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When my boyfriend and I decided to stop using condoms about a year ago, I was prepared for some aspects of that change. Some things came as a surprise, like realizing we needed a new system for dealing with the, eh-em, mess that happens at the end of sex. Most of the side effects and consequences were funny, and easily dealt with. But there was one thing I wasn’t prepared for: just how much my partner would have to say about the pill. The pill—for the record—is our new form of birth control. We did not resort to the rather unscientific and dangerous pull-out method. I wouldn’t leave such a major thing as pregnancy-prevention to something as unreliable as that. So, I take the pill. I’ve taken the pill before. I know what I’m doing. My boyfriend, however, has a lot of concerns, questions and—sometimes—judgments that I’d love to address. To men everywhere: here are tips for your relationship with the pill.
I’m not reckless if I forget to take it
I got really angry when my boyfriend got angry with me for forgetting to take the pill one day. It was a particularly hectic day—I believe I’d received news of my dad going to the hospital for a cardiac event—and I wasn’t quite as on it as I normally am. But, fellas, don’t treat your partner as reckless and irresponsible if she forgets the pill a couple times a year. Every woman does.
