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So you’ve been sharing your pillow with a salt and pepper head lately. Maybe your friends wonder what you see in an older guy. Maybe you wonder if you’d have more in common with someone your own age. But don’t focus on what you could have, and appreciate what you do! You’re enjoying these perks that your friends who are running around with twenty and thirty-something’s aren’t getting.
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He’s familiar with the G spot
It takes ages and (just face it) tons of women, before a man learns how to accurately and quickly locate the G spot on a new partner, almost every time. Younger guys think they deserve a medal when they first find it on a girl, only to go on to a new partner and realize they’re totally lost. But not older guys: they’ve got a map for these things.
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He’ll give you a cultured edge
Just by being around him you’ll become savvy about conversation topics that will impress your superiors at work, or potential clients, or people you’re trying to network with who are advanced in your line of work.
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He has connections
His friends aren’t in the hustling stage—they’re over that and they’re established now. They know who’s who in their line of work. His friend’s are a vast network of people who probably have the personal cell phone numbers and email addresses of people it’d be good for you to know.
He has time to support your career
He himself isn’t in the hustling stage. Dating a guy in his twenties or thirties means waiting up until 4 am for him to come to bed, as he slaves away on his business proposition/project for his boss/job applications. But your older gentleman is probably on autopilot with his work now and has more time to go to your events, listen to you vent about your boss and bounce ideas back and forth.
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He has great career advice
He can be your mentor! He’s already climbed the ladder: he knows what to do at each step. And he knows how people his age—like your superiors—think, and what they want to see.
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He has financial advice
While your friends are living paycheck to paycheck, fumbling around with odd investments and dipping their toes in bonds, your older boyfriend knows the financial ropes. He probably has a seasoned financial advisor he can recommend to you, and can guide you in building financial security for yourself.
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He has time to try new things
He has the resources—both money and time since he doesn’t do much grunt work anymore—to take trips with you, go out on weeknights for drinks, maybe even take an afternoon off work here or there.
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He knows what gifts women want
Poor younger guys: when it comes to buying a woman gifts, they’re stumped. Expect a lot of cheesy lingerie from men in their twenties and thirties. But older men know how to pick out a gift that will make you feel appreciated, noticed, and like a woman.
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He knows what buttons not to push
Not only does an older man know how to make you happy, but he also knows how to avoid pissing you off—something younger men are clueless about. Older men have learned to recognize the changes in a woman’s moods and dispositions, how to calm her down, how to cheer her up, when to walk away and when to give her tough love.
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He’s comfortable with himself
Realistically most of us are still figuring out who we are into our thirties, and not only is it a roller coaster to date a guy who doesn’t know who he is yet, it’s also not very attractive. But an older man is secure in who he is. He isn’t trying all sorts of styles/friends/haircuts/hobbies/drugs/careers in search of his identity. He’s fully developed, and that’s so calming to be around.
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He won’t be staying out til 2 am
Not only does he not have the stamina to hang out until 2 am, he doesn’t have the desire to be running around hoards of 20-year-olds. Plus, his friends are married—they’re not allowed out all night. So no worrying what he’s up to either.
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He’ll make you feel like a trophy in a good way
Face it: you’ll always be the more attractive one when you’re the younger one. You’ll feel like your body is tight, your skin is glowing, and your stamina shines through.
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He’s over his bachelor stage
It takes men a few decades to realize the true value of a partner—of someone to share your life with, your time with, your thoughts with, your feelings with and so on. Your older boyfriend doesn’t have men telling him it’s “lame” to have a girlfriend. They’re making him jealous with their happy marriages! He wants a serious relationship now.
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His friends have wives
His buddies are probably all married, meaning you’ll become friends with his friend’s wives, who will have invaluable insight into men and relationships.
