2011 will unfortunately be known to many as the year when “Heauxs Were Winning.” The public watched Basketball “wives” snag baller after baller and witnessed countless rappers wife up video vixens and booty models. Comment sections across the world-wide web were stampeded by readers holding their college degrees and dignity high above their heads like swords. In shock and horror, they questioned how these men were overlooking sophisticated, educated women to flaunt big bootied brainless beauty queens on their arms. (Of course we assumed that if a woman’s biggest claim to fame is a KING magazine cover, she automatically has to be an idiot).
What many women failed to question was A) Were these women as clueless or uncouth as we assumed they were? B) Whether or not these men placed as much value on class, sophistication and education as some of their female counterparts and C) Why are so many of us attracted to men whose priorities in a potential mate include fat booty, frying chicken, and freak in the sheets?
This got me thinking that although many women think they know what men want, it’s more likely that we’ve created an idea of what we think men SHOULD want. Some of the things that we value in relationships and sex simply don’t matter much to some men, and men desire completely different things from a woman based on whether a relationship is solely sexual or soul mate material. The quicker more women understand this, the sooner they too will be “winning.”
What you are about to read is a written account based on what I as a woman have witnessed from the values expressed by a variety of men. If you are truly interested in what a man values in a woman, try asking one.
1. A College Degree
In no way am I telling you to trade in your Bachelor’s for some booty shorts, but I am willing to bet that when Drake laid eyes on Maliah, the last thing he was asking himself was if she could recite all the elements on the periodic table from memory. Most men don’t want a brainless beauty for a wife (and you probably aren’t trying to lock down one who does) but they are visual creatures and what we woman have to understand is that if it’s 1:45 am in the club, that man whose been eye-humping you all night probably isn’t looking for his Mrs. Right as much as he is looking for Mrs. Right Now. For some reason, many woman like to use their education as a reason why they are more wifey material than the girl dropping it low in so and so’s video. And hopefully you’re struggling through that Calculus class because you know it will give you a better chance at a successful future and not just the next eligible bachelor. An education is a valuable asset, but it doesn’t guarantee you a good man over the girl dancing for dollars.