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Most people who have gotten back with an ex can tell you a long, detailed, drawn-out story of how they get back together, why they got back together, all the grand plans they had of doing things the right way this time around, and ultimately realizing that they’re still two people who aren’t right for each other. But truly, no matter their particular story or the exact reasons they worked/didn’t work and the detailed ways they hurt each other, all getting-back-with-the-ex stories sound pretty much the same. That’s because our brain goes through a series of steps when considering re-making the same old mistake. There’s a lot of deliberating, justifying, punishing him, and punishing yourself. Sometimes getting back with an ex works but that’s an exception to the rule. Here are the many stages of getting back with an ex.
Complaining to friends
He reaches out and won’t stop bothering you. You start to complain to your friends about it—a lot. Most of the time you see them, you tell them about the recent annoying messages the ex has been sending. You’re re-hashing the breakup and the relationship, all over again.
