I know everyone says we need to stay out of women’s wombs, particularly those of celebrities, but Nia Long’s is one I’m about to jump in. In the November issue of Ebony, the expectant mother, who already has an 11-year-old son, discusses her current pregnancy. While she drops some pretty solid introspection on what it’s like to come into your own as a 40-year-old woman, when she speaks of her bun in the oven she says: “I honestly asked God for this.”
I was just a smidge confused. She continues:
“The medical [profession] tries to tell every woman, ‘Have your babies before 40 because you shouldn’t have children after 40. Society tells us, ‘Get married before 30, because no man wants a woman after 30.’
“You are not half the woman you’re gonna be until you turn 30. You’re not even half of that woman yet,” Long adds. “So I think if we’d just take our time as women, and do what comes natural to us and for us, we would make fewer mistakes.”
I was with Nia on the society says “get married before 30” thing, and not being half the woman you’re going to become until 30, but you asked God, the one who put that whole fornication rule out there, to allow you to have a baby with your partner (translation: not husband) Ime Udoka? And the whole doing what comes natural thing… that will get a lot of people in trouble. Natural doesn’t always lead to the best choice. Too many men and women are doing what comes naturally and populating the earth like there’s no tomorrow. They’re going with the flow rather than thinking beyond the moment of passion and suddenly are surprised when someone ends up pregnant.
I’m not going to call any child a mistake, and I can’t pretend to know Nia Long’s personal life beyond what she chooses to tell the media, but I just can’t rock with the whole premise of her argument. For the sake of the impressionable women out there who may think this is the path they want to take, open your Bible to 1 Corinthians 6:18-20.
Okay, I am (only partially) kidding. But in all seriousness, what do you think about Nia Long asking God for her out-of-wedlock baby?
Is she seriously blessed or is she delusional?
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Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
