12 Shocking Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Sex Life - Page 2

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2. Minimize Cuddling

Cuddling triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone produced in the hypothalamus and released by the pituitary gland. Often referred to as the “love hormone,” oxytocin plays a key role in childbirth and promotes positive feelings similar to endorphins and serotonin, Harvard Health notes. It has been shown to reduce stress and anxiety and positively influence social behaviors, such as relaxation, trust, and psychological stability. However, some health experts suggest that excessive cuddling can lead to an overstimulated sympathetic nervous system, which may result in feelings of apathy, boredom, or dissociation.

In essence, maintaining a certain distance is crucial for preserving the eroticism in relationships. Natasha Silverman, a sex and relationship therapist at Relate, emphasizes the importance of communicating with your partner about your need for space versus the times when intimacy is appropriate

“It’s a really unhealthy cycle for both people and it can feel very emotionally damaging for the person who needs more connection,” Silverman said.

The sex guru reassured that feeling smothered by your partner is a normal experience and not something to worry about. She emphasized that achieving the right balance between love and intimacy is essential for both partners to feel valued and understood.

“You’re not broken and the relationship is probably OK – you’re going through a very normal process,” Silverman added.