Ladies, Has It Been Awhile? 6 Ways to Take the ‘Edge’ Off

March 24, 2012  |  
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We’ve all been there. One minute we’re beating a man (or men) off with a stick, the next – we’re dried up like the Sahara. Sexual droughts happen, and while a little bout of celibacy never hurt anyone, a dry spell can leave us scratching like Pookie in New Jack City. Some say that a dry spell is a good time to get in touch with ourselves, reflect on past relationships, delve deeper into our spirituality or simply make more “me time.”  After all, sex isn’t “everything.” But what do you do when hormones are raging and there’s no man in sight?

Try indulging in some of these activities to help take the edge off…

1. Play with “Toys”

Nothing says “self love” like a visit to your nearest sex toy shop or website. Host a pleasure party, inviting your girlfriends over for a little fun while stocking up on some goodies to hold you over until you meet a man worthy of YOUR goodies. Keeping B.O.B. handy saves you from making desperate midnight booty calls to that no-good dude you swore you’d never call again. B.O.B never disappoints…and he’s disease free.

2. Get a Massage

Personally, I’d prefer a good hot stone massage over sex any day – but that’s just me. Something about warm hands on skin with scented oils and aromatherapy candles can send any woman into paradise. A good body rub calms the senses, and can ease sexual tension. It’s sensual without being sexual, and just as relaxing as sex – and you don’t have to feel guilty for just lying there. You can even take a nap!

3. Hit the Hot Tub or a Sauna

Okay, so maybe paying someone for a deep tissue massage isn’t in the budget – but if you belong to a gym with a hot tub or a sauna, treat yourself to that little luxury instead. Heat, steam, water, wet skin…it’s all as intoxicating and hypnotizing as sex can be.

4. Work Out!

For some women, working out is about as enjoyable as getting a root canal. But busting a sweat doesn’t have to be painful, you just have to move. Having sex is actually a form of exercise, so if you don’t mind perspiring between the sheets, try an activity that will give you the same invigorating feeling. Rock a spin class, go for a brisk walk or jog, or try kickboxing. And if you’re really bold, hire that fine trainer at the gym so you can get some one-on-one attention while getting healthy at the same time. Working out releases pent up stress and gives off the same “feel good” endorphins that sex does – and you’ll be in love with your new body, not sex crazed.

5. Play a Sport or Go to a Sporting Event

Along the same lines as working out, taking part in an extreme sport like skiing or snowboarding, or simply attending a sporting event, can really get your adrenaline going. It has been hypothesized that people with high sex drives are also prone to play or enjoy sports because of its intense physical nature, so join your company’s softball league for the spring. The climax comes in the form of watching your team score on the field…you know…since you can’t score in the bed.

6. Go to a Concert, an Amusement Park or a Scary Movie

Okay, so none of these may seem like a good substitute for sex…at first, but believe it or not, all of these activities get your heart rate up and make you scream. Sound familiar? Screaming, yelling, jamming, jumping…all of this is a form of release. Hit a rock concert, hop a roller coaster or check Fandango for thrillers at your local theater – and sing or scare yourself silly! Grab some friends, or a cute guy, and hold on tight! The rush will leave you satisfied and hold you over, even if only for a little while.

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