MAFS: Why Is Erik Always Talking About Ending The Marriage?
Erik and Virginia
Erik’s behavior may seem slight. But it really is problematic. And I don’t know how things would get better with him going forward. He doesn’t know how to communicate or argue. I can’t understand why every single conflict in the relationship ends with him threatening to leave or telling Virginia she can leave.
He picked a whole fight about Virginia’s dog, just to say she could leave. Like, what was the reason of talking trash about her dog? Why would you ever make her feel like she has to choose between you and the dog that’s been an emotional support to her for years? It is controlling. People online are even suggesting that Erik’s behavior might reflect some abusive tendencies on his part.
He’s controlling—wanting to know where Virginia is—but not texting her to inquire, is ridiculous. Erik wants to know her every move: controlling. Makes grand gestures and pretends their relationship is perfect: love bombing. Then acts like Virginia is the problem: gaslighting.
The fact that he told her he always gets hurt when he’s the one lashing out is troubling. And Virginia feeling like she’s changed as a virtue of being married and is the only one required to make sacrifices is telling.
