost custody of her sons.
NecoleBitchie caught the exclusive interview which aired on “Real Talk With Kietta,” in which the mother of the Miami Heat player’s sons talks about her tumultuous relationship with her ex, his new relationship with Gabrielle, and everything in between. The recent visitation drama and the associated issues which are currently playing out in the court room are about the only thing Siohvaugn didn’t touch on, but she did speak on not getting a fair day in court, in her opinion. Here’s a bit from the interview:
Why She’s Speaking Out Right Now
Well, I believe now I’ve overcome fear.
Meeting Dwyane Wade
We met when we in like, the 5th grade.[…]No, I didn’t ‘like’ him then, but we were friends.[…] I think that I probably was 15 or 16-years-old when we actually started dating. I think he was pretty outgoing, very funny and we were friends. Although I was a female and he was a male, I was able to interact with him like one of his male friends, one of the guys. He was loving then, he was very soft-spoken, very humble at that time.
Dwyane Wade moving in with her mom at 16
Siohvaughn: When He finally did confide in me what was happening in his home and what happened with his mom — he wasn’t living with her at that time — about drug use and her being in and out of prison, the abuse was pretty bad in his house. One night it had gotten really bad and him and his sister, his younger sister, had came to my home probably at like, 3 o’ clock in the morning and I opened the door and that’s when I had to tell my mom that I knew what was happening in his home and what was going on. I had to explain to her why he was coming to the door at that hour at 16-years-old. I had spoken with my mom and I had asked her is there any way he could stay with us and not have to live in that kind of environment.
Dwyane Getting Drafted
I was happy because it was a dream of his. His dreams had somehow became even my own, so I was very happy.[…]I saw him set a goal and I was proud of him. I was happy for him, but when I realized that we had gotten this fortune in exchange for our faith and our family, I was destroyed at that point. It started to get really bad the summer right after he’d been drafted. I was over the phone with him and he had said something to me very, very, angrily, and I had something to him about speaking to me and being disrespectful and he told me, ‘Do you wanna go and live in your mother’s house? ‘Cause that’s what’s gonna happen. You’re gonna end up back living in your mother’s house.’ I was very shocked. It was a very, very awful feeling. We stayed together but now that I can look back, from that moment it went downhill.
On Men in the NBA being unfaithful
First I’d like to say that I’m not an NBA wife. I’m not an ex-wife, I’m not a basketball wife, thank God. I finally know who I am and I have my own identity but at that time I certainly was married to him and the game and the lifestyle. I do think that that’s the expectation. Absolutely. You’re seen, but you’re not heard.
Dwyane being violent
I was pregnant with Zion. Shortly before being hospitalized I was in Florida and I woke up in the middle of the night because I was sick, obviously with the pregnancy. I noticed that Mr. Wade wasn’t in the house. I was calling him and calling him because it was probably like, two or three o’ clock in the morning and we went to bed together which means he must have gotten up out of the bed and just left in the middle of the night without telling me. I was looking for him. I looked around the house. I was calling his phone he didn’t answer. He finally got back several hours later, it was well into the next day and I was very upset. I was asking where was he and why he [would] just leave without saying anything.
His response was at first to be verbally abusive. He was cursing, he was calling me names, he was telling me to shut the ‘f’ up.[…]He picked me up and held me over his head literally in midair and threw me down in our bathroom. We had an ottoman in the bathroom and he slammed me down so hard that when my back hit the otooman it broke into four pieces and my back and head hit the concrete, the marble floor, excuse me, in the bathroom. After that I got up and immediately went — there’s a cordless phone in the bathroom, I immediately went to that phone and I was crying, I was hysterical, I went to go call the police. At that point more hell broke lose because I suppose he was in fear of being exposed because I certainly was going to call the police. I picked up the cordless phone, he snatched it out of my hand and he threw the cordless phone against my body so hard that the phone literally broke into pieces.
Dwyane’s relationship with Gabrielle Union
Separated and divorced are two different things. I’m not certain when it happened or when she happened but I know that I was very married. I know that me and Dwyane at that time had talked about reconciliation going back and forth. I was still even intimate sometimes with my then husband. So, does that constitute sleeping or having an affair with somebody’s husband? Yes. To me, divorce and separation are always two different things.
The lawsuit was about her having a negative effect on my children. That’s what that lawsuit was about. Her behavior and the things she did and said began to effect my sons, that’s when I opened my mouth and did something about it.
You can check out the first couple of segments from the interview below, including one with Siohvaughn’s mom. NecoleBitchie has the rest. What do you think about what she said?
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