So you’ve been dating your man for a few weeks and he’s finally deemed you worthy to meet his friends. He’s probably been ditching them on Guy’s Night Out so that he can stay home and cuddle with you, so they want to meet this magical woman who has their boy whipped. And since things must be going well between you to the point where he wants you to meet his friends, he may want their opinion of you to see if it goes any further. While I’m sure you’ve decided that you’ll be your charming self, he may misconstrue you being “overly friendly” as flirting, so you have to be careful when making first impressions. If you’re a little nervous or unsure of the fine line that you should not cross when meeting his friends for the first time, here are a few things to keep in mind when hanging with his people.
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1. Don’t Discuss Sex, Marriage, Children
Unless your man brings up marriage or children – which I’m sure he probably WON’T when he’s around his friends – you don’t bring it up either. The last thing you should do is make him feel uncomfortable by discussing future plans in front his friends when you two probably haven’t even discussed them in private yet. And even if you have, the first meeting with his friends – like the first date – is not the time to bring it up. Also, discussing sex (unless you’re playing Truth or Dare or something), might be a little awkward. Keep sexual conversations between you and your man – at least initially.
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2. Don’t Flirt
If you’re natural flirt, you may want to reel it in when meeting his male friends…or you’ll run the risk of making your man jealous and angry. Being charming is one thing, but being overly friendly or touchy-feely is going a bit overboard. You don’t want to dress too provocatively or overdo it on the makeup either. You might want to make your man look good by being “pretty,” but you don’t want to be “Hot,” so ask him for his input on what’s appropriate to wear for where you’re going. The last thing your boyfriend needs is his friends talking about the slory chick he’s dating.
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3. Don’t Talk Too Much…or Too Little
Let’s face it, we women can talk…a lot…about anything. So can men, but typically men don’t chat endlessly or gossip about the latest reality TV show. They talk about women, sports and sex – that’s it – so follow your man’s lead and talk about things that may be of interest to them. If there are women there, the conversation may flow a little easier, but if you’ll only be among men and are uncomfortable, it wouldn’t hurt to do your research so you’ll be prepared for the meeting. For example, are you meeting at a sports bar? Strike up a conversation about the game or a particular player. If you don’t know anything about sports, ask them to explain the game to you. Ask your boyfriend questions about his friends so that you’ll know something about them and their individual interests. Whatever you do, don’t monopolize the conversation (you’ll be annoying or nosy), or sit their silent making his friends wonder if you’re a snob or have an attitude. Keep it easy and natural and watch your man for clues – he’ll let you know if you’re doing too much.
4. Don’t Overdo It With the PDA
He may be your “snuggle bear” in private, but don’t call him by any pet names in front of his boys – you’re just asking for trouble. Also, excessive hugging, kissing, cooing and any other form of PDA is simply embarrassing, and you may subject him to endless teasing from his friends to the point where he may resent you for it. Sure, he might love being your “love bunny” when it’s just the two of you, but men want to be MEN in front of their boys, and calling him your “cuddle muffin” might make him feel like a child. Don’t do it – save all your boo lovin’ for the house so that his friends won’t disapprove of his clingy girlfriend.
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5. Do Be Yourself
Most women know that meeting her man’s friends for the first time is a big deal – for the both of you – so it’s understandable that you want to make a good impression. Don’t over-think it. Simply breathe, relax and be your lovely self. Men can spot a phony a mile away, so trying to be someone you’re not will only make you appear insincere and lower their opinion of you. Your man has probably talked you up already and told them how amazing you are, so just be your genuine self. Men tend to be a bit more laid back when meeting their friend’s love interests, so be confident and be the best version of yourself you can possibly be…and they’ll love you.
