A friend of mine recently hit it off with a man who just so happens to live a three-hour plane ride away. That’s okay, sort of, because he has offered to fly her out, put her up in a hotel, and get her a rental car during her stay, all so he can see her. It sounds like a dream, right? But I cautioned her against taking the trip. I can’t help but question the personality and motives of a man ready to drop a couple of grand on someone he *met for 45 minutes*. I, personally, dated a couple of men who were wealthy enough to do things like that and I found one thing common amongst them: they used their money to control the situation. Okay, honestly: they used it to try to control me. I’m not saying that all wealthy men are controlling, but those who are quick to use their money to make things go their way (like this man wanting to fund my friend’s visit) can be. Here are gross ways wealthy men use their money to control the relationship.
Buying the trip and controlling it
In the case of my friend, I can tell her that I took a trip like that once, and quickly found that the guy was annoyed that I’d looked up sights I wanted to see and things I wanted to do. He clearly felt that he’d paid for the trip so he’d be the one planning our activities. I was essentially just a companion he’d bought.