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The world of technology has made everything so accessible. There are endless avenues to opportunity and industries that were once exclusive are now wide open. The overnight success of many entertainers and addictive reality shows have spawned a generation of faux-lebrities and pseudo-stars. Women are not measured by their talent but butt and bosom. Music videos have set the expectation for women to look like the props they call “models.” So we have young women walking around wearing outrageous fake eyelashes, Pocahontas weaves and ridiculously fitted mini-dresses after regular visits to Wal-Mart and Dairy Queen.
Women like to feel desired. When women look in the mirror, they love feeling Hot. Yes, men drool over the women in music videos. But, in the end, how many rings do you see on the fingers of overdone Black Barbies? Sexiness is not defined by wearing things that are ultra-revealing and tight. If you or a friend is suffering from a case of VGS, I suggest taking a few minutes in the mirror to talk with yourself – and heeding to the following:
Question 1: Do I look cheap?
If you have to pause, well…you know. Class, defined by an elegant and dignified appearance, is of the utmost importance—especially for a woman. No one needs to see every curve, and there should definitely be more material showing than skin. Buy clothing your size or slightly bigger and choose pieces that fit your shape, personality and the image you want to portray.
Question 2: Are my fake eyelashes and long weave too much?
Probably. Unless you were born without eyelashes, all you need on a daily basis is a touch of mascara. TMZ is not following you, so there’s no need to put on the full mask for a mall run.
Question 3: How much do I love myself with no makeup in sweats and a t-shirt?
It’s always good to do a gut check and make sure you like the woman beneath it all. Make sure your confidence comes from within not what you put on.
Question 4: Who am I really dressing for?
Is it the men you see women doting over at the club? Is it the women you feel are a threat to your attention? What you wear should be about you. You should feel comfortable, pretty and confident. Women who don’t try too hard or dress to accommodate what others think tend to receive more genuine compliments.
Question 5: Is attention about quality or quantity when it comes to what I want?
Are you more concerned with having a bunch of guys throw you lines or being approached by a select few well-intentioned and thoughtful men? Modesty and class are appreciated by well-intentioned men, but there are less of them and they take a little longer to approach women than the abundance of overly eager, hormone-driven, problematic men.
For more about LaShaun Williams, please visit ‘Politically Un-apologetic’ at www.politicallyunapologetic.wordpress.com
