When we don’t have social engagements to go to and the only way to carry out friendships is through video chats and simple outdoor park hangs, we see friendships for what they really are.
Eventually, you crack, and you just have to find out if the other friends take as much issue with this man as you do. You’re delicate about it at first. You don’t come out and say, “I hate so-and-so’s husband.” You put a little feeler out there to see how people respond.
He doesn’t really have other people to invite to events he’s interested in, which means you have to go with him. You really wouldn’t mind if he found someone else to accompany him to his particular hobbies that just don’t interest you.
Don’t let this friend always talk you into just coming over, and sitting on their couch. That’s the perfect environment for them to just talk about themselves for hours. Insist that you feel like getting fresh air, or checking out this movie—tell them that’s what you had planned that day and if they want to join, they can. They probably won’t because those aren’t great environments for them to get all the attention.
This can be painful to accept, but some of your girlfriends may not want your relationship to succeed. It can be hard for some women to see their best friends get into serious relationships. If you had a slightly co-dependent friendship, then your girlfriend might just worry that you’ll no longer be available as you […]