“I’m An Entrepreneur”
Take this one with a grain of salt, because for many folks, being an entrepreneur is a legitimate way of life. Real entreprenuers have profitable businesses or profitable ideas that are helping to substantiate their livelihood. My ex’s career path was shaky, to say the least. I never really understood how he made his money, but he had a lot of it (at times)—and a lot of LLCs too. I know for me personally, having a partner who has dependable, understandable income is important for not only my personal taste, but for the relationship. A lot of men tie their finances to their ability to be a good partner in a relationship–so when a man isn’t confident in his provider abilities, taking care of you emotionally and physically goes out the window. So when money was good, my ex was good. But when it wasn’t, his ability to be good to me plummeted. Money is too fickle of a thing to depend your relational health on, but he never managed to be able to “grind” and “love me” simultaneously. In the beginning, I was hesitant around the idea he wasn’t a “bi-weekly check” having man, but in retrospect, that isn’t something I can compromise on in the future.