Bridezilla Porsha on her Marriage, her Weight and that Lace-Front
There have been studies that prove that black women are more comfortable with their bodies, even if they’re overweight by mainstream standards. What do you think that is?
I’m speaking for myself on this. This is the biggest I have ever been. And actually I do have a problem with my weight because I feel like I lack exercise. I would like to be smaller than what I am. But I do know a couple of people that are heavyset and they are fine with it. Because I’m like this right here, just because you are skinny and just because you wear what you wear, it doesn’t mean that you look good in it. I’ve seen skinny people and they had on a cute outfit but it looked bad on them. Versus a big woman, it’s showing stuff. It’s showing the curves, the butt, the angle and it actually looks better on big people than it does on little people. But the only thing that bothers me about little clothes and big clothes is when you have to pay extra for bigger size clothes.
There’s a rumor that men in the south prefer women who are bigger. Do you think that’s true?
My husband loves big women. Every girl that he has dated has been big boned. And actually every woman that he has dated is bigger than me. He doesn’t even consider me big, he said I’m just right. His baby mama, the one that I was talking about on the show, she is huge. Like for real, she’s like huge. He likes big woman and he is just so in love. That’s just him, he’s always liked big women. He said we’re soft, it’s always something to grab on. That what he says, he says he just like big women.
But he’s skinny and when he lays on me, his bones actually hurt me. I am not playing. I told him the other day, ‘you need to gain some weight because I can feel every bone in your body. And it actually hurts.’ He’s laying on me and I can see his bones!
Does he want to gain weight or does he just like for his women to be big?
He cannot…This man will eat you out of house and a home. No lie. I’m telling you, he can eat. Where does it go? I don’t know. If I eat it, I’m gaining weight. He’s been skinny all his life.
So he doesn’t want you to lose any weight?
I don’t know why because when we first got together, I wasn’t this size. I’ve gained a lot of weight since he and I have been together. At one point I was trying to work out and lose weight and you could start to see the change and he said I was going to get big-headed and want to wear the little stuff and I was going to eventually leave him. That’s what he said.
I told him I think it’s in the best interest for me to lose weight just to be better about me, about my stuff, about my self-esteem. I’m not saying I want to be a size 6 but I want to at least get down to a 14 or 16. I don’t want to be little.
Why do you want to get down to a 14 or 16?
That’s what I’m used to. Sometimes when I go out the house or go out to a club or something I won’t go because the way my outfit looks. I just get real depressed. You know like, ‘God I got to lose some more weight, this doesn’t look right.
