There’s this difficult, awkward, and even painful thing that can happen when you divorce a man with whom you have children: one person becomes the rich parent and one becomes the poor (or at least less rich) parent. When you were together, you had joint resources. Every birthday gift, piano lesson, or vacation with a present from both mom and dad. The child never compared who spoiled him more because you and your partner spoiled the kid together. Even if you didn’t technically spoil him (and hopefully you didn’t, really), when you treated your child to something special, it came from both parents. Once you divorce, you’re mostly back to your separate assets. You may receive alimony or have gotten some of your ex’s money in a divorce, but things will level back out. Here’s what can happen if you’re divorced, and your ex has more money to spoil the kids.
Pressure to make great meals
You feel a lot of pressure to make meals really well. Your heart sinks if the kids mention the fish being overcooked or there not being a special dessert. You know their dad just takes them to restaurants where they can have whatever they want, but you can’t afford that.