When three out of four of the mothers of Terrell Owens’ children went on Dr. Phil
in May to confront the former NFL pro about being an absentee parent both physically and fiscally, Samelia Miller was noticeably missing. The Los Angeles celebrity makeup artist and mother of T.O.’s youngest child and only son, Atlin, opted not to appear on the talk show and at the time people could only speculate as to why. Now Samelia has out put a concrete statement on her choice and her overall dealings with her son’s father in a blog post on her website
. Here’s what she said:
As the mother of Terrell Owens’ youngest child, Atlin, I have watched and listened to the public and media conversation about my son’s father throughout the past several years. I have heard both the positive and the “less than favorable things” said about the one who calls himself [B]“T.O.”[/B] watching his rise and fall in the public spotlight.
By no stretch of the imagination have I been happy with Terrell’s past actions as it relates to my son. To see Terrell rise to the levels he did, yet not find it within himself to meet and develop a relationship with his son because of his so call “resentment toward me” and other excuses, to me is somewhere between immature, ridiculous and inexcusable. But I did not “put him on blast” in the media or go public with my story for a number of reasons. Primarily because…regardless of how I felt about his father’s actions, Terrell is still his father. Going on national television along with the parents of his other children and “confronting” Terrell about why he hasn’t been around, been supportive of his son, or (until he recently met Atlin) chosen to be a part of his life, etc., was not something I chose to do. Which I feel is not in best interest for my son — and he matters most to me.
One day, my son is going to watch, read, and hear these things from others about his dad. [B]So do you really think I want Atlin to see his mom and dad battling it out on Dr. Phil…?[/B] [B]NOT[/B]!
After five years, Terrell is now trying to be a part of my son’s life. Granted, I have not gone easy on Terrell and I struggle everyday with trying to forgive him for how he treated us, but I am watching a transformation take place as he spends quality time with Atlin. I see how he regrets his mistakes, some of his actions and making so much of his private life public. Watching it sitting across from him in the courtroom as well as at the table from him eating at Atlin’s favorite pizza spot. The pain on his face is evident. I can see how he longs to just “get it right,” to fit in his son’s life, changing certain things he’s done and working even harder for an NFL team to take a chance on him.
The rise and fall of public figures is something society seems to crave. We watch in awe and become huge fans during their ascent and on their descent; we tend to distance ourselves from the celebrity, politician or athlete in question. Although this is a forgiving country, I do understand that “forgiveness” usually applies to those who have fallen, seen the error of their ways, and work hard to rebound. After the fall, the ownership of the actions that led to the downfall, the humbling of a once arrogant personality, the sincere pledge to do better, the heartfelt apology expressed through the media, and the positive actions to back it all up; are the things that tend to allow society to “forgive” them and open the door to redemption. But those who have been known to have a “selfish” attitude and an “it’s all about me” approach definitely have a much harder time rebounding from a fall.
We’ve all watched the rise and now the fall of my son’s father, Terrell Owens. But I believe with the new path Terrell is on he can and will rise again. I see him learning to abandon the arrogance, checking the ego at the door, and watching what comes out his mouth. This man wants to do right, work in a profession he has done so well in for years, and show the world he can be not only a great athlete, but also a parent and a man! It won’t be easy and there are huge obstacles in the way but I am confident he will overcome them and rise again.
That was awfully big of her considering T.O. is still acting up when it comes to the mothers of his other children. Just today he narrowly escaped jail time
after he skipped another $20,000 child support payment to Melanie Smith. Terrell showed up ready to pay the money he owed and a judge also ordered him to pay his baby mother’s legal fees which adds another $12,000 to his tally. Considering he has no ends he’s definitely going to have to up the quality time he spends with his children if he wants to be any type of father.
What do you think about Samelia’s letter?
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