Siohvaughn Wade Speaks Out: “Now I’ve Overcome Fear”

September 14th, 2012 - By Brande Victorian

Source: WENN

This must be the week of celebrities speaking out. Though we all know what’s gone down between Dwyane Wade, his ex-wife Siohvaughn, and Gabrielle Union in some form or fashion from the outside, lately the conversation has been dominated by D Wade and Gabby. But now Siohvaughn is adding her voice to the mix and speaking out for the first time since she filed those lawsuits against Gabrielle and since she lost custody of her sons.

NecoleBitchie caught the exclusive interview which aired on “Real Talk With Kietta,” in which the mother of the Miami Heat player’s sons talks about her tumultuous relationship with her ex, his new relationship with Gabrielle, and everything in between. The recent visitation drama and the associated issues which are currently playing out in the court room are about the only thing Siohvaugn didn’t touch on, but she did speak on not getting a fair day in court, in her opinion. Here’s a bit from the interview:

 

Why She’s Speaking Out Right Now
Well, I believe now I’ve overcome fear.

Meeting Dwyane Wade
We met when we in like, the 5th grade.[...]No, I didn’t ‘like’ him then, but we were friends.[...] I think that I probably was 15 or 16-years-old when we actually started dating. I think he was pretty outgoing, very funny and we were friends. Although I was a female and he was a male, I was able to interact with him like one of his male friends, one of the guys. He was loving then, he was very soft-spoken, very humble at that time.

Dwyane Wade moving in with her mom at 16
Siohvaughn: When He finally did confide in me what was happening in his home and what happened with his mom — he wasn’t living with her at that time — about drug use and her being in and out of prison, the abuse was pretty bad in his house. One night it had gotten really bad and him and his sister, his younger sister, had came to my home probably at like, 3 o’ clock in the morning and I opened the door and that’s when I had to tell my mom that I knew what was happening in his home and what was going on. I had to explain to her why he was coming to the door at that hour at 16-years-old. I had spoken with my mom and I had asked her is there any way he could stay with us and not have to live in that kind of environment.

Dwyane Getting Drafted
I was happy because it was a dream of his. His dreams had somehow became even my own, so I was very happy.[...]I saw him set a goal and I was proud of him. I was happy for him, but when I realized that we had gotten this fortune in exchange for our faith and our family, I was destroyed at that point. It started to get really bad the summer right after he’d been drafted. I was over the phone with him and he had said something to me very, very, angrily, and I had something to him about speaking to me  and being disrespectful and he told me, ‘Do you wanna go and live in your mother’s house? ‘Cause that’s what’s gonna happen. You’re gonna end up back living in your mother’s house.’ I was very shocked. It was a very, very awful feeling. We stayed together but now that I can look back, from that moment it went downhill.

On Men in the NBA being unfaithful
First I’d like to say that I’m not an NBA wife. I’m not an ex-wife, I’m not a basketball wife, thank God. I finally know who I am and I have my own identity but at that time I certainly was married to him and the game and the lifestyle. I do think that that’s the expectation. Absolutely. You’re seen, but you’re not heard.

Dwyane being violent
I was pregnant with Zion. Shortly before being hospitalized I was in Florida and I woke up in the middle of the night because I was sick, obviously with the pregnancy. I noticed that Mr. Wade wasn’t in the house. I was calling him and calling him because it was probably like, two or three o’ clock in the morning and we went to bed together which means he must have gotten up out of the bed and just left in the middle of the night without telling me. I was looking for him. I looked around the house. I was calling his phone he didn’t answer. He finally got back several hours later, it was well into the next day and I was very upset. I was asking where was he and why he [would] just leave without saying anything.

His response was at first to be verbally abusive. He was cursing, he was calling me names, he was telling me to shut the ‘f’ up.[...]He picked me up and held me over his head literally in midair and threw me down in our bathroom. We had an ottoman in the bathroom and he slammed me down so hard that when my back hit the otooman it broke into four pieces and my back and head hit the concrete, the marble floor, excuse me, in the bathroom. After that I got up and immediately went — there’s a cordless phone in the bathroom, I immediately went to that phone and I was crying, I was hysterical, I went to go call the police. At that point more hell broke lose because I suppose he was in fear of being exposed because I certainly was going to call the police. I picked up the cordless phone, he snatched it out of my hand and he threw the cordless phone against my body so hard that the phone literally broke into pieces.

Dwyane’s relationship with Gabrielle Union
Separated and divorced are two different things. I’m not certain when it happened or when she happened but I know that I was very married. I know that me and Dwyane at that time had talked about reconciliation going back and forth. I was still even intimate sometimes with my then husband. So, does that constitute sleeping or having an affair with somebody’s husband? Yes. To me, divorce and separation are always two different things.

The lawsuit was about her having a negative effect on my children. That’s what that lawsuit was about. Her behavior and the things she did and said began to effect my sons, that’s when I opened my mouth and did something about it.

You can check out the first couple of segments from the interview below, including one with Siohvaughn’s mom. NecoleBitchie has the rest. What do you think about what she said?

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  • DLB

    Watch all 8 segments first before making your comments and just going by the tidbits posted in this article. The truth is going to come out about DWade. He is not innocent, nor his Chicago attorneys, nor the Chicago judge, & nor Gabrielle. Siohvaughn has fought for her kids, if she hadn’t, all of this trouble would not have happened to her. God is in control and DWade will reap what he has sown, as well as his Chicago attorneys, the Chicago judge, & Gabrielle.

  • LadeeTJ

    you reap what you sow.. Wade will get everything back for what you did to that girl.

  • Reese

    She needs to let it go. Dwayne may not have been perfect, but she needs to move on and heal for herself. Being angry with him is only hurter her case and making his case stronger.

  • FromUR2UB

    I know from personal experience, how it feels to hurt that way. It’s an unrelenting pain. But, I never gave him the satisfaction of knowing I was thinking about him, especially years later. I never called him or contacted him. I didn’t spend my time dragging him to court. As far as he knew, he never crossed my mind. The sympathy train only takes you so far. It doesn’t take people long to grow tired of hearing you talk about a situation, despite how legitimate your pain is. This is one of those times when you have to remind yourself that some relationships were only meant for a season and reason. If people aren’t growing together in the same direction, then they usually grow apart. She has benefitted from the marriage financially, even if she’s not enjoying the lifestyle she had when she was with him. At least, she was able to care for her children, and is fortunate that their father wants to be involved in his children’s lives. They would still be in hers if she had at least acted like she’d let go of their father. The result was not worth all the trouble. I don’t believe he threw her around like that while she was pregnant. I just don’t believe she or her unborn baby could have survived that much trauma to her body. But, if he treated her shabbily in their marriage, then she should find consolation in knowing that people eventually reap what they sow.

  • Nubian Princess

    It’s really
    convenient that when he starts his book tour she suddenly has some
    unknown person interview her. They went to court she lost custody
    because she switched lawyer 10 times! She didn’t agree to the terms of
    the visitation agreement by not returning the children when she was
    supposed to. She filed absurd lawsuits saying he gave her an STD then
    took it back. She claimed her sons said Gabby and D wade were having sex
    in front of them (Puhleez!) and now she is still on this D wade abused me tour. I understand she’s hurt because if I took a man in
    when he was at his lowest and he became rich and famous and moved on I would hurt too
    I’m human But in order for her to get her kids back ( which should be
    her top Priority) she has to let it go, straighten her self up, have
    some dignity and prove all the things he says about her are not true.
    Her agenda seems to be to slander his character rather than get her boys
    back and that speaks volumes about her personality. Hope fully she can
    go on Iyanla fix my life and heal properly because she just won’t let it
    go and it’s sad and painful to watch

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