It’s safe to agree that there are some idioms and outdated ways of thinking that hold us back, both individually and as a people. Similarly, these sayings can reinforce negative stereotypes and drive an unintended wedge between Black men and Black women. None of us want that to happen. And while we can easily flip this list of “10 Things Black Men Should Never Say To Black Women” into a list of “10 Things Black Women Should Never Say To Black Men,” there are certain circumstances that Black women experience more frequently when it comes to dating and relationships. Please note, this slideshow isn’t intended to blindly point fingers at Black men or to blame them for a host of issues that negatively affect Black women in particular. Nor is it directed at all Black men. This merely serves as a reminder that we can and should do better. And though you might have heard some of the items on this list before, they certainly bear repeating so that we can collectively squash them all together.