Signs He Loves That You’re Strong And Ambitious
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If you are independent, ambitious, and strong, then you need a partner who loves and celebrates those things about you. It sounds obvious, right? But you’d be surprised how many women who are those things wind up with men who wish they were demure, submissive, and codependent. There are certainly plenty of men who want women to be that way, so it’s no surprise a few poor souls wind up with men like that. Many men, sadly, cannot feel strong themselves if their partner is also strong. They’re trained to want women who just live for them and have no lives of their own. I once dated a man who so clearly didn’t celebrate my pursuits and my goals. He just wanted me home to have dinner with him at 6pm—he didn’t want me out networking or working late. That relationship didn’t last long. It couldn’t—I have things I want to accomplish on this planet and I need a man who supports that. Here are signs your partner loves that you are strong and ambitious.
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When opportunities come up on date night…
You had date night scheduled, but then you were offered an amazing career opportunity that would mean date night is rescheduled. Your partner implores you to take the opportunity. He doesn’t make you feel guilty. He doesn’t think about how this affects him: he just thinks about what a great opportunity it is for you.
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He brags about you
He takes every chance he gets to brag about you. If you’re out with friends and someone asks how things are with you, you give a brief, humble answer. Your partner swoops in and says, “She’s being modest. She has SO much going on!” And then he tells them what you’ve got going on.
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He seeks opportunity for you
He’s often on the lookout for opportunities for you. If he meets someone who could help you in your career, he gets their contact info and passes it along to you. If he learns of an event that could be beneficial for you, he grabs a flier and gives it to you.
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He thinks about your business, on his own
Sometimes, he calls you out of the blue and has an idea for you. He’s regularly coming up with suggestions for how you can do more of what you love or how you can improve your work (in a positive feedback way—not a negative way). He’s that excited for you and about your work.
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When his friends joke he needs a “wifie”
His friends often joke that he needs a real wifie who is home early and makes him dinner. He doesn’t think those jokes are funny. He tells them—proudly—that he likes what you’re about. He isn’t trying to turn you into a housewife.
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He understands chores fall to the wayside
He understands that sometimes, because you are so busy going after your dreams, the laundry won’t get done on time and the dishes will pile up. He is patient (enough) about those things because he’s glad you’re out there doing your thing. He knows pursuing goals is more important than having a spotless apartment.
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He even helps with some chores
In fact, he helps pull some of your weight around the apartment when you’re just so swamped with work that you can’t do your chores. You also do the same when he’s really busy with work, because you’re a team that supports your respective dreams and want to help in any way you can.
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He promotes your stuff
He’ll promote your stuff on social media. He’ll tell someone they should hire you. He’s like your unofficial publicist or manager. He believes in what you do, so why wouldn’t he promote you?
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He asks engaged questions
He asks engaged, intelligent, and thoughtful questions about your day and your work. He doesn’t just ask the obligatory, “How was your day?” then wait for you to stop talking before he changes the subject. He continues the conversation by asking more questions.
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He’s happy to help you prepare
If you need to prepare for a meeting or a presentation, he’s happy to help you prepare. It’s okay if you spend a part of date night running your presentation by him.
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He finds ways to re-energize you
He knows you work hard, so he’s always looking for little ways to re-energize you. That could be by booking you a surprise massage or a little weekend getaway.
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When you feel discouraged, he lifts you up
Some days, you don’t believe in yourself. Some days, you want to quit. He won’t let that happen. While some men who want you to be more codependent might say, “Yeah, it’s a good idea…give it a rest,” your guy says, “You’re not giving up! You’ve come so far!”
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He loves your independent friends
Your independent and strong friends are his favorite friends of yours. Typically, men who want you to be more submissive and codependent are intimidated by your strong friends, but your man loves them.
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He backs you up with your parents
Your parents aren’t always as supportive as you wish they were. They can question you as to why you aren’t making more money or why things aren’t moving faster in your career. Your partner is the first person to swoop in and—gently but firmly—tell them how much you’re actually killing it out there.
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He tells you all of the time
You know he loves how strong and ambitious you are because he tells you every day. Those are the traits he praises in you. He finds you most attractive when you’re doing your thing.
