If you’re looking for a relationship or at least a handful of good dates, it’s best to be able to spot a guy who just wants to hook up for the night so you know to stay away and not waste your time. Here are the signs to look out for.
He pressures you to drink
When he asks if you want another drink and you say, “No thanks. I’m done drinking for tonight” he says, “wack” and tries to guilt you into drinking more.
He describes you as “hot” or “sexy”
When a man hopes to get a date with you, he might tell you you’re cute or beautiful. But when a guy just comes out and tells you you’re sexy, he’s not putting on any airs: he wants to hookup tonight.
He avoids serious topics
He wont talk about anything personal, or even any non-personal subjects that are serious. He just wants to talk about partying. Or how fine you are.
He redirects you away from serious topics
When you bring up a personal topic, he says, “That’s cool” and redirects you back to a lighter topic.
He wants you to elaborate on scandalous stories
If you hint at a story about “experimenting” with your sorority sisters in college, or being promiscuous at all, he pushes you to elaborate on the story.
He is adamant about hanging out more tonight
You say you’re tired and need to go home, but he keeps pressuring you to hang out more that night. He won’t just accept your number and make plans for another day.
He tries to make out with you at the bar
He doesn’t just try to kiss you: he aggressively tries to make out with you and put his hands all over you in the bar.
His friends make no effort to get to know you
His friends aren’t trying to get to know you. Why should they? They know they won’t be seeing you again.
He makes no effort to talk to your friends
Why should he? He has no plans on seeing any of you again after tonight.
He’s looking you up and down
Don’t get me wrong: every guy wants to do that. But the ones who are hoping to actually date you resist the urge.
He’s texting someone else
While you’re talking, he is texting someone else, but being very sketchy about it, dodging questions about who it is. He’s probably lining up another potential hookup for that night.
He has sleazy friends
He has friends who are clearly trying to hook up with girls, constantly approaching girls, buying tons of girls drinks and overall acting sleazy.
He’s resistant to spend too much money on you. If you cab it to another bar together, he asks you for cash. He doesn’t want to order you food when you say you’re hungry. He asks for the well vodka in your drink.