Your Man Should Not be the Center of Your Universe

It means being able to enjoy your own company; engaging and participating in activities because YOU are interested in them and knowing you’re worth even when not a single soul on Earth does.  For example, do you always have to be surrounded by friends or family to have fun?  Do you motivate yourself to pursue your passions and express yourself in the way you see fit even if others disapprove or don’t understand?  Exercising your independence can actually make you a better partner in a relationship.  By knowing what you want from life in general, you can better choose a relationship that compliments your lifestyle.  By building your own confidence, you can clearly see what you have to offer in a relationship and exactly what you deserve in return.

When a woman has a low self-esteem, she often doesn’t take the time to consider carefully what she wants from a relationship.  She can become so obsessed with being able to say, “I have a man,” that she doesn’t truly assess what she wants in that man.  Instead of determining what she wants from a relationship, she lets the relationship determine what she wants.  For example, in passing I come across a lot of women who feel the need to sacrifice what they want in a relationship in order to keep that relationship.  A good relationship requires compromise, not sacrifice.  Compromise involves the cooperation of both people to meet in the middle.  Sacrifice implies only one person gaining and the other person losing.  For example in an effort to be the “cool” girlfriend, many women allow men to walk right over them.  If you’re not being honest with yourself, no way in hell can you be honest with your man.  If you like a little romance, say so. You want him to call at least once a day to touch base, speak up.  You shouldn’t have to give up the things that make you happy and secure in a relationship to make things easier for him.