Career coach Deirdre Orr reminds us of something very important with this quote: your feelings aren’t things. They’re valid. You can acknowledge them. But they aren’t things. They aren’t real obstacles. They’re ghosts. So stop letting them stop you, as if they were tangible obstacles.
Your man may decide that it’s his friend group that is holding him back. Maybe he has some friends who are settled in their careers—they make decent money at jobs they don’t love but don’t hate, and are just enjoying a calm, simple life. But your man may decide he needs only and exclusively super-ambitious people around him, and start making some friendship cuts.
If you’re a writer, your family asks, “Have you considered getting your book listed in ‘The New York Times’?” If you’re a chef, they ask, “Have you considered being a personal chef for a celebrity?” As if these are the easiest things in the world to do, and the only thing standing in your way is you hadn’t thought of it.
An ambitious person will naturally try to find opportunities for the unambitious one. She doesn’t understand that her unambitious friend doesn’t want those opportunities—in fact, the unambitious person feels that her ambitious friend is pressuring and annoying her.
When I do share my work with my parents, they do something that I know they think is helpful but is actually hurtful: they only talk about the things that need improvement. That’s it. They just talk about the things that are wrong or subpar. They believe they’re helping me, but imagine how that feels for me?
If you have a job you hate, every night, when you clock out, dread will set in. You won’t even enjoy your time off because you’ll just be busy counting the hours until you have to go back to work.
Sometimes the truth hurts...
There's a difference between saying you want to make it and actually trying to make it happen.
The ultimate case for taking a leap in your career and life in general? Often times, it brings us closer to whom we were always meant to be.