During last week’s episode of Love and Hip Hop Atlanta, Kirk Frost revealed that he was having direct contact with Jasmine Washington, the mother of his son, Kannon, so that they could successfully co-parent. The problem with this is, he didn’t tell wife Rasheeda up front that they had each other’s numbers and were talking, and Jasmine is the woman that he stepped outside of their marriage with.
For Rasheeda, she wanted there to be a middle man for them to be able to co-parent and for Kirk to not have much contact with Jasmine at all. That person was initially his daughter Kelsie for some time before she said she didn’t want the responsibility any more. Jasmine, her mother and grandmother also told Kirk that they needed to communicate directly with one another.
On this week’s episode, while in Trinidad, Rasheeda found out, but not because he told her. While asking to use his phone to take a picture because hers was dead, she saw his correspondences with Jasmine and confronted him about it. She was pretty upset because though he said he just started speaking with her, he didn’t tell Rasheeda when that decision was made.
“It’s not easy for me to think about my husband communicating with the woman he had an affair with,” she said in a confessional. “I asked for complete honesty in this situation. Him not telling me that Jasmine has his number and they’re communicating makes me sit here and wonder, hmm, what else is your a– hiding?”
However, Kirk thought she was being a tad immature.
“Me having your number, if something is wrong with your son, you don’t want me to get in contact with you?”
“Y’all got this far without having each other number cause anytime she ‘needs something or wants something’ she hit Kelsie,” she said in response. “But here’s my thing, if that’s a decision you’re going to make, you should talk to me about that sh-t. It makes me feel like, damn, I’m looking and she’s texting you, I don’t know about it, that makes me not trust you.”
When Rasheeda spoke to the women on the trip about it (Mimi, Shekinah and Bambi), they agreed that Kirk was being ridiculous by not telling her; specifically Bambi, whom we all now know isn’t interested in husband Scrappy and Erica, the mother of his daughter, communicating. She didn’t even like the idea of Jasmine hitting up Kirk when their son allegedly wasn’t feeling good.
“Like me and my husband, we live in the same house,” Bambi said. “If my baby is sick, I’m not calling him while he’s at the studio, I’m going to take care of my f–king baby.”
“I’ve yet to have a conversation with Erica,” she added. “What we have going works.”
Interesting opinions all around. However, they all sound petty in my opinion. It is true that Kirk should have kept Rasheeda in the know once the plans changed. While she may have been somewhat salty about it, as long as she knew the situation and been made privvy to communication, she would just have to deal with it. So yes, she had a reason to be upset.
However, this is what comes with choosing to stay with someone who has a child outside of your relationship. It’s a messy situation, but once a child is involved it can no longer be about your feelings and insecurities. It has to be about what’s best for the kid. The fact that anyone expected Kirk and Jasmine to have to go through two and three family members to talk about whatever they need to is crazy. He needs to speak with the mother of his child, she needs to speak to him, and Rasheeda needs to get over it or go on her merry way (which many people think she should have done long ago).
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