Are You a Coloracist?

The two daughters whom she adored: one ended up a baby-mamma by two different men who abandoned her and the children. My mother is past retirement age, but is still working to support my sister and her children (and the unemployed, drug-addicted boyfriends that my sister brings into the household). My sister hates my mother, verbally abuses her, steals from her to give to her boyfriends. She is a true monster. The other sister is not a monster but she would be a baby-mamma several times over had she not had several abortions. The 2 light-skinned brothers that she worshiped don’t even call or send a card on her birthday or on mother’s day; they visit her only when they want to borrow money or need free baby-sitting for their light-skinned children, who are also colorist and do not like or respect my mother.

I love my mother (I wish I didn’t), but I don’t feel sorry for her. Her colorism made her an unbelievably cruel woman to me and my darker skinned siblings. Black colorists are no better than white racists and I refuse to have close personal relationships with both types of people.

This conversation is long overdue.  Next week I talk about how coloracists devalue dark-skinned sisters and elevate women of a lighter hue in dating, mating and marriage.

Wait till I tell you about a tweet from a “rapper”  I caught wind of a few weeks ago.

Christelyn D. Karazin founder and organizer of “No Wedding, No Womb,” an initiative to find solutions to the 72 percent out-of-wedlock rate in the black community.  She is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate Mixing Race Culture and Creed and runs a blog, www.beyondblackwhite.com, dedicated to women of color who are interested and or involved in interracial and intercultural relationships.