7 Tips For Surviving The Holidays With Your Dysfunctional Family - Page 2

2. Keep Conversations Light

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This may seem impossible in the wake of the recent presidential election, but if you don’t want your dinner table to turn into a boxing match (verbally or otherwise), it’s worth considering keeping conversations neutral for everyone’s sanity. This may seem counterintuitive to those of us with strong political views, but if you want to avoid a screaming match, it’s wise to steer clear of any topic that will stir strong emotions. I try to remember that the primary purpose of coming together with loved ones during the holidays is to connect and create shared memories that build up our emotional reserves and strengthen family bonds. If someone chooses to start preaching about a topic that will stir strong emotions, you can choose not to participate. For example, if asked about your opinion, simply say, “I’ve decided not to join in any discussions about xx” and leave it at that. If that doesn’t work, it’s perfectly reasonable to take a break and come back once your blood pressure returns to normal.