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Don’t like the way people treat you? Then change it. Yes, the power of how someone treats you is in your hands. You give people the permission to treat us a certain way. So if you are unsatisfied with the way you are treated at work, by your boss, co-workers, and/or clients then teach them to treat you the right way.
“You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don’t. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others’ behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot,” writes Dr. Phil.
Here are 9 tips on how to get treated the way you want to be.
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Are You Wearing An “S” On Your Shirt?
If you act like you are Superwoman, then people will treat you like you are. They will not be there to help you because you act like you can handle it all. So take off that tag and start reaching out to people for help and admit you can’t do it all.
“If you always have to be the hero (or shero) in the story, if you act as if you wear a big S on your chest and that you can leap tall buildings in a single bound, then people will treat you like Superwoman. And they will not be there when you need to be rescued,” writes Sophia Nelson in “The Woman Code” (via Business Insider).
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Know You, Do You
Don’t be afraid to be who you are in the office. Of course, leave religion and politics out of it. But let your co-workers understand that you have certain standards for yourself and your work and that they must respect that. If you value solitude when working, then tell people that’s what you need. If you value a more open working environment, then be reach out to your co-workers and invite them into your space.
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Draw A Line
You need to set limits in people and their behavior in how they interact with you. “Set boundaries. If you don’t have healthy boundaries, if you don’t rest, if you don’t take care of yourself, people will take advantage of you. You have to let people know that you honor yourself and that those who cause drama or seek to drain you will be removed quietly,” writes author Sophia Nelson in “The Woman Code.”
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Hold Yourself Accountable
Don’t put someone’s behavior all on them. Take responsibility for letting them behave a particular way with you. “Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want,” writes Dr. Phil. “If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling — and then get their way — you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior.”
Don’t reward bad behavior. If a co-worker has stepped over the line, correct the behavior and don’t accept it. Stay firm.
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Change Your Circle
Stop hanging out with emotionally abusive people at work. Change your circle. “Surround yourself with people who speak your ‘love language’,” reports The Huffington Post; people who make you “feel secure, valued.” If you are the type of worker who likes and pitch in and help others, then deal with co-workers who do the same.
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Look In The Mirror
People treat you the way you treat yourself. Boost your self-esteem by changing the way you talk to yourself.
“Your thoughts are your hidden weapon. You can choose to hurt yourself with stressful thoughts or to heal yourself with positive ones. Let’s start healing by changing the inner dialogue first,” reports Prolific Living.
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Self-Worth Is Key
You have to believe that you are worthy of being treated the way you want. If you know you do a great job and contribute to the success of the company, then believe that you are worthy of being treated as a valuable employee. As an asset to the firm.
“If you don’t think you are worthy of being treated with gentleness and kindness, you shall not be treated so. In fact, you will abuse yourself before anybody else gets a chance to do so. That’s the anatomy of self-sabotage,” explains Prolific Living. “Believing comes from inside you. It means you have to let go of the opposite thoughts – I am not worthy, I am worthless – before you can believe the new ones – I am worthy of love. I am worthy of happiness. I am worthy of being treated right.”
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Pat Yourself On The Back
Congratulate yourself when you do a good job. You don’t always have to be humble. While there is a fine line between being proud and arrogant, take credit for a great job.
“How do you treat yourself? The people who complain about others mistreating them rarely treat themselves right. They are harsh in criticizing their own actions, even if they are doing their best. They judge and punish themselves. They put themselves down in front of everyone,” reports Prolific Living. “Sometimes, they do this because it may send a message that they are unselfish and care about others. But it sends a totally different message and it’s not attractive at all.”
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Show Respect To Others
The old adage, treat others as you want to be treated applies. “Because respect is a two-way street, by respecting others, you will find yourself respected,” reports Wiki How. “Don’t ‘bad-mouth’ other people. If there is a problem, try addressing it directly with the person instead of talking behind their back…Trying to understand the other person’s views, even if it’s different from your own, does not mean you are agreeing with them, but it shows respect for their opinion.”
